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‘I don’t understand your life and I never will!’; from Forbidden Family by Joan Wheeler

by on February 6, 2012
Chapter 35, of Joan Wheeler’s, lying hateful book, is 25 pages of a most bizarre story. It begins with ‘I don’t understand your life and I never will!’ Chapter 36 is here also.
I wish someone could tell me what the PURPOSE of this chapter is! Perhaps I shall find out before I finish it, but I doubt it. I wonder if Joan got PERMISSION from the person, in this bizarre story, to tell ALL when he particularly said HE DIDN’T WANT TO BE IN THE BOOK! On pg 434, she relates an exchange wherein he specifically says ‘I don’t want people to know my private life…’ but she ignores that and tells all anyway! Does anyone know who this guy is so that he can be told that Joan violated his privacy as she has with everyone in her families?
As usual this chapter is filled with Joan’s innermost thoughts that she put down on paper. It does leave one wondering if what she relates here is, in fact, any way near the truth, for she does have a propensity to exaggerate and fabricate. This chapter is so very difficult to read, let alone try to explain it, but I must give it a try for it is only in REALLY reading her that one gets to know HOW sick she is!
She begins by saying that after hearing all possible ‘assaults’, because she is a adoptee proposing radical change, she was ‘…hit with something so outrageous that it took me almost 2 years to comprehend what happened.’ Key fact here is that it took her two years before she figured out that she had gotten herself in an abusive relationship because she is so obsessed with adoption that she refused to see the warning signs! Okay, okay, I’ve jumped the gun, but let’s get this out right now. Joan has a history of being in abusive relationships, she herself is abusive and from April 2006 to May 2007 she was in yet another abusive relationship, which she details for everyone on the planet to know every little detail of it! This helps adoption reform HOW?
Her reasons for ‘sharing’ this with us, amongst other reasons, is ‘…because even someone with a PhD can easily be confused over an adoptee’s reality and this relationship also demonstrates the need for individuals to work on their own issues…’ Huh?
Let me translate here: again, as I’ve stated in previous posts, Joan is biased towards high-income and high educational status, so to her someone who has a PhD really ought to ‘know better’ (showing her bias here) and her liberal use of self-serving platitudes that she regulates for everyone else, but herself. Her mission, and she choose to accept it, that no one forced  upon her, is to teach everyone her version of the truth about adoption and its traumas, but, only someone who has worked on their own issues, will ever understand an adoptee. But, Joan has never worked on her own issues. Heal thyself Joan for you know not what you say!
Joan fancies herself as a ‘clever’ writer, but in actuality, she is very difficult to follow because when she writes, she is following her ‘inner thoughts’ and they just don’t come across right on paper. Her story telling is full of drama but, and this is important, if you really want to know her ‘inner mind’, as her family does, every now and then she lets a clue out. Pg 430 has such a clue. ‘…sometimes I couldn’t write until a scene played out in a dream.’ There you have it…she isn’t telling a ‘true’ story…she is telling ‘a’ story, one that comes from her dreamscape. Gotcha!!
At first glance it looks as if she is attempting to ‘explain’ how this relationship began and progressed, but at every turn there is either a huge warning sign that she ignores and explains away, or, she explains her own behavior in the past tense, as she does at the time of writing about this episode, that took place in 06/07, by that time she had overcome her own negative behavior. Sounds like a typical Joan statement about herself; she used to be that way but she isn’t now. Sure! Okay! Right! Tell me another fairy tale!
She sees BUT ignores that he is a ‘frightened, fragile man’ and that he was an ‘authority figure’ telling her what she should and should not write. She witnesses his outbursts of anger and his repulsive attitudes but does nothing, choosing instead to see ‘…the differences between us as opportunities for shared learning’. Oh boy! At the age of 50 you would think that she would have learned something! And she worked on her issues?? When??
