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Adoption Issues and the Purpose of Our Blogs

by on February 24, 2012

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Adoption issues and the purpose of our blogs
by Ruth Sippel Pace – September 3, 2011 –
To clarify the position of the birth sisters of Joan Wheeler:

We have already dealt with “adoption issues,” YEARS ago. Joan Wheeler was adopted out in 1956 and we were reunited with her in 1974. We have dealt with the issues of seperation and reunion more than THIRTY YEARS AGO!

We do not need to be lectured anymore on those issues. We have read, we have researched, we have learned. We did our duty in feeling sorry for Joan a long time ago and moved on. What people fail to understand is that our issues with Joan is NOT about adoption or reunion at all! It is dealing with Joan’s BEHAVIOR! Interfering with a minor child, telling them not to obey their parent, lying, stealing, stalking, calling people’s job to get them fired, writing letters to people saying their spouse impregnated other women – these are some of the anti-social behaviors that Joan Wheeler has engaged in that affected us. Then the final straw, writing and publishing a book that contains gross lies and misrepresentations – for the sole purpose of ruining people’s reputations. And those lies in the book fell into the legal definition of slander and libel and caused the book to be pulled from publication BY THE PUBLISHER.

Are Joan’s anti-social behaviors caused by her adoption? Perhaps – but THAT DOES NOT EXCUSE THEM! Adofl Hitler was abused as a child. We give him no sympathy. Now I’m not daring to compare the slaughter of 6 million human beings to the pain that I endured as a victim of Joan Wheeler – the point is – I WAS HURT AND HURT DEEPLY BY JOAN WHEELER AND I DON’T GIVE A DAMN THAT SHE WAS ADOPTED OR NOT! She does not get to garner sympathy by using me as her footstool.

The topic of adoption does come up from time to time on this blog. This is because it’s Joan Wheeler’s obsession – to relate EVERYTHING in her life to adoption. This includes us, her birth sisters. She insists that we have problems due to HER adoption! She may be partially correct, but not in the way she thinks – our problem with Joan’s adoption is because we are sick of hearing about it. Our lives do not revolve around adoption and we wish that Joan would understand that.

As to people wanting to lecture me to “forgive and forget and move on.” – Been there, done that. I had already moved on. And so did Gert. We were more than willing to live our lives in peace and quiet and indeed were doing just that since around 2004! It was when Joan put that lying book out in November 2009 that we said “ENOUGH! The world will now learn the truth about Joan and we will hold nothing back!” And Joan continues to this present day to lie about us on the internet. And we will counter every lie she spouts with THE TRUTH!

Anyone who can’t handle THE TRUTH can just leave this webpage right now. And don’t look back. As noted author Harlan Ellison says, via a sign on his door, DIG OR SPLIT!

Our standing up to the bully Joan Wheeler via our blogs IS NOT AN INVITATION FOR PEOPLE TO COME AND PASS JUDGMENTS ON US AND OUR LIVES.

By publishing that filthy book and maintaining her websites of lies,  Joan has trampled on our civil and human rights. AND OUR CIVIL AND HUMAN RIGHTS ARE NOT NEGOTIABLE.

– thank you D.G.

Gert here:

thank you Ruth for reposting our positions regarding adoption issues and Joan Wheeler. When others have been in OUR shoes for as long as we have, dealing with and being victimized by Joan Wheeler, then and only then, can they have the right to judge us.

We do not give self-righteous opinions to ANY OTHER person, adoptee or not, other than Joan Wheeler…who has abused us, in oh so many ways, over the years, and then wrote a libelous book full of lies to exploit us and other family all over again!

Make no mistake….if Joan Wheeler was truthful….her book would still be available…it is NOT, because it is libelous!

Take a close careful read of our two blogs….they DOCUMENT every lie and deed that Joan has done and is still doing. We shall always expose her for the dirt she has done to us. When she wrote a book she opened herself up for full disclosure by us…deal with it.

If anyone who reads our blogs, don’t like what they see there then I suggest you just don’t come back. We are NOT interested in hearing how we ought to give Joan some slack or that we should write our own book….these blogs ARE OUR BOOK!

So take your self-righteous goodie goodie words some place else…we have done that, been there and have the scars on our backs to prove our worth!

Gert says: “We do not give self-righteous opinions to ANY OTHER person, adoptee or not, other than Joan Wheeler…who has abused us..”

Well …. we may have given some self-righteous opinions on SOME other people – because they, having been manipulated by Joan, have come over to my blog (Refuting a Book of Lies) and left obscene comments. Notably a bunch of “adult” adoptees from the Adult Adoptees Advocating for Change forum. Joan even manipulated a boyfriend to do the same. And Joan manipulated professional people to do her dirty work. Joan is a bully, plain and simple. And we stand up to the bully and all her henchmen.

When we write about the Adoptees Forum, it is because we are appalled at the hate going on over there. Hate and cyberbullying! They routinely post web addresses of pro-adoption sites and instruct their members to go and spam those sites. This is encouraging their members to break the law.

The last four words of Gert’s quote: “who has abused us.” – Any person, adoptee or not, professional or not, who comes to our blogs and abuses us, by lectures or obscene comments gets the same treatment as Joan: a spotlight shone on their words and deeds.

Anyone who does that is fair game for us to answer.

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2 Comments
  1. Gert here:

    thank you Ruth for reposting our positions regarding adoption issues and Joan Wheeler.
    When others have been in OUR shoes for as long as we have, dealing with and being victimized by Joan Wheeler, then and only then, can they have the right to judge us.

    We do not give self-righteous opinions to ANY OTHER person, adoptee or not, other than Joan Wheeler…who has abused us, in oh so many ways, over the years, and then wrote a libelous book full of lies to exploit us and other family all over again!

    Make no mistake….if Joan Wheeler was truthful….her book would still be available…it is NOT, because it is libelous!

    Take a close careful read of our two blogs….they DOCUMENT every lie and deed that Joan has done and is still doing. We shall always expose her for the dirt she has done to us. When she wrote a book she opened herself up for full disclosure by us…deal with it.

    If anyone who reads our blogs, don’t like what they see there then I suggest you just don’t come back. We are NOT interested in hearing how we ought to give Joan some slack or that we should write our own book….these blogs ARE OUR BOOK!

    So take your self-righteous goodie goodie words some place else…we have done that, been there and have the scars on our backs to prove our worth!

  2. Gert says: “We do not give self-righteous opinions to ANY OTHER person, adoptee or not, other than Joan Wheeler…who has abused us..”

    Well …. we may have given some self-righteous opinions on SOME other people – because they, having been manipulated by Joan, have come over to my blog (Refuting a Book of Lies) and left obscene comments. Notably a bunch of “adult” adoptees from the Adult Adoptees Advocating for Change forum. Joan even manipulated a boyfriend to do the same. And Joan manipulated professional people to do her dirty work. Joan is a bully, plain and simple. And we stand up to the bully and all her henchmen.

    When we write about the Adoptees Forum, it is because we are appalled at the hate going on over there. Hate and cyberbullying! They routinely post web addresses of pro-adoption sites and instruct their members to go and spam those sites. This is encouraging their members to break the law.

    The last four words of Gert’s quote: “who has abused us.” – Any person, adoptee or not, professional or not, who comes to our blogs and abuses us, by lectures or obscene comments gets the same treatment as Joan: a spotlight shone on their words and deeds.

    Anyone who does that is fair game for us to answer.

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