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UPDATE on Americans for Open Records and Adopted Child Syndrome’s notice of Joan Wheeler’s libelous book Forbidden Family

by on March 8, 2012

 I had posted, about my communications with Lori Carangelo, of  AmFor; it can be seen on this post…

Americans for Open Records and Adopted Child Syndrome on November 1, 2011

 On March 6, 2012 I saw an updated version of Lori’s site where she promotes Joan Wheeler’s libelous book… Americans for Open Records and Adopted Child Syndrome @ www.amfor.net/acs/ 

First here is what WAS on the site, before the change….

In FORBIDDEN FAMILY at http://ForbiddenFamily.com – author Joan Wheeler (Sipple), an adoptee who is a social worker, adoption reform activist, advocate for donor offspring and a suicide prevention and crisis counselor who has, for years, suffered clinical depression and battled thoughts of suicide, reveals how being adopted by strangers as a “half orphan” created the emotional abuse that has dominated her life ever since. …..end
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Now, Lori had indicted to me in her communications that she was UNABLE to make changes to her site because of the money issues. Well, it’s amazing that she was ABLE to make the changes that she wanted. Who paid for them Lori? Talk about two-faced liars! I will first pull out, from the ‘new and updated’ promotion, statements about this libelous book and place them in italics and I will comment on them. Then, I’ll show the complete entry. Obviously, after the communications I had with Lori Carangelo, she spoke with Joan Wheeler, for the new and ‘improved’ statements are full of gross errors and exaggerations that could only have come from Joan as well as some more vague threats from Lori. Touchy, touchy, touchy!!

I do find it amazing how some people seem to think that being adopted is a MEDICAL/EMOTIONAL CONDITION! I beg your pardon! I will NOT be threaten by the THOUGHT POLICE because they don’t like the fact that I have spoken out over Joan’s lies and libelous material. I shall NOT be held hostage and will NOT be forced into silence. I will speak my outrage over the blatant libeous material that Joan Wheeler has put out and still puts out against me and my family. I will contact anyone, that I can, who promotes that hatefull book and tell them. The general public has a RIGHT to know the truth and I shall not be silenced.

So Lori’s new updated notices says, in part…

(currently out of print) This is misleading and false. The book was PULLED FROM PUBLICATION by the publisher due to the libelous material in it. That is a big difference. It will NEVER be reprinted. If you go to order it any where, any how, it will NOT be printed! Speak the truth Lori!

The book itself so enraged certain family members that, despite that names were changed in the book and the book no longer exists (is out of print), they launched viscious bullying attacks and threats against Ms. Wheeler, her publisher, AmFOR, and anyone else whose website even displayed the inocuous cover or mentioned the book ever existed, demanding that all mention be removed from Internet, just as adoptees are removed from their pre-adoption truths, despite that Amazon.com and other sites do not remove books but just indicate when they are out-of-print.

Aside from the fact that this is an terrible run-on sentence…it is also very false, misleading and borders on libelous material itself. Be careful Lori your anger is showing!

The book enraged ALL family members, it is only Ruth and Gert that have the strength and fortitude to expose Joan Wheeler’s lies to the world! Yes, we want full credit for getting a libelous hateful book pulled. This book will help NO ONE. This book is an attack on the HONOR of two families. See our blog post on Ruth’s blog…The Big Book Buying Burning Burial of Forbidden Family by Joan Wheeler December 16, 2011

The names of ‘some’ family members, in the book may have been altered but the names were there; our parents names and other family members names were published and other vital information provided. Plus, in the book, on page 302, footnoted on #15, is the name of the article, The Secret is Out, with publication information, in which that article did indeed publish our full names. Joan Wheeler should NOT have provided that reference. It is obvious that Lori Carangelo has NEVER read the book or she would have known better. Where is your research Lori…you should NOT take Joan’s word for anything…she is a liar!

And again, Lori makes the mistake of saying Joan’s book is ‘out of print’…no it will NEVER be reprinted…big big difference. No, we did NOT launch any kind of ‘viscious bullying attacks and threats’! I have provided here in this post, my post that has the complete communication I had with Lori. My intent was to inform her of having a libelous book on her site and she CHOOSE to take offense and make a mountain out of a mole-hill. So be it…but I did not attack her! If anything she has attack me by giving me a threat, once in her paper letter to me…see my post…and again here in this new updated notice! And Lori doesn’t think she’s a BULLY!