He criticized her work, she felt insulted and continues to ‘show him’ as she has done with everyone who voiced opposing opinions to her. She enjoys the confrontations; even though she can’t stand it when someone opposes her, she needs to confront them, even if it gets herself into more and more trouble. She is addicted to confrontations! Over time this guy began to ‘demand that she finish the book’ and ‘…his rants turned into bullying that wore me down.’ But she hung in there! ‘…I patiently understood and accepted him, looking beyond his rage to the pain underneath’. What she should have done was run like hell away, but no, not Joan, she has to fix him and show him the error of his ways with his inner turmoil!
And on and on it goes, pathetic! What does all this ‘relating’ of an obvious sick relationship have to do with adoption reform? Well to Joan it shows, again, how being an adoptee, with a public mission, meets with hostilities. She has to show the adoption world how great she is as a social worker, by describing her attempts at ‘getting through’ to this very troubled person. On pg 437 she relates how she ‘confronts’ this guy about his ‘…sudden brutality after the first night we were intimate…’ that happened one year before. As I read it I’m wondering why did it take her one-year to confront an obviously hostile episode in the first place and in the second place why wasn’t she ‘history’ right after such an event in the first place. Why didn’t she leave right from the beginning? What is the purpose here? To any real thinking person, it only shows Joan’s lack of character assessing and her willingness to be involved with hostile people. Joan is a nut-case herself and she likes to be abused!
No, to Joan, the real purpose behind this chapter is to show the great and wonderful wizardry of social work that she has and where we get a up close and personal look at her great skills as a therapist. Bull Shit! On pg 439, to the reader she portrays her social worker side. ‘He was in anguish by events in his past. I was once where he is now, needing to face the cause of distress and learning how to cope with it.’ Did she learn from where she once was? Of course not!!
As you see, she has diagnosis his problem…‘he is in anguish by his past’. She has found the treatment …‘needs to face the cause of distress’…and…‘learn how to cope with it’. Except…she’s right in the midst of one bizarre violent man and she doesn’t have the sense to ‘get the hell out’! She continues to convince this guy that he needs a ‘grief counselor’, he tells her, in no uncertain words, ‘don’t go there’, and so they go to bed and ‘cuddle’ why she wonders ‘what to do when you love someone who is in such torment?’ How about ran like hell! This woman has no brains! She obviously hasn’t learned a thing.
And in the morning, instead of hitting her, he hit the dog several times yelling obscenities as Joan ‘curled up in the opposite direction toward the wall and cowered in the corner’. She ‘was shaking with fear, he never acted like this before.’ She says she couldn’t call for help because she canceled her cell phone and she couldn’t use his phone for he would see her, she left 20 minutes later. To any reasonable person this would have been the ‘wakeup call’ to get as far away as possible for this man, but not to Joan, the savior.
Beginning on pg 440 Joan begins the work on the guy, by going to their ‘friends’ and telling them that ‘I was a social worker and he needed an intervention’. Isn’t that great! Isn’t it wonderful to have a social worker at your fingertips anytime one of your friends might need to be ‘jumped on’!
There is so much crap in the remaining 14 pages that I’m going to resort to just mentioning a few of the more ‘enlightening’ statements, if you really need to know every thing you will need about $45 to $50 to buy the book.
(no, the book is no longer in print, I wrote this essay long before we siblings got the publisher to review the book and pull the libelous, hate book off the market) So in condensed form, here is the great social worker as she continues with her assessment, her techniques and her own behaviors along with my own observations.
 
