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An example of Joan Wheeler’s condescending bullying behavior!

by on October 6, 2011
An example of Joan Wheeler’s condescending bullying behavior!
And this type of behavior helps adoption reform HOW?
 
Here’s Joan, at her best, as she and other adult adoptees, go out into the world of websites, looking for people to browbeat and/or belittle because those people are in favor of adoption. This type of behavior of Joan’s is very typical of her personality, which of course we birth siblings know all too well.
 
Notice the (close the gap) here at the end of the link. That means that any adult adoptee, from the Adult Adoptees Advocating for Change website, that go to this news site, should copy and paste the link into their browser, then close ‘gap’. This is so that no one can trace them back to their own website. Sneaky isn’t it!! This is called covert operations. These Adoptees Advocating for Change are militant in their tactics and Joan is one of them!
 
My comments to Joan’s statement are at the bottom of this post.
 
http://www.phillyburbs.   com/news/news_details/article/578/2011/february/11/give-adoptees-their-birth-certificates-1.html (close the gap)
 
Joan wrote this:
 
Lissa, your grammar is atrocious! “could of” should be “could have”, and “should of ” should be “should have”. Your spelling is worse. Your logic is pathetic. You are reacting emotionally, not intelligently setting forth a clear debatable argument with facts to back up your statements.As I have stated before, not all adoptees were relinquished by unwed mothers. Many of us are half or full orphans whose parents have died. We are lumped together with the others as if we were illegitimate and therefore, by your logic, our parents must hide. There was no shame in my birth. My mother died when I was three months old and my father relinquished me. He was never promised confidentiality, either verbally or in written contract. He was verbally told to stay away from my adoptive family, and was instructed to sign a written agreement that he would not interfere in the newly formed adoptive family. My father did not know that my birth certificate would be sealed and amended. He simply relinquished me to two parents because he could not provide that for me. He wanted me to have that stability.So for you to lump all adoptees into one category goes against logic, as does the present law, for precisely the reasons I set forth. The law was written to protect the illegitimate from the stigma of illegitimacy by giving the adoptee a new identity with two legitimately married parents. Over time, society morphed the meaning into what we have today. Additionally, the law was written many decades ago to protect the adoptive family from intrusion by the natural parents, not the other way around. I suggest you get an education. Read: The Idea of Adoption: An Inquiry into the History of Adult Adoptee Access to Birth Records by Elizabeth J Samuels. It is available online.

  
Joan said:
your grammar is atrocious! “could of” should be “could have”, and “should of ” should be “should have”. Your spelling is worse. Your logic is pathetic. You are reacting emotionally, not intelligently setting forth a clear debatable argument with facts to back up your statements. And I suggest you get an education.
 
Gert’s comments:

My god!! And this is how someone, with two college degrees, who says she is a social worker and who professes to be a ‘reform activist’ behaves! Reform DOES NOT occur with insults, threats and browbeating. Such behavior TURNS people AWAY from the message. No one wants to hear or be around someone who talks down to them and insults their basic intelligence. No wonder Joan Wheeler has not gotten anywhere in her MISSION of REFORM. Doesn’t she know that the days of conquest with fire and sword are gone! Joan Wheeler doesn’t even have the inner fortitude and moral character to pull any kind of reform off that’s why she berates people. She hides behind a keybroad where her alter-ego can play it up big-time. But when push came to shove, as with her blood sisters exposing all her lies, all Joan can do is plea for help from the Adult Adoptees Advocating for Change to come and beat up her sisters!
 
Joan Wheeler is nothing but a bully! She tell this woman that her grammar is atrocious. That her spelling is worse. That her logic is pathetic. That she is reacting emotionally and without intelligence and without facts to back up her statements. And she should get an education.
 
Please take closer look at all of Joan’s statements that we have put up. Does Joan react without emotion? Is Joan’s logic right and resonable? How about her grammar and spelling? Does she present a clear intelligent argument against her blood siblings? Does she back up her statements, against her family, with facts? Of course the answer to all these questions is NO. Joan DOES have an education BUT she doesn’t know how to use it!
 
Joan Wheeler is just an ignorant bully! 
 
comment by Ruth
roflmao!
well Gert, here is a little tidbit of Joan’s most excellant grammer in her posts under her screenname of 1adoptee.

