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The beginnings of Joan Wheeler’s Internet campaign against her birth siblings

by on April 2, 2012

Reposting of January 2010, (with new information) about Joan Wheeler’s lying libelous book, Forbidden Family. An open letter to and about Joan Wheeler, from her eldest birth sister Gert McQueen and Joan Wheeler’s own words from her web site Forbidden Family.

My intent is to repost, over time, some of my earlier posts regarding Joan’s active attack upon us, the birth siblings, and our families. My intent also, in reposting, is to make sure that new readers see what I’ve written already and to refresh the memories of others. Also by reposting, it is a constant reminder to Joan that she NEEDS to remove the two libelous hate-filled blogs that she still has AGAINST us the birth siblings.

At the time that the book was published, November 2009, I did not have internet access, in my home. I still do not have it now in 2012. When I did finally did get a copy of the book, I read and wrote, at home on my lap top, and transported the files to a public library, where I have free internet access, for Ruth to post. I did not have my own blog until July 2011 when I did so as a help to Ruth.

Joan Wheeler had started calling her birth sisters, The Three Sippel Sisters, because, according to Joan, we were harassing her and committing cyberbullying. Ruth put up a blog with the name The Three Sippel Sisters and a couple of posts where placed there. We have no real need for that blog, it was only created BECAUSE Joan made such a stink over us, and lumped us three into one. I feel like that makes us ‘holy’ like…the trinity…three in one! Perhaps we are, you never know! And before anyone gets a bug up their ass…there are MANY trinities out there…okay…

You may find the orginal post @ Open letter to and about Joan Wheeler, from her eldest birth sister Gert McQueen

January 2010

I am one of the “three Sippel sisters” as Joan calls myself and our other two sisters. We also have a deceased brother. I find it interesting that even though she professes to be a “Sippel” by birth she does not consider herself a “Sippel Sister.” Why is that?

This is to set the record straight about how I have NOT harassed her but about WHAT she has done to my family and myself. I have no secrets, if she thinks there is any please, by all means, she should bring them out in the open, for Joan shall not blackmail me. She shall not hold me hostage to her emotional imbalance or her distortion of events or her omission of her own transgressions that she did perpetrate to myself and my families, those that I have come from, those I married into and those I gave birth to.

By choice I do not have email and am not connected to the net, that is why I’ve asked Ruth to scan and post this for me. Since Joan posted, without my permission, “all” of my last names and the city where I live its not difficult for anyone to find me. (see Joan’s website Forbidden Family, December 10, 2009, which is provided at the bottom of this post) I’m listed in the phone book, if anyone, out there, is truly interested in knowing more details about Joan’s adoption and reunion, from someone who actually does remember her as an infant and who brought about the initial reunion and who has suffered from her meddling interference or wants to know how she really is, feel free to phone me, I have nothing to hide. For I shall not be blackmailed and held hostage! Again it is interesting to note that Joan has no problem in telling the world her family’s names and where they live but I do not know where she lives nor her phone number. If I did know her address and phone # I have forgotten them over the years and don’t care to know them or her now. True fact – I have seen and spoken with Joan only three, count them 3, times in the past 27 years. Did you get that? In 27 years I have only had 3 contacts with Joan. I’m really slacking in my harassing her so this is my fourth contract to her.

And yet she had the audacity, a couple of months ago, November 2009, to call her town of Tonawanda NY Police Department (did you get that) to tell them that her sisters, whom she named, where harassing her and telling the police to phone one of them with the threat of court action of harassment if they did not leave her alone. Excuse me! And then in recent posts to her internet accounts she wonders why “Gert has backed off…and was only fishing for information a couple of years ago when she asked for her stepmother to phone Joan.” Excuse me! What was I backing off from? Haven’t talked to her in years and that last phone call, can’t even remember the date, sometime 2004, or 05, or 06, was yet another attempt, on my part, to reconcile with her. It’s called peace making, settling karma, forgiveness, burying the hatchet, whatever you like but certainly not fishing for information or harassment. But like everything else, Joan is incapable of understanding the other guy and/or minding her own business.

Why, you ask, is it that if it is my choice not to have, nor to want, contract with Joan that I should give a damn about what she has to say? Because she should be ashamed of herself for things she is saying and doing today and others should not be conned nor used by her. She has written the book, well people also need to hear the other side of the story.

Does she forget why I divorced her? Yes, that’s right, I divorced her, by my personal decree, that it is only an accident of birth (the work of the Wyrd Sisters or the Fates) that we both have the same blood parents and, in my opinion, that divorce is still in effect because of her inability to reconcile with me about what she has done to me and my family and her continued hatred for me and our other sisters. If anyone is unfamiliar with the Wyrd Sisters check your European and Classical mythologies.