‘…when loved ones intervene, it doesn’t mean that trust is broken, it doesn’t mean a person is crazy, its means that a person’s out of control behavior needs to be confronted, worked through and overcome to resolve the past and heal the pain’
No one else but Joan was capable of fixing him, but ‘…on the night of May 12, 2007, he acted like he didn’t want to be near me…’ Gosh can’t imagine why! Then… ‘I (Joan) got drunk, really drunk…graduated to whiskey…really wanted morphine…was distressed…taken 91 year old mother to hospital…how can we have a Mother’s Day when Mom was in the hospital…I was told I needed surgery…also worried about son and daughter for different reasons…drove drunk…was ashamed and irresponsible…he was mad…remembered that his wife was a drunk driver just before she was killed.’ Nice behavior here from the great and wonderful social worker Joan!
Maybe he wasn’t happy with Joan’s intervention and behavior for the next week ‘…he displayed unbelievable ignorance during the most vicious, public, verbal and physically threatening attack ever directed at me.’ He ‘…got in my face and screamed…entire room of people became silent…friends ignored him…I sat still…hung my head and cried…she talks to herself in her head…people turned away…could he be mad at me for my drinking…I asked him what’s gotten into you…he answers you should know…I tried to calm him down and move his sadistic tirades to someplace private…instead he insisted on making several public scenes in one night over the course of three hours…’ THESE ARE JOAN’S WORDS!
And Joan stays with this behavior and allows it to continue on because of love and she is a social worker! Doesn’t she know enough to have left the guy at the first outburst? No, she doesn’t. And this behavior will help people with adoption reform HOW? This only shows Joan’s stupidity!
She felt like pointing out that he is ‘…acting like a buffoon…instead I …sighed and stared at my glass.’ Then she ‘asked him to go outside where we could talk a bit more privately’. What the hell is wrong with this picture? Any woman that is reading this could tell you that Joan is a damnrug, for she allows herself to be abused by this man, but it wasn’t the first and I’d bet it won’t be the last because Joan ‘needs’ to feel traumatized because she is adopted. And so he too has had enough of the adoption bullshit and mouths off to her over and over and over again and all she does is continue to argue back and forth.
He tells her that ‘your book’s importance is insignificant’ and all she can do is think ‘…he really does see me as inferior…’ Italics are hers. He tells her ‘…you’re telling people how to think’. She says ‘…no I’m not, telling my story and giving my professional assessment is not telling people how to think.’ If it were that simple, Joan, for indeed she is telling people how to think, she has NO professional assessment in this book, it is ONLY her opinions and she does expect people to believe her, which is a form of telling them how to think and heaven forbid if you don’t agree with her!
It continues on; he ‘shouted, at her, you are wrong…she stood her ground…’ and continues to argue a point and finally tells him that she ‘…is connected with other experts in my field…’ he says ‘I’m not interested in your opinion’…to which she is ‘stunned’. She gets stunned a lot because she can’t fathom why others don’t see her views as truth. Not only that, but she also has a very high opinion of herself and her importance for her assessment is that ‘…my (her) life frightened him…he couldn’t figure out the subject matter…he didn’t even know the whole story…he had no empathy for me…why was I held to a different standard?’ Do you really want to know Joan?
It’s all a build up for her to ‘agenda speak’ and to retell, again, her inner traumas. ‘Just as others have done before him, he felt compelled to inflict his irrational and uniformed opinion on me. He believed his own illogical rhetoric as if it were fact…like others…felt the need to correct me, as if ‘little Joanie’ didn’t know what she was talking about…once again I felt my life negated and violated by someone I loved…was a crushing blow…as countless times before…I had to deal with reaction to my life…’ Could someone please tell me and the rest of us what the hell does all this internal anguish have to do with adoption reform and HOW is it a help to anyone? Jesus Christ, when will this woman get a life?