As far as the publisher is concerned please take a CLOSE look at the post that I’ve provided here about the lying libelous book, for short BBBBB, and what the publisher actually said! The communications with the publisher was not any form of an attack. The publisher SAW, after their own investigations, that Joan lied to them, she violated their contract, and they SAW the documentation that Ruth and Gert provided to the publisher. If Lori wants to continue to keep her head in the sand…so be it…but we did not attack the publisher; we DON’T have that kind of POWER. Did Lori call or email the publisher or did she just take Joan’s word for it? I HAVE provided direct communication with the publisher in my post, I suggest Lori that you read it and email the publisher YOURSELF. To do less is very very sloppy of you.

I don’t give a rat’s ass about what Amazon or any other Internet seller does…that’s not the point…the point is that I was communicating with Lori to show her that she is indeed promoting a libelous book that has been PULLED FROM PUBLICATION. It is a grave disservice to the millions of people, who have real emotional issues, to believe that THAT book will HELP them. No one in their RIGHT mind wants to have a libelous hateful lying book as a reference. Apparently Lori doesn’t care about HER reputation…I do about mine.

 I do wish these people would act like grown ups. Why is Lori on her ‘bully pulpit’ here…just as adoptees are removed from their pre-adoption truths, seems to me that’s a misplaced editorial instead of ‘reporting’ on the contents of a lying book that no LONGER EXISTS. Just because Lori and Joan believe they have a mental condition called ADOPTION doesn’t mean they are correct.

 On 2-19-12, “CBS-60 Minutes” announced new findings that anti-depressant medications worked no better than placebos and so it is theorized that the mind alone can heal itself through positive thinking. One can only speculate whether anyone who taunts an adoptee (or anyone) known to be suicidal could potentially be indicted for Attempted Murder.

Am I suppose to be worried about something here? Is this a threat Lori? Why don’t you stop beating around the brush and come right out with what the hell you want to say and do to me! Seems to me that I NEVER voiced a threat to Lori, look at my communications which I provide, she is the one who took umbrage over my insistence about a libelous book and the fact that I don’t subcribe to her line of thinking.

How much of this statement is from the news story and how much is Lori’s speculations and bullying? Attempted Murder…gods you people really have an imagination!

Just where do these people get these strange thoughts? If Joan is as suicidal as she says she is and that people like Lori believe she is, then why does Joan go out in the big wide world LOOKING FOR AND GOING AFTER THE BLOOD of pro-adoption people? Why does Joan put herself in HARM’S WAY? Any idiot knows that you can’t protect yourself from harm if you don’t take precautions. If Joan is indeed a sensitive fragile person…why does she put herself on the BATTLEFIELD with other angry militant adoptees who browbeat, harass and bully anyone who doesn’t think like her and them?

I don’t buy this bullshit about ‘attempted murder’. We are NOT taunting Joan! We are showing Joan’s LIES reporting Joan’s OWN words and deeds, we are NOT MAKING UP STORIES. For such a thing (like attempted murder) to even be considered, Joan would have to have a squeaking clean profile and track record. Guess what? She doesn’t! Why do you think that I’m exposing ALL evidence of Joan’s bullying, browbeating, harassing, cussing and fighting with others over adoption? Because Joan Wheeler is a very dangerous person and she and her record are far from squeaking clean. She can’t pass the test of someone who is a delicate suicidal person, it’s all a cover-up because she is a bully! It’s all a big act, to get attention, because, my god, she have this condition called adoption!

Now remember what the FIRST ORIGINAL entry was and now the full UPDATED entry from amfor’s site…

In “FORBIDDEN FAMILY” (currently out of print) – author Joan Wheeler (Sipple), an adoptee who is a social worker, adoption reform activist, advocate for donor offspring, and a suicide prevention and crisis counselor who has, for years, suffered clinical depression and battled thoughts of suicide. Not all post-adoption reunions are ideallic “Oprah reunions” depending on the degree damage done by adoption secrecy and how the parties react.

Wheeler revealed how being adopted by a family member as a “half orphan” and never being told despite other family members knew of their biological relationship, has been the emotional abuse that has dominated her life and caused her depression ever since. The book itself so enraged certain family members that, despite that names were changed in the book and the book no longer exists (is out of print), they launched viscious bullying attacks and threats against Ms. Wheeler, her publisher, AmFOR, and anyone else whose website even displayed the inocuous cover or mentioned the book ever existed, demanding that all mention be removed from Internet, just as adoptees are removed from their pre-adoption truths, despite that Amazon.com and other sites do not remove books but just indicate when they are out-of-print.