A synopsis: I have 2 children from a first marriage, remarried in 1980 and my second husband wanted to adopt my children who were young teenagers. Because of their ages they had to give their permission to be adopted. My daughter was going through the usual teenage “identity crisis,” did not want to be adopted; she also was having issues with her natural father and it was deemed best that she not be adopted. None-the-less she was treated as if she was by her stepfather. During this time period I was paying $s for professional counseling as any family would to gain tools to keep the family together.

During the adoption procedures we had to go through many examinations by the adoption authorities and were found fit for adopting my son. Joan in her adoption zeal became abusive towards me because of the first two pieces of paper I had to sign for adopting my own son. On the first paper I signed, I, the birth mother relinquished my parental rights for said child. On the second paper I signed, I, the birth mother became the foster mother of said child. On the third I signed, I, the birth/foster mother became the adopted mother of said child. The said child was 16 years old and never left my home or heart! But Joan argued with me to the point of calling me an unfit mother and I had to kick her out of my home.

Then Joan, with another sister of mine, whom BTW has long ago, made amends, apologized to me for her involvement and whom I have forgiven, began interfering in my and my husband’s parental authority with my minor children. Joan told my 14-year-old daughter that she did not have to listen to her mother, that it was okay for to have a mixed racial sexual relationship, against my parental authority and encouraged my daughter to run away and Joan lied to family and police about my daughter’s whereabouts. When we found my daughter, she said she was abused and raped. My husband and I were labeled child abusers and rapists and put on the NY State Child Abuse List. My child was taken from me. Then they sued me for custody of my child. I asked for a home study to be done on both my sisters and they were found to be unsuitable to have a 14 year old in their custody.

I had to endure a year of investigations and an 8-hour hearing that produced a 16-page document that proved our innocence saying that everything my husband and I did was to protect my minor child from harming herself. But the damage was done. I placed my daughter in foster care and gave her legal freedom at age 17. My family was destroyed. My marriage broke up; no one in the family could believe that such a thing could happen. My son and daughter’s relationship has never been the same and my daughter has been estranged from many family members for decades. This is why I divorced Joan and left the city of Buffalo NY in 1982.

Ten years later, in 1992, our brother came home for a visit and there was an opportunity, I thought, to reconcile with Joan, put it behind us and move on. During the visit I shared with my sisters my finding of and involvement in a reawakening movement of Northwestern European ancestral folk religion and in particular Anglo-Saxon Theodish Belief. I had explained all this to our father a couple of years before. He asked me if I was happy in my choice of religious expression and when I said yes he said that is all that matters. But to Joan my religion was wrong. Unbeknown to me she went to our father’s home and complaining to him that there was “something wrong with Gert’s mental health because of the religion she is into.” Our father kicked her out of his home. When I heard about that I said okay she and I were still divorced.

I was very much involved in the development of Theodish Belief, from 1990 until I retired in 2000, including publishing a full-scale international magazine 4 times a year for 7 years, writing several booklets of my own, editing and publishing the works of several authors and am still considered one of the prime leaders of the whole Heathen movement. You can find my and others’ works on the net.

Interestingly, our brother knew and loved our ancestral Old Gods and Goddesses long before I did and when he died I wrote and circulated among many of the leaders who knew us both a “memory boast.” There’s a Heathen verse that says:

Cattle die, kinsmen die, you too shall die, and the only thing that remains is your reputation.

Think about it!

I didn’t speak with Joan for another 10 or 15 years, can’t remember when it was 2004, 05, 06, doesn’t matter, but I was at our father’s home in Buffalo, and again I thought perhaps Joan would be willing to have a decent conversation that could lead to reconciliation. I thought it was important to settle the karma while one can, none of us is getting any younger. I asked if someone would place the call to her, I never had the number, Joan and I had a nice conversation and she told me was a Unitarian Universalist. She knew that I had given some lectures at the Watertown Church. Don’t remember much more of that conversation thinking that is all I could do. That was the third and last time I spoke with Joan.

But seeing some of her comments recently on the web, I wonder if she really understands anything. She really ought to read and understand the Unitarian Universalist mission statement. They recognize the worth of every individual’s choice of expression in the divine. Joan does not adhere to that because she is a bigot. She condemns my religious expression. Why? I have for decades studied and practiced many religious traditions to learn from them. I wonder, is there a religion that I should be practicing that Joan would approve of?

Since that last conversation I had with Joan, our father has told me that over recent years Joan had helped him with rides to doctors and such. About a year or so ago he told me that Joan started to complain to him that he doesn’t help her with gas money and thinks of her as a taxi and that her car needs repairs and he ought to give her money to fix it. Dad gave her some “taxi” money, told her he doesn’t need her services, the car is her responsibility to fix, that if she doesn’t have money she should get a job and that it is best that they don’t “see” each other. Joan currently has been writing that her natural father, my father, is dying. He’s dying the same as all of us are. He is not on the deathbed.

Joan ought to be ashamed of her self for misrepresenting our father and his condition.