Title: Re: Deborah Jacobs of ACLU (NJ) Takes a Heated Stand in Comments: We need to fight b
Post by: 1adoptee on September 05, 2010, 09:05:47 PM

Not married couples stay together in the same house and raise their illegitimate children…marriage doesn’t have make kids legit. This labeling and social outcasting is idiotic. :duh:
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Ruth here again: the duh refers to a smiley called duh. I give a BIG duh to Joan’s atrocious grammer “not married couples stay together and “marriage doesn’t have make kids legit.”

and here is an example of how “intelligent” and “civil” the “adults” are at that website: first – Joan asks a question on the militant adoptee language, gets an answer, and translates it to the language that she knows. And of course, since she puts forth in her book, using this kind of language reflects a person’s lifestyle, Joan’s lifestyle and the other adult adoptees are certainly living in sin and squalor and are just low-lifed nasty person. rolfmao!

Post by: Erimentha on September 07, 2010, 04:21:19 PM
Quote from: joanmw on September 07, 2010, 11:23:04 AM
Please explain this: “knob ends”
and :knob:
I am trying to learn these terms
I know this is off topic for this thread, but the term showed up in a comment by Erimentha “knob ends like Deborah Lee Furness who is lobbying to make international adoption easier here.”

It’s another word for penis. Knob end means the tip of the penis because Deborah Lee Furness isn’t even worth calling a whole penis.

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Title: Re: please read these reports when you have time its worth it
Post by: 1adoptee on September 07, 2010, 06:16:04 PM
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oh! dick head!

Ruth here again – in her book, Joan accuses me and my best friend of sending her an obscene note that uses similar foul language. And Joan in all her wisdom says this: “their language reflected the lifestyles they have chosen.” – Seems to me that Joan has chosen the same lifestyle! roflmao!

 additional comment by Gert:
and this is all on a public forum for everyone to see!
oh yes, the support group really ought to change it’s name…for it does nothing positive for adoption reform! All it is a hatefest of bullies who go after anyone who is pro adoption.
Joan started early in her life about going after people who adopt!
She interfered in my father and his wife’s adoption.
She interfered in my own adoption of my own son.
In both cases the family TOLD Joan to butt out, but, Joan got mad and have spend 30 years lying about the family in a book.
Now, we are having our time, telling the truth and exposing everything Joan has done, in details and we have proof.  
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3 Comments
  1. roflmao!
    well Gert, here is a little tidbit of Joan’s most excellant grammer in her posts under her screenname of 1adoptee.

    Title: Re: Deborah Jacobs of ACLU (NJ) Takes a Heated Stand in Comments: We need to fight b
    Post by: 1adoptee on September 05, 2010, 09:05:47 PM

    Not married couples stay together in the same house and raise their illegitimate children…marriage doesn’t have make kids legit. This labeling and social outcasting is idiotic. :duh:
    ——————————————————————————–
    Ruth here again: the duh refers to a smiley called duh. I give a BIG duh to Joan’s atrocious grammer “not married couples stay together and “marriage doesn’t have make kids legit.”

    and here is an example of how “intelligent” and “civil” the “adults” are at that website: first – Joan asks a question on the militant adoptee language, gets an answer, and translates it to the language that she knows. And of course, since she puts forth in her book, using this kind of language reflects a person’s lifestyle, Joan’s lifestyle and the other adult adoptees are certainly living in sin and squalor and are just low-lifed nasty person. rolfmao!

    Post by: Erimentha on September 07, 2010, 04:21:19 PM
    Quote from: joanmw on September 07, 2010, 11:23:04 AM
    Please explain this: “knob ends”
    and :knob:
    I am trying to learn these terms
    I know this is off topic for this thread, but the term showed up in a comment by Erimentha “knob ends like Deborah Lee Furness who is lobbying to make international adoption easier here.”

    It’s another word for penis. Knob end means the tip of the penis because Deborah Lee Furness isn’t even worth calling a whole penis.

    ——————————————————————————–
    Title: Re: please read these reports when you have time its worth it
    Post by: 1adoptee on September 07, 2010, 06:16:04 PM
    ——————————————————————————–

    oh! dick head!

    Ruth here again – in her book, Joan accuses me and my best friend of sending her an obscene note that uses similar foul language. And Joan in all her wisdom says this: “their language reflected the lifestyles they have chosen.” – Seems to me that Joan has chosen the same lifestyle! roflmao!

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