On 2-19-12, “CBS-60 Minutes” announced new findings that anti-depressant medications worked no better than placebos and so it is theorized that the mind alone can heal itself through positive thinking. One can only speculate whether anyone who taunts an adoptee (or anyone) known to be suicidal could potentially be indicted for Attempted Murder.

http://forbiddenfamily.com/ – author Joan Wheeler (Sipple), an adoptee who is a social worker, adoption reform activist, advocate for donor offspring and a suicide prevention and crisis counselor who has, for years, suffered clinical depression and battled thoughts of suicide, reveals how being adopted by strangers as a “half orphan” created the emotional abuse that has dominated her life ever since.

 Ruth

First off, I will be addressing the issue of the “taunts”, suicide, murder, and all the other little exaggerations of Joan Wheeler as soon as I can. Joan’s comment the other day contained a whole bunch of stuff that needs to be addressed – and they will ALL be addressed – and posted.

As Gert pointed out – Joan’s book Forbidden Family was pulled from publication BY THE PUBLISHER. Yes, we sent them our complaints – they reviewed the complaints and concluded that JOAN WHEELER VIOLATED HER CONTRACT WITH THEM.

Joan Wheeler in her book referenced an article that she wrote “The Secret is Out” in 1990. It was published by the Adoption and Fostering Quarterly Journal, (British Agencies for Adoption and Fostering). Her original article contained Joan’s true birth and adopted names, as well as MY real name.

Guess what folks? That aritcle is archived on the internet at Adoption and Fostering Quartering website for members. To be a member- one only has to sign up! No money is needed! SO ANYBODY CAN READ THAT ARTICLE AND SEE MY REAL NAME! And JOAN TOLD EVERYONE IN THAT BOOK TO READ THAT ARTICLE – so she compromised MY identity! JOAN’S BOOK CAME OUT BEFORE I STARTED MY BLOG .

Further, in the book, she LIES about me – she accuses me of having a CRIMINAL RECORD. Since people can reference that article, get my name, read from Joan that I have a CRIMINAL RECORD, Joan has slandered and libeled me. ACTUAL COURT DOCUMENTS WERE SUBMITTED TO TRAFFORD PUBLICATIONS AND IT WAS THESE ACTUAL COURT DOCUMENTS (which I have posted to my blog and will again) WAS WHAT GOT JOAN’S BOOK PULLED.

So Lori, if Joan can mislead people as to her “protecting my identity”, LIE to her own publisher that her book contained the truth, LIE to her own publisher that she was the “sole copyright owner” of the work and all it’s contents (she did not, nor never did, own copyright to the photo on the back cover) – TRAFFORD PUBLICATIONS SAW HOW JOAN WHEELER LIED TO THEM AND VIOLATED HER CONTRACT WITH THEM.

THAT IS WHY THE BOOK GOT PULLED LORI. – GET YOUR FACTS STRAIGHT.- Joan is damn lucky Trafford doesn’t take Joan to court over this.

P. S. Lori – our family name is spelled S i p p E l. The e goes BEFORE the l, not afterwards. This proves that Lori knows dipsquat about our family – she doesn’t even get names spelled right. – This is an accomplished author?

March 9, 2012, 1:00pm. I just got an email that denied me access to the British Agencies for Adoption and Fostering (BAAF) archive of their Quarterly Journal – The reason? I am not a member of the BAAF. Top become a member, one must pay a fee. This is different from what I wrote above. – sorry, I did not understand that only paid members could access the archives.

However – this does not negate Joan’s breach of privacy of my name – The BAAF has many members – paid members – that DO have access to their archives. And CAN see the original article that Joan wrote in 1990 that HAS my true name. The article that Joan referenced in her book. Joan gives the name of the article, and the name and date of the publication. Any paid member of the BAAF who read Joan’s book WOULD have access to the archives and read the article, see my real name and well – there you go – MY REAL NAME WAS COMPROMISED, ALONG WITH THE FALSE ACCUSATION THAT I HAD A CRIMINAL RECORD!

According to Trafford Publications Terms of Conditions for authors it clearly states that even if the author CHANGES NAMES IN THE BOOK, IF A PERSON CAN RECOGNIZE THEMSELF, THE AUTHOR IS GUILTY OF LIBEL.

So Lori Corangelo. It is not I, the victim here who is at fault – it is your lying friend Joan Wheeler. Joan violated the Terms of Conditions that HER publisher set forth. I, Ruth Sippel Pace did not make up those rules and regulations, TRAFFORD PUBLICATIONS did. And since Joan Wheeler VIOLATED those terms and conditions – her precious little lie-filled book was killed. It is not sleeping, as Joan reports on her website, it is DEAD. Face it Lori, you got egg on your face – but you are a little lying snake, just like Joan, and refuse to admit when you made a mistake. BAH – go back to painting cars – because as an advisor for would-be authors you failed.

