A Sample of Joan Wheeler’s General Contempt
A sample of Joan Wheeler’s general contempt.
Post by: —— on December 18, 2010, 03:07:25 PM
but because Ive always wanted to adopt”
I am seeing this sentiment more and more, and it makes me sick. Especially when an adoptee says this. What the fuck is wrong with people? Im seeing this on Y!A and in blogland. In my opinion, blogland people should know better- they read about the corruption and fraud, yet still think it’s ok. Or, most likely, they just don’t give a shit.
I have a special disdain for people who adopt “just because they want to”. Of course, a purchased child won’t solve an infertile’s issues, either, but Jesus- if you can make people, why buy one?
Post by: 1adoptee on December 18, 2010, 03:37:29 PM
Submitted by Lisa on 2011/08/24 at 7:55 am
Bravo get your message out there. We have many adopted members in our family, some from foster care, some new born and some adopted by step parents. Not one is angry as some of these angry adoptees are. Thank goodness. What a waste of time, life is to short to be so angry. Your sister needs psychological help.
thank you Lisa
You say: ” so she (Joan) will never be happy in life. A birth certificate won’t give that to her.
Joan already HAS her original birth certificate. Her adoptive parents were given the original birth and baptismal certificates when they adopted Joan. And they in turn gave them to Joan. But she is STILL angry. She is STILL a bitter person, and she will NEVER be happy, because she fails to realize that, yes, she was given a bad break in life (as she percieves her adoption as such), and she fails to realize that shit happens. So after a fair amount of self-pity and self-love, people say to themselves, well, that’s that. And GET ON WITH LIFE!
And most people don’t do and say stupid things to make other people mad at them. And if they do, they TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR OWN WORDS AND DEEDS and NOT BLAME OTHERS.
I’ve said it before on my blog – Joan lost her birth family once through no fault of her own – when she was adopted in 1957, She found them when they opened their hearts to her. She lost them a second time in the 1980′s and 1990′s through EVERY fault of her own – because of her interfering, her lies, her thefts, her anger and rage, her subjecting people to verbal abuse, her soap-opera schemes of phoning in false police and child abuse reports, calling people’s places of employment to get them fired, writing stupid letters to elected officials and freely giving out people’s personal and medical histories.all the while screaming for HER privacy!
Joan has been in therapy for more than 30 years – and it isn’t working. I’ve also said it before – I tried in the past to help Joan with her many issues, and all I got for my efforts was to get kicked in the teeth time and time again. I can’t help her with her anger issues, but I also won’t sit around and take her angry abuse any more. I took it for 10 years. And when I refused to play the doormat any further, she set out to punish me with her harassing soap opera schemes. I suffered through another 10 years of garbage from her, then have to read this stupid book full of more shit. And to read on the internet twisted versions of MY childhood and outright lies about me and members of my family.
Joan can take her anger and her lies and shove them where the sun don’t shine. Because we are taking back what she tried to steal from us – OUR LIVES! Joan has no life. Or should I say, a life that is happy and productive. She is stuck in time-warp – she bitterly resents being adopted and wants so desperately to go back in time and change that. She doesn’t want to be a Wheeler. She wants to be a Sippel. She cannot accept the fact that she was adopted and CEASED TO BE A SIPPEL AND A MEMBER OF OUR FAMILY IN 1957. Even though we reunited with her in 1974 and tried to integrate her into our family, Joan couldn’t do it. She couldn’t accept us as the people we were as adults. She had and still has this fantasy that we are as we were in 1957 – and suffering from HER adoption – that our lives are shit because she was taken away from us. And nothing could be further than the truth. Yes, we missed her and wanted to reunite with her. That’s why we searched for her and found her. And we accepted her FOR THE PERSON SHE WAS IN 1974, NOT THE BABY SHE WAS WHEN WE LAST SAW HER.
Joan is stuck in the fantasy of what ifs. What if our mother hadn’t died. What if she wasn’t adopted. What if she had grown up with us. While a bit of fantastical daydreaming on these issues is acceptable, trying to change HER life by taking over OUR childhoods is NOT acceptable. Then she further compounded the problem by refusing to accept us as people with our own feelings and opinions and rights to decide what is right in OUR lives. She doens’t like something that we do, she starts badgering us and arguing with us. When we tell her to shut up and leave us alone – she can’t accept the fact that we will not be dictated to. Or live OUR lives the way SHE wants us to. So she punishes us for being who we are – happy, well-adjusted people, who deal with life’s problems.
And when she does see that we are happy and well-adjusted WITHOUT her, she does her soap-opera schemes to make sure we are as miserable as she is. And while she has caused us pain, she has NOT been able to change us. And this sticks in her craw. Because we are able to continue to have happy well-adjusted lives WITHOUT her.
Joan Wheeler is a contempible person – and she has brought it all on herself – by her own words and deeds. I dont’ feel sorry for her one dam bit.