Misinformation spoken by Joan Wheeler
I would like to expand and bring forward, as a post of it’s own, a comment that I placed on this post: Observations by Susan and our answers
There is so much misinformation that Joan Wheeler has said in so many places that it is a very good thing that we are starting to collect them and put them OUT IN THE OPEN. For the moment I want to address the following statement, presented in the above post, written by Joan Wheeler, and all of it’s falsehoods.
joanmw on November 14, 2010, 11:23:22 PM said….
“My mother died when I was three months old and she left behind a husband and five children. Stupid Catholic priest said that the baby needed two parents. If that wasn’t bad enough, a woman came up to my father at my mother’s funeral and said, “I know someone who will take your baby”. Gimmie, gimmie, gimmie, that’s all you people say and do. I was raised an only child with two adoptive parents while my siblings were raised by our father and a step mother in the same city! Adoption destroyed our lives.”
There are only 3 statements that are correct but certain facts had been left out on purpose by Joan! Our mother did die leaving a husband with five children. Joan was raised as an only child with two adoptive parents and that her birth siblings lived in the same city for a couple of years. Then the adoptive family moved into the suburbs where Joan lived most of her life and she STILL lives in that same house today. That’s as far as the truth is concerned in Joan’s statement. Everything else in this statement is false and based on Joan’s hate, rage and warped visions of reality.
No catholic priest, stupid or otherwise, said any such thing…this is typical hate speech of Joan’s. No woman came up to my father at my mother’s funeral. This is just another tale told to Joan by her adoptive mother that should never had been said to Joan and Joan should never have put it in PRINT, in a book that slanders and harms both sets of families. No one said gimmie gimmie. This is typical Joan hype, exaggeration and hyperbole!
Joan’s siblings, were NOT raised with our father and stepmother! We actually were all placed, over time, in various relative’s homes, foster-homes, orhan-homes and some of us briefly with a mentally ill step-mother.
Speaking about myself…before and after my mother died I lived with my paternal grandparents, then perhaps a year with my father and mentally ill step-mother, then for eight (8) years I lived in a foster home! I lived for three (3) months with my father when I was 18 and just before I married!
So how can Joan paint such a perfect picture of how her siblings lived in comparison to her life in adoption? Because she is a liar and a fabricator of fiction. She paints her story to give herself some kind of horrible edge with other adoptees and to promote her warped sense of adoption.
Most assuredly…adoption DOES NOT destroy lives! People destroy lives and Joan Wheeler has destroyed her own and has attempted to destroy everyone related to her and anyone who is pro-adoption.
This statement by Joan is typical of the kind of nonsense, hate-filled rage against the life that the gods or the fates gave her and her anger at everyone because she feels she got a raw deal! Well she can’t get away any longer with speaking falsehoods, for every thing she has said will be brought out in the open for inspection. Over time it is my intent that I shall look more closely at this post and everything in it and make my observations.
In other places on the internet and in her book, Joan says that her siblings lived in a broken home DUE TO HER ADOPTION! And we siblings suffered mental anguish because of her adoption. Which is completely different than what she said in this comment on the forum.
So which is it Joan? Did your siblings live a life of misery, pining away for their lost sister? Or – did we have the perfect idyllic life that she is so jealous of? Make up your mind Joan.
another thought by Gert:
most of Joan’s mindset comes from two sources, one being the adoptive mother and two from the very dangerous pscho-babble of adoption ‘specialists’ who spew all kinds of crap to the adoptee who then speculates on what was in everyone’s mind and decides that they acted out because of this or that pscho-babble scenario. It’s all sick, sick, and more sick and has no basis in reality.