Then the guy gets to the issue of the ‘intervention’ by saying ‘…you wanted (friends) to take me for a ride to a counseling center so I could talk to a shrink, how dare you do that, what next, put me in a straight jacket in a paddy wagon.’ Joan says, ‘…no, you’re agitated, out of love and concern I asked friends, it would be helpful if you talked to a professional…talk to a grief therapist…’ His answer was ‘…how dare you go behind my back…you violated me…’ She couldn’t understand, for in her mind it’s ‘…human nature to confide in one another.’ So now, instead of getting the hell away from the guy she muses ‘…he wanted to dominate over me, to isolate me, had that tyrannical boss disposition, terrifying me into submission…shaking with fear…reduced to tears…I must be at fault for he was shouting at me…I must deserve this tongue-lashing…shaming and punishing me in public because he doesn’t approve of the topic of my book…’ The guy finally walked away. What a pathetic scene! And this display of Joan’s is helping adoptee and adoption reform HOW? And it is showing tips on adoption activism HOW? All it shows is Joan’s mental illness!
She wished she had a cell phone…was too afraid to leave! What the hell! Call the cops, have him arrested and leave the asshole! But no, not Joan, instead she blames all the friends for not stopping the guy! Yep, it’s not Joan’s fault that the guy wasn’t stopped; it’s the friend’s fault. Joan takes NO responsibilities. And as usual, Joan was in ‘…tremendous anxiety, sadness and embarrassment for two years…retreated into severe despair and fear, unable to move out of bed or house…’ And this behavior is sane and professional HOW? And this is helping the adoption reform movement HOW?
And instead of telling the readers HOW to do adoption reform Joan launches into 3 pages of the same old self-pity routine! She had a surgery and could only live with her ‘memories’. When she tried to go back to the bar where the ‘scene’ took place she found herself barred being told she caused the trouble for the patrons. When she regained her strength she went to the police to press charges against the guy but was told she had waited too long there was nothing there to go after and she couldn’t sue the guy because the book wasn’t published yet. Always looking after the proceeds of the book she is! Then she ‘…sought legal help…’ She mentions a total of four (4) lawyers she spoke with! Where does she get that kind of money? She doesn’t work. I’ve worked for 38 years and can’t afford one lawyer let alone four! Does she have a system within the system where she goes after free legal advice? I wonder what her racket is!
And her assessment of the situation, ‘…if he had sought counseling none of this would have happened…why was I (her) paying the price for his violence…’ and then she launches into another rant instead of any reasonable social work account. When she finally has given way to her rage she tells us why he is in the book. ‘Yes, he earned a place in this book right along with the other examples of prejudice against adoptees – against – me – to be remembered for all the wrong reasons.’ So there you have it! This is the purpose of this book…to show everyone who hurt her that she will give them a place in this book…the book is just a place for her to vent her rage! And this helps adoption reform HOW?
Joan says on pg 453, ‘Many people can’t stop blaming me for their inner turmoil.’ Excuse me!!! Is this the great wisdom of a wise and experienced social worker? What kind of idiots does Joan Wheeler think people are? Other people’s inner turmoil have NOTHING to do with Joan. It is Joan’s inner turmoil that Joan OUGHT TO BLAME. And this book is to help adoption reform HOW?
She ends this chapter with a strange statement that leaves one asking…WHAT? She says; ‘When you don’t know the origins of your DNA, it seems that those who know where their DNA comes from, don’t want those who don’t know, to know.’ Again…WHAT?
OKAY! Hey, I’ve done good! I’ve reduced 25 pages of crap down to 4!
Turning now to Chapter 36, which is only 3 pages long, thank god! It is called ‘pivotal moments of growth spoiled by arrogant relatives’. It is only another opportunity for Joan to ‘agenda speak’ and ‘point blame’ on to others. It tells of the events surrounding and then spoiling Joan’s interview on the radio about adoption reform by several of the adoptive family. But, it’s title tellings us just how Joan views her adoptive relatives. Joan wants the world to know how she feels about her relatives. Big Deal!! Boring!  But, hey, that only took me a couple of sentences of reviewing.
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Ruth here –