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  1. First off, I will be addressing the issue of the “taunts”, suicide, murder, and all the other little exaggerations of Joan Wheeler as soon as I can. Joan’s comment the other day contained a whole bunch of stuff that needs to be addressed – and they will ALL be addressed – and posted.

    As Gert pointed out – Joan’s book Forbidden Family was pulled from publication BY THE PUBLISHER. Yes, we sent them our complaints – they reviewed the complaints and concluded that JOAN WHEELER VIOLATED HER CONTRACT WITH THEM.

    Joan Wheeler in her book referenced an article that she wrote “The Secret is Out” in 1990. It was published by the Adoption and Fostering Quarterly Journal, (British Agencies for Adoption and Fostering). Her original article contained Joan’s true birth and adopted names, as well as MY real name.

    Guess what folks? That aritcle is archived on the internet at Adoption and Fostering Quartering website for members. To be a member- one only has to sign up! No money is needed! SO ANYBODY CAN READ THAT ARTICLE AND SEE MY REAL NAME! And JOAN TOLD EVERYONE IN THAT BOOK TO READ THAT ARTICLE – so she compromised MY identity! JOAN’S BOOK CAME OUT BEFORE I STARTED MY BLOG .

    Further, in the book, she LIES about me – she accuses me of having a CRIMINAL RECORD. Since people can reference that article, get my name, read from Joan that I have a CRIMINAL RECORD, Joan has slandered and libeled me. ACTUAL COURT DOCUMENTS WERE SUBMITTED TO TRAFFORD PUBLICATIONS AND IT WAS THESE ACTUAL COURT DOCUMENTS (which I have posted to my blog and will again) WAS WHAT GOT JOAN’S BOOK PULLED.

    So Lori, if Joan can mislead people as to her “protecting my identity”, LIE to her own publisher that her book contained the truth, LIE to her own publisher that she was the “sole copyright owner” of the work and all it’s contents (she did not, nor never did, own copyright to the photo on the back cover) – TRAFFORD PUBLICATIONS SAW HOW JOAN WHEELER LIED TO THEM AND VIOLATED HER CONTRACT WITH THEM.

    THAT IS WHY THE BOOK GOT PULLED LORI. – GET YOUR FACTS STRAIGHT.- Joan is damn lucky Trafford doesn’t take Joan to court over this.

    P. S. Lori – our family name is spelled S i p p E l. The e goes BEFORE the l, not afterwards. This proves that Lori knows dipsquat about our family – she doesn’t even get names spelled right. – This is an accomplished author?

  2. March 9, 2012, 1:00pm. I just got an email that denied me access to the British Agencies for Adoption and Fostering (BAAF) archive of their Quarterly Journal – The reason? I am not a member of the BAAF. Top become a member, one must pay a fee. This is different from what I wrote above. – sorry, I did not understand that only paid members could access the archives.

    However – this does not negate Joan’s breach of privacy of my name – The BAAF has many members – paid members – that DO have access to their archives. And CAN see the original article that Joan wrote in 1990 that HAS my true name. The article that Joan referenced in her book. Joan gives the name of the article, and the name and date of the publication. Any paid member of the BAAF who read Joan’s book WOULD have access to the archives and read the article, see my real name and well – there you go – MY REAL NAME WAS COMPROMISED, ALONG WITH THE FALSE ACCUSATION THAT I HAD A CRIMINAL RECORD!

    According to Trafford Publications Terms of Conditions for authors it clearly states that even if the author CHANGES NAMES IN THE BOOK, IF A PERSON CAN RECOGNIZE THEMSELF, THE AUTHOR IS GUILTY OF LIBEL.

    So Lori Corangelo. It is not I, the victim here who is at fault – it is your lying friend Joan Wheeler. Joan violated the Terms of Conditions that HER publisher set forth. I, Ruth Sippel Pace did not make up those rules and regulations, TRAFFORD PUBLICATIONS did. And since Joan Wheeler VIOLATED those terms and conditions – her precious little lie-filled book was killed. It is not sleeping, as Joan reports on her website, it is DEAD. Face it Lori, you got egg on your face – but you are a little lying snake, just like Joan, and refuse to admit when you made a mistake. BAH – go back to painting cars – because as an advisor for would-be authors you failed.

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