What gets Joan Wheeler’s goat, you know, what pushes her buttons and gets her pissed?
It is said that if you are aware of what pisses you off, then what you ought to do is DON’T let it get to you and learn HOW to change things so you don’t get pissed off.
Of course that is not always easy to do, but….after being hit in the head, for years, don’t you think you would learn to stop doing the same thing over and over again and/or stop paying attention to the negative triggers?
Be that as it is, Joan Wheeler, AKA 1adoptee…answers the question, on the public forum of Adult Adoptees Advocating for change…
« Reply #13 on: December 08, 2011, 09:20:13 PM »
Rejection and adandonment are biggies along with being lied to and feeling manipulated.
These for me are my biggest triggers.
If that forum is ‘advocating for change’ why is it that I NEVER SEE any changes? All these people do is wallow in their self-pity and recount all their fears and torments…some change!
Anyway, Joan’s ‘triggers’ are not unique…ALL humans have those kinds of triggers. The key to a healthy life is to understand that life is not easy, there are no guarantees, shit happens and you will get hurt. From there you GET ON WITH LIVING YOUR LIFE.
Beyond that…Joan is a hypocrite! She herself gets wants she has sowed all her life. Joan is a master liar and manipulator. She is very very clever at it. She also knows all about HOW to get someone to trust her and then she knows how to, not only, reject them but then totally abandon them, just when they believed her. Don’t believe me? Doesn’t matter! I know for I have been Joan Wheeler’s victim!