Residents of Erie County, in the state of New York, you should be on your kness and thank the deity of your choice that Joan Wheeler IS an unemployed “social worker.” – Because if she worked as one, the social work services in Erie County would be sooo f’ed up,

clue right here – the night where she got drunk and drove – BUT she wanted morphine! – MORPHINE!

WHO in their right mind goes out to a bar with friends and wants morphine? She’s a dam substance abuser- and she wants to help other people? When she can’t help herself?

This incident happened in 2007 and she’s STILL whacked – but gets online and says her birth sisters need to work on THEIR issues? Go get your own f’ed up warped brain fixed before you go around telling other people to get theirs fixed.

sick broad – and um Nichole Urdang – you think this book is a good one? Like I said in that letter I sent you rebutting your review of this trash book – you, a clinical psychologist, didn’t see the signs of a woman losing her fricking mind? Her not being able to write until she saw it a scene in her dream? – (and that proves what we’ve been saying – that the book Forbidden Family by Joan Wheeler is NOT the truth, but a made up fantasy of lies, bullshit IMAGININGS of a crazy demented person) and this so-called professional Urdang missed all the clues that we see jumping right off the pages at us: that Joan is a severly mentally unbalanced person who needs to be committed before she starts physically harming someone – she documented in the book how she struck her amother, she struck her children – who’s next? – well it ain’t gonna be me – and I already told Urdang that if Joan does hurt someone, I’ll hold her professionally responsible for encouraging that dingbat Joan.

Gert here…

that’s right Ruth…these so-called therapists are keeping people like Joan sick, they are NOT helping them. Recently, on the public forum Joan said that ‘her therapist’ told her that she should not be around people who ‘abuse’ her. I’m sure that Joan has been living with that advise…NOT.

A person does have to wonder…what happened to Russell…who was Joan’s best romantic boyfriend…she was with him for about 6 months August 2010 till about February 2011, right after he debased, on Joan’s behalf, our father’s memorial book! And then..in March of 2011, right after Joan’s adopted mother died, Joan has a NEW love, an old/new boyfriend, Richard. She even put his picture on her lying book site, that STILL NEEDS to come down because it is LYING. Anyway, Richard lasted less than a year. She quietly removed his name/picture and all about him only a couple of months ago, in 2011.

And these are men we KNOW about in recent years!! And this stupid sick broad has the gull to condemn her birth sisters! And lie about them, in print!

Oh yes, adoption reform people…you have a great and wonderful person helping you with your cause…Joan Wheeler! With that you don’t need any other enemy…you have the best!

Gert says that Joan recently repeated what her therapist told her – that she (Joan) should remove herself from people who abuse her – like she needs to pay money to someone to be told that!
See – it’s a racket -these therapists keep people in therapy so they can have a guaranteed income! Joan herself admits that she’s been in therapy for more than 30 years! WTF!? – Would any social service agency want a social worker working for them who is f’ed up herself? NO!

And let this be a warning to you readers – check out the credentials of any social worker you may dealing with – is that person ethical? Are they in therapy themselves? How the hell can Joan help anyone, when she can’t even help herself?

I don’t know if Urdang is Joan’s therapist – but if she is, she stepped over the line of professionalism by writing a review of Joan’s book for amazon.com. but even if Urdang isn’t Joan’s therapist, and I hate to repeat myself – she seems like a piss-poor one – to read that book, this chapter in particular, and NOT recogonize this book is nothing but the sick ramblings of a twisted demented person and say that this book is going to help other adoptees – I think Urdang herself needs therapy.

It boggles my mind that a professional could read sentances like Joan saying she’s writing from her own dreamscape, and that he (the guy in this chapter) earned a place in her book along with others who enraged her – and think that this book is nothing but a twisted fantasy and a hatefest.

We have in Joan’s own words, by her own admission here, that this book is written for REVENGE – and for a professional therapist to NOT see that – well, Urdang needs to hang up her license because it ain’t worth the paper it’s printed on!