Joan ought to be ashamed of her self for the way she talks about her adoptive family and in particular her adoptive mother who probably really is on the deathbed.

Joan ought to learn about death and dying. The one thing elderly and the dying don’t need is stress, arguments, being forced to account for their decisions in their lives or have other unsavory conditions placed upon them. Joan is doing much damage here. Shame on you Joan.

Joan is doing much soul damage to those who have passed on; like not honoring our mother and her memory and to those that are aging like our father and those that are in the final end of days of their life like her adoptive mother. Shame on you Joan. I work with Hospice. I tend to those that are dying and know what I say here.

Joan is a soul vampire she sucks the energy out of people and eats their souls. You think I jest? Ask anyone in her families, birth or adoption, and they will tell you all kinds of horrors they have suffered. Shame on you Joan.

I can forgive Joan for what she did to my family but only if she can forgive herself and she stops her hatred for others and me. The one thing that forgiveness doesn’t mean is to forget. I shall never forget what she did and therefore shall never trust her again and true to her nature she is still falsely accusing me of things and misrepresenting other situations. There’s a great wisdom: one cannot have a conversation, or a constructive argument, with a drunk or a mentally disturbed person.

Joan get some help and humility before it is too late. Another Heathen wisdom: You Are Your Deeds!

Your sister, Gert

now a bit of an update….April 2012…

Unknown to me at the time, our Aunt Doris had died in Nov of 2009. Ruth, wanting to let Joan know that her name-sake at died, called Joan to inform her. But, as is typical of Joan, she went crazy on the phone to Ruth because Ruth dared to call her. Joan then called her police department as I relate in the above post. On Joan’s Forbidden Family web site you can see her original posts where she first posts that the aunt died…on Nov 9, 2009 and which she updated Jan 11, 2010. It must be remembered that the libelous book was scheduled to be published later that month. And of course WE SIBLINGS knew nothing about that. Joan was keeping it a secret from us! And when Ruth called Joan to tell about the death of an aunt, Joan when crazy because she BELIEVED that we found out about the book…and Joan had to quickly cover her tracks by calling the police with false harassment claims and then she started her internet campaign against us….more on that later.

and NOW directly from Joan Wheeler’s site Forbidden Family….my EVIDENCE and PROOF

10 Dec 2009 @ 10:09 PM

No comment on comment moderation.

IPs are no longer being tracked.

Kaleidahealth.org and Buffalo General Hosptial employee Ruth Sippel Pace has made it her business to attract public attention. It seems that she wants it that way. She and sister Kathy Sippel Inglis from Liverpool, UK want to humilate me. Funny thing, our oldest sister, Gertrude Sippel Finken McQueen, has somehow backed off. Wonder why. Keep at it and I will publish online the real reasons you keep doing what you do. Freedom of speech, right? Want to do trash talk? I’ll give you trash talk of all the dirty little secrets all three of you have that are not in my book.

And, why did I bother to change names in the book? I was thinking of all of YOUR privacy, but heh, guess it is time to use real names because Ruthie decided to jump the gun.

You have invaded my life time and time again. Go ahead. You want to know you have hurt me, well, you have. Repeatedly.

I am worth nothing. You have proven that. I give my deep and humble bow to the authority of my older and wiser sisters.

I am paying for this website, but it is yours now. Do with it as you please. I will continue to pay for any abuse you fling my way.

Reunions are not bad. Adoptees are not bad. But when they are found by sisters who have no respect for others, then there is a big problem.

Anyone who wants to read more abuse, please read the Page: Cyber Bullies and Stalkers Forum.

Go to it. I’m just a lousy, good for nothing, adoptee, born a premie, should have died because then the four older kids would have had your mother. Baby sister is just a shit head.

Involve yourselves some more in my life. Go ahead. Kill any chance of a life for me. You’ve been doing that for decades.

**

Ruth here –
please deeply read what Joan is writing on those rants. “born a premie, should have died so the four older children could have mother to themselves.” – Mom died anyway – so what does this sentance mean? “baby sister just a shithead.”

Joan is writing those things HERSELF! No one was saying those things to her.

The rants were a direct response to my new blog – which had been up for only a week. Joan gets herself into a rage and starts talking nonsense. She does it in real life, I’ve seen in letters she’s written to me – and now we see it on the internet. She will start out quietly and rationally, then rapidly starts talking about things that have NOT been in the conversation – she then pulls those things into the conversation and starts accusing the other person of it. Then her voice becomes rapid and high-pitched and she ends up screaming. And swearing. (maybe she has Tourette’s). Any chance of the other person to continue an intelligent conversation, or even denying what Joan is accusing them of is gone. You have NO chance to stand up for yourself – because if she ‘s in person, your ears are hurting, a fight now starts. If on the phone, as soon as you begin to defend yourself, Joan hangs up on you.

She is an irrational mentally ill person. Like the stewardