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Childhood Behavior and Self control

by on August 25, 2011
Child Behavior from TIME February 7, 2011
I found this article very fascinating. I wonder why Joan Wheeler, in telling HER life story, NEVER talks much about her childhood! She begins her life story from about her teens years and doesn’t give much details about her early years. The only time she mentions her very early years is in relationship to the ‘retelling’  and fabrications about the death of our mother. The reason that Joan doesn’t tell us about her early childhood behavior is because, for her, to tell the story about ‘the secret is out’ and about ‘the forbidden family’ she has to tell her story FROM WHEN SHE WAS FOUND. Anything before that time is meaningless, to Joan, unless she is attempting to show how tramatized she has been for being adopted. Of course she has lots to say about the birth siblings faults but never anything about her own faults. Too bad that Joan Wheeler can’t put her own behavior under a microscope as she has done to us, the birth family.
How many of Joan Wheeler’s charactor traits can we see in this article? Does Joan Wheeler response well to family interventions? Nope!
before we continue I want to share my new sites

Joan has in 2015 self published a revised edition of her lies…so please take a look…and NOW

Here is the article:
Self-control: the key to health and wealth
Every kid throws temper tantrums and behaves implusively once in a while. But new research suggests that a lack of self-control during youth may predict health problems, less financial stability and a criminal record by adulthood.
In a survey of more than 1,000 children who were studied from birth to age 32, scientists found that kids who scored lowest on measures of self-control – those who were more impulsive and easily frustrated and had the most trouble with delaying gratification or waiting their turn in line – were roughly three times as likely by adulthood to report having multiple health problmes and addictions, earning less than $20,000 a year, becoming a single parent or committing a crime than kids with the most self-control.
The good news is that self-control can be learned. Children in the study who improved self-control on their own as they grew older reported fewer health and criminal behavior problems than those who remained impulsive. So school and family interventions that teach kids to self-regulate early on may lead to healtheir and more stable adults.
Submitted by Ruth on 2011/08/25 at 11:49 am

“She begins her life story from about her teens years and doesn’t give much details about her early years. The only time she mentions her very early years is in relationship to the ‘retelling’ and fabrications about the death of our mother. The reason that Joan doesn’t tell us about her early childhood behavior is because, for her, to tell the story about ‘the secret is out’ and about ‘the forbidden family’ she has to tell her story FROM WHEN SHE WAS FOUND. Anything before that time is meaningless, to Joan, unless she is attempting to show how tramatized she has been for being adopted. Of course she has lots to say about the birth siblings faults but never anything about her own faults.”

Yes, Gert, Joan’s way of telling about “her” adoption is very revealing. She goes out of her way to say on the internet that her book is about HER life, yet there IS very little about HER childhood. There IS a great deal of OUR childhood – which does not belong in the book. She was adopted in 1957, and was not reunited with us until 1974. Anything that happened to us in those years does not belong in the book BECAUSE IT DOES NOT PERTAIN TO JOAN’S ADOPTION, ADOPTION REUNION, OR JOAN’S LIFE AS AN ADOPTED CHILD!

And yes, why is her book peppered with MY faults – like the fact that I like horror movies. AND THAT IS NOT A FAULT,BUT JOAN SAYS IT IN A WAY THAT IT IS A FAULT! (because she takes every oppotunity to make a putdown dig against me.)

Now just what does the fact that I like horror movies have to do with Joan’s adoption or her reunion? NOTHING! But it does say one thing – she doesn’t know ANYthing about me. I like SOME horror movies – like Hitchcock’s “Psycho” or “Blair Witch Two.” But mostly I like movies on the supernatural or the paranormal.As I have studied the metaphysical sciences since the 1970′s and am now a paranormal investigator myself. (no, you won’t see me on tv on a Ghost Hunters show, – well, maybe one day you will – who can really predict the future?)

I DO NOT like movies such as “The Texas Chain-Saw Massacre” – and I can’t stand “Silence of the Lambs.”

So Joan in her eagerness to trash me, didn’t even get it right. And just who is she to say that ANYbody who likes horror movies is wrong? Her statement is just another value judgment on her part, and shows us HER true character – a control freak, someone who doesn’t like horror movies herself, and thinks anyone who does like horror movies is rotten and evil to the core.

Riiiight. Listen, I’m not the one going around calling in false police and child abuse reports. I’m not the one who is sending off harassing letters to elected officials, I’m not the one who is calling people’s jobs to get them fired, I’m not the one who is busy trying to break up their sisters’ marriages and families, I’m not the one who writes a trashy lie-filled book, etc, etc. etc.

Gert says Joan “has lots to say about the birth siblings faults but never anything about her own faults.” So we have this blog and my blog to do just that.

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2 Comments
  1. “She begins her life story from about her teens years and doesn’t give much details about her early years. The only time she mentions her very early years is in relationship to the ‘retelling’ and fabrications about the death of our mother. The reason that Joan doesn’t tell us about her early childhood behavior is because, for her, to tell the story about ‘the secret is out’ and about ‘the forbidden family’ she has to tell her story FROM WHEN SHE WAS FOUND. Anything before that time is meaningless, to Joan, unless she is attempting to show how tramatized she has been for being adopted. Of course she has lots to say about the birth siblings faults but never anything about her own faults.”

    Yes, Gert, Joan’s way of telling about “her” adoption is very revealing. She goes out of her way to say on the internet that her book is about HER life, yet there IS very little about HER childhood. There IS a great deal of OUR childhood – which does not belong in the book. She was adopted in 1957, and was not reunited with us until 1974. Anything that happened to us in those years does not belong in the book BECAUSE IT DOES NOT PERTAIN TO JOAN’S ADOPTION, ADOPTION REUNION, OR JOAN’S LIFE AS AN ADOPTED CHILD!

    And yes, why is her book peppered with MY faults – like the fact that I like horror movies. AND THAT IS NOT A FAULT,BUT JOAN SAYS IT IN A WAY THAT IT IS A FAULT! (because she takes every oppotunity to make a putdown dig against me.)

    Now just what does the fact that I like horror movies have to do with Joan’s adoption or her reunion? NOTHING! But it does say one thing – she doesn’t know ANYthing about me. I like SOME horror movies – like Hitchcock’s “Psycho” or “Blair Witch Two.” But mostly I like movies on the supernatural or the paranormal.As I have studied the metaphysical sciences since the 1970’s and am now a paranormal investigator myself. (no, you won’t see me on tv on a Ghost Hunters show, – well, maybe one day you will – who can really predict the future?)

    I DO NOT like movies such as “The Texas Chain-Saw Massacre” – and I can’t stand “Silence of the Lambs.”

    So Joan in her eagerness to trash me, didn’t even get it right. And just who is she to say that ANYbody who likes horror movies is wrong? Her statement is just another value judgment on her part, and shows us HER true character – a control freak, someone who doesn’t like horror movies herself, and thinks anyone who does like horror movies is rotten and evil to the core.

    Riiiight. Listen, I’m not the one going around calling in false police and child abuse reports. I’m not the one who is sending off harassing letters to elected officials, I’m not the one who is calling people’s jobs to get them fired, I’m not the one who is busy trying to break up their sisters’ marriages and families, I’m not the one who writes a trashy lie-filled book, etc, etc. etc.

    Gert says Joan “has lots to say about the birth siblings faults but never anything about her own faults.” So we have this blog and my blog to do just that.

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