Ruth

Gert says: “Joan has a history of being in abusive relationships, she herself is abusive and from April 2006 to May 2007 she was in yet another abusive relationship, which she details for everyone on the planet to know every little detail of it! This helps adoption reform HOW?”

lol – not only does this not help adoption reform – it doesn’t even help other women in abusive relationships. The only reason Joan got out of the relationship was because of two factors – Jimmy had enough of her – and she herself had some surgery done.

Nowhere in this stupid chapter does Joan say “I was a victim of abuse but I garnered my strength and GOT OUT of it. And If I could get out of it, so can you.”

She did write that in 1993 after she left her husband she moved in with an old boyfriend who turned abusive on her. She did get out of that relationship. So 13 years later – she hooks up with another man, who turns abusive on her – WHY didn’t she get out? She details in the book her fear of him – his abuse of his dog – but doesn’t DO anything about it. If the very least she should have called the SPCA on this bastard. But Joan is only concerned with herself – she leaves that poor dog to be abused. That’s as bad as knowing there is child abuse going on and turning a blind eye to it. But … but.. didn’t Joan herself – THE GREAT CRUSADER AND SAVIOR OF ADOPTEES AND ABUSED CHILDREN call child abuse on her own sister Gert for “suspected child abuse in 1982?” If Joan is such a dam crusader WHY DIDN’T SHE DO SOMETHING FOR THIS POOR ABUSED ANIMAL?

Gert here….

Joan logic/reason is faulty! She thinks, if you can call it that, that by telling everyone how DAMAGED she is that will show that ADOPTION IS THE CAUSE. First clue is that adoption has NOTHING to do with the reasons that Joan is mentally ill. Adoption is what Joan blames for her miserable life.

Sure, she was adopted and by people who obviously were flawed and perhaps abusive TO Joan, OR, perhaps there was someone else in Joan’s childhood that abused her…but…the fact remains that Joan Wheeler was flawed LONG BEFORE THE BIRTH FAMILY KNEW HER.

We did not have anything to do with her upbringing or what happened to her in that Wheeler family. We are the birth family and we will NEVER accept the damage and abuse that Joan Wheeler has done to us!

Joan Wheeler did not, as in this chapter of her life, or in any other period and situation, WANT to help any abused animal or person. Joan Wheeler’s only purpose in life was to WRITE and expose and exploit two families for the CRIME OF ADOPTION and if anyone got in the way…well…read this book chapter entry AGAIN and see for yourself.

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  1. Ruth Pace permalink

    Ruth here –

    Residents of Erie County, in the state of New York, you should be on your kness and thank the deity of your choice that Joan Wheeler IS an unemployed “social worker.” – Because if she worked as one, the social work services in Erie County would be sooo f’ed up,

    clue right here – the night where she got drunk and drove – BUT she wanted morphine! – MORPHINE!

    WHO in their right mind goes out to a bar with friends and wants morphine? She’s a dam substance abuser- and she wants to help other people? When she can’t help herself?

    This incident happened in 2007 and she’s STILL whacked – but gets online and says her birth sisters need to work on THEIR issues? Go get your own f’ed up warped brain fixed before you go around telling other people to get theirs fixed.

    sick broad – and um Nichole Urdang – you think this book is a good one? Like I said in that letter I sent you rebutting your review of this trash book – you, a clinical psychologist, didn’t see the signs of a woman losing her fricking mind? Her not being able to write until she saw it a scene in her dream? – (and that proves what we’ve been saying – that the book Forbidden Family by Joan Wheeler is NOT the truth, but a made up fantasy of lies, bullshit IMAGININGS of a crazy demented person) and this so-called professional Urdang missed all the clues that we see jumping right off the pages at us: that Joan is a severly mentally unbalanced person who needs to be committed before she starts physically harming someone – she documented in the book how she struck her amother, she struck her children – who’s next? – well it ain’t gonna be me – and I already told Urdang that if Joan does hurt someone, I’ll hold her professionally responsible for encouraging that dingbat Joan.

