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Notice to Susan Thompson Underdahl – from Ruth Sippel Pace

by on August 25, 2011

Susan Thompson Underdahl ( is a clinical psychologist, and author of an adoption reunion book, (The Other Sister), Susan needs to fully read our blogs to find out just what happened after we were reunited with Joan.

Susan, our story is not pretty. I suggest you read the following list of things that Joan has done to us, her birth sisters, who welcomed her into our lives with open arms and hearts. Joan’s behavior is psychopathic and criminal. Not to mention hateful and hurtful. And this list is the truth – I have supplied actual court documents that prove that I am telling the truth and Joan Wheeler is a liar.

This is a concise listing of the shit that Joan has done to her birth family.

The Three Sippel Sisters demand the following:

1. Public apology and retraction from Joan Wheeler for the following:

  1. Falsely accusing Gert of repeatedly sexually molesting Ms. Wheeler.
  2. Falsely accusing Ruth of having a criminal record and being placed on probation.
  3. Falsely accusing Ruth of calling child abuse on Ms. Wheeler in December 1994. In the book, she lists it as happening in 1993, on the internet in May and September 2010, she lists it as 1996. – (only a liar can’t keep dates straight – I have scanned and posted an actual letter sent by Joan dated December 1994 to New York State Child Abuse authorities and in it she states the call was made Dec. 1994. Why are there 3 different years listed by Joan in this letter, in her book, and on the internet?
  4. Falsely asserting that there was a 3 month court battle in the spring of 1994 over this child abuse call. (which according to her letter didn’t occur until months later, and on the internet, years later). There was never a 3 month court battle between Joan and Ruth. and again, why does she keep mixing up the date of the call? Perhaps because she keeps lying about it.
  5. Falsely accusing Ruth of hacking into computers where Ruth works and tampering with Ms. Wheeler’s medical bill in late 1994.
  6. For six months of almost daily phone calls placed to Ruth’s place of employment for the purpose of Ruth losing her job. This was AFTER Ruth’s employer’s investigated Joan’s complaint in the fall of 1994, determined that Ruth was innocent, informed Joan of this, yet Joan continued into the spring of 1995 with calling various departments in the hospital and falsely informing them that Ruth did tamper with her bill.
  7. Falsely asserting that Ms. Wheeler has had “multiple orders of protection” against the 3 Sippel Sisters.
  8. Falsely asserting that the one and only Order of Protection Ms. Wheeler ever received (against Ruth) was for one year, when in reality it was for 6 months.
  9. Falsely asserting that the 3 Sippel Sisters repeatedly interfere with Ms. Wheeler’s life and harass her.
  10. For using our picture on the back cover of her book without our permission. The book is used for monetary gain, therefore, Ms. Wheeler is making money from our likeness.
  11. For writing letters to Anthony J. Masiello, when he was mayor of the city of Buffalo and other elected officials, giving them personal and private details of Ruth’s life, thereby invading Ruth’s privacy.
  12. For stealing Kathy’s money and belongings in 1993.
  13. For stealing Ruth’s money in 1990 and the bead trim off the wedding dress of our mother, which was Ruth’s property.
  14. An apology and explanation that Ms. Wheeler lied to Professor Rene Hoksbergen, and asked him to interfere with Kathy’s life in 1993, thereby invading Kathy’s privacy.
  15. For all lies and misrepresentations that are contained in the book and on her website.
  16. For trying multiple times to break Ruth and her husband up by writing letters to him and sending them to his mother’s house and saying “John, are you leaving Ruth?” Then writing  a letter to Ruth telling her that her husband got the next-door neighbor pregnant when the house was vacant. The child abuse call referenced in item #3 was made by a woman, who identified themself as Ruth Sippel and said that her husband (John Pace) had sex with Joan in front of her children. It is believed that the call was made by Joan herself in an attempt to get Ruth in trouble with John so that he would leave her. This was December 1994. In March 1995 was when Joan sent the letters to John’s mother asking him if he was going to leave Ruth.
  17. Removal of her cyberbullying page which contains many detrimental things about her birth sisters, for example, calling them “psychopaths.” And outright lies such as saying she had orders of protections against her sisters since the 1980’s, which is a direct contradiction to what she has put in her book: that Ruth supported her during the time her afather died, Ruth was one of her bridesmaids in 1983, Ruth drove her and her newborn daughter home from the hospital in 1986, Ruth loved her son, went to beach outings with her and her children during the summers of 1988 to 1992.  Again, Ruth has actual court documents that prove that Joan NEVER had orders of protection since the 1980’s against her. And no where in the book does she say she had orders of protection against her sisters until the actual events of Summer 1993, wherein she lie and said she signed a complaint against Ruth in February 1993, and saying the order of protection was for one year. Ruth has submitted the actual signed complaint (with Joan’s signature) dated July 1993, and the actual court document stating the order of protection was from August 9, 1993 – February 1994. The court documents also reflect that Ruth was NOT arrested, convicted of a crime, nor placed on probation. The order of protection was eventually DISMISSED, so in reality, Ms. Wheeler didn’t even have ONE order of protection against Ruth or her other two sisters.