  2. Gert says that Joan recently repeated what her therapist told her – that she (Joan) should remove herself from people who abuse her – like she needs to pay money to someone to be told that!
    See – it’s a racket -these therapists keep people in therapy so they can have a guaranteed income! Joan herself admits that she’s been in therapy for more than 30 years! WTF!? – Would any social service agency want a social worker working for them who is f’ed up herself? NO!

    And let this be a warning to you readers – check out the credentials of any social worker you may dealing with – is that person ethical? Are they in therapy themselves? How the hell can Joan help anyone, when she can’t even help herself?

    I don’t know if Urdang is Joan’s therapist – but if she is, she stepped over the line of professionalism by writing a review of Joan’s book for amazon.com. but even if Urdang isn’t Joan’s therapist, and I hate to repeat myself – she seems like a piss-poor one – to read that book, this chapter in particular, and NOT recogonize this book is nothing but the sick ramblings of a twisted demented person and say that this book is going to help other adoptees – I think Urdang herself needs therapy.

    It boggles my mind that a professional could read sentances like Joan saying she’s writing from her own dreamscape, and that he (the guy in this chapter) earned a place in her book along with others who enraged her – and think that this book is nothing but a twisted fantasy and a hatefest.

    We have in Joan’s own words, by her own admission here, that this book is written for REVENGE – and for a professional therapist to NOT see that – well, Urdang needs to hang up her license because it ain’t worth the paper it’s printed on!

  3. Gert says: “Joan has a history of being in abusive relationships, she herself is abusive and from April 2006 to May 2007 she was in yet another abusive relationship, which she details for everyone on the planet to know every little detail of it! This helps adoption reform HOW?”

    lol – not only does this not help adoption reform – it doesn’t even help other women in abusive relationships. The only reason Joan got out of the relationship was because of two factors – Jimmy had enough of her – and she herself had some surgery done.

    Nowhere in this stupid chapter does Joan say “I was a victim of abuse but I garnered my strength and GOT OUT of it. And If I could get out of it, so can you.”

    She did write that in 1993 after she left her husband she moved in with an old boyfriend who turned abusive on her. She did get out of that relationship. So 13 years later – she hooks up with another man, who turns abusive on her – WHY didn’t she get out? She details in the book her fear of him – his abuse of his dog – but doesn’t DO anything about it. If the very least she should have called the SPCA on this bastard. But Joan is only concerned with herself – she leaves that poor dog to be abused. That’s as bad as knowing there is child abuse going on and turning a blind eye to it. But … but.. didn’t Joan herself – THE GREAT CRUSADER AND SAVIOR OF ADOPTEES AND ABUSED CHILDREN call child abuse on her own sister Gert for “suspected child abuse in 1982?” If Joan is such a dam crusader WHY DIDN’T SHE DO SOMETHING FOR THIS POOR ABUSED ANIMAL?

  4. Joan logic/reason is faulty! She thinks, if you can call it that, that by telling everyone how DAMAGED she is that will show that ADOPTION IS THE CAUSE. First clue is that adoption has NOTHING to do with the reasons that Joan is mentally ill. Adoption is what Joan blames for her miserable life.

    Sure, she was adopted and by people who obviously were flawed and perhaps abusive TO Joan, OR, perhaps there was someone else in Joan’s childhood that abused her…but…the fact remains that Joan Wheeler was flawed LONG BEFORE THE BIRTH FAMILY KNEW HER.

    We did not have anything to do with her upbringing or what happened to her in that Wheeler family. We are the birth family and we will NEVER accept the damage and abuse that Joan Wheeler has done to us!

    Joan Wheeler did not, as in this chapter of her life, or in any other period and situation, WANT to help any abused animal or person. Joan Wheeler’s only purpose in life was to WRITE and expose and exploit two families for the CRIME OF ADOPTION and if anyone got in the way…well…read this book chapter entry AGAIN and see for yourself.

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