2. Joan WILL comply with the following:

  1. The complete pulling of the book Forbidden Family off the market. – never mind Joan, we did this for you – we sent the actual court documents to Trafford Publications that proved that you slandered Ruth in your book when you stated that she was arrested, convicted of a crime and placed on probation. Because of this proof of slander and libel, and Joan’s lying to Trafford that she had the copyrights to a family photograph on the back of the book, Trafford Publications pulled the book from publication.
  2.  Full return of Kathy’s money and belongings that was stolen by Ms. Wheeler in 1993.
  3. Full return of Ruth’s money that was stolen by Ms. Wheeler in 1990
  4. The cessation of posting any more about her sisters ANYwhere on the internet, except when discussing her adoption and she is to limit her discussion of her sisters to say that she has 3 older birth sisters, one who first made the contact with her, and due to personality conflicts, any reunion between Joan and her 3 birth sisters has been terminated.

3. Ms. Wheeler will cease her public statements that:

  1. Our father was coerced into relinquishing her for adoption. It has always been his assertion that he was NOT coerced.
  2.  The 3 Sippel Sisters are “trashing” her on the internet via “multiple” adoption reform sites.

4. We Three Sippel Sisters further demand a public apology from Professor Rene Hoksbergen for his interference with Kathy in 1993, and his recent “professional” review of the book Forbidden Family, wherein, he is guilty of spreading a false allegation of sexual abuse by the person of Gertrude McQueen. Professor Hoksbergen did not check any “facts” that Joan Wheeler alleges, and therefore he is guilty also of damaging the reputation of Mrs. McQueen, and the other two Sippel Sisters.

Unless and until ALL these listed items are complied with by Joan Wheeler, (and Professor Hoksbergen), this blog will remain an active blog with every printed lie, misrepresentation, or misdeed of Joan Wheeler’s, either in the book, or on the internet, or real life, WILL be refuted and the truth WILL be documented.  Further, any future lies, falsehoods, misrepresentations, and further invasion of the privacy of The Three Sippel Sisters, their families and friends, will result in the continuation of this blog.

ALSO: Ruth hereby demands that Joan Wheeler’s ex-husband Colby Allen Bell repay every penny of the money he stole from her in 1990. – $490.00. He withdrew $500.00 from the joint checking account that Ruth had with them to purchase real estate (with her permission) to purchase a case of fireworks. Colby was supposed to replace that money when the fireworks were sold. He did not. He repaid Ruth only $10.00.

Further, in 1991, 3 ATM withdrawals were made totalling $400.00 from Joan and Colby’s checking account, causing their rent check to bounce. Joan and Colby accused Ruth of doing it. The following year, Colby was caught on a student video, admitting that it was HE who withdrew the money to support his  habit of frequenting strip joints.

Ruth demands a formal and public apology from Colby from his theft of her money and a formal and public apology  from both Joan and Colby concerning the accusation that she illegally made ATM withdrawals, which could have resulted with a criminal investigation of her by the bank and law enforcement. This could have damaged her reputation irreparably.

Again, until ALL demands here listed are FULLY met, this blog will remain active and the public shall know just what kind of persons Joan Wheeler and her ex-husband are.

Now Susan, take your adoption reunion “knowledge” and your clinical psychology degree and get that nut Joan Wheeler off the streets and into the psych center where she belongs! – thank you.

ps. Susan, your comments were indeed posted. See them and our answers at the end of the Exhibit A post where you commented. – We included your comments and our answers in the body of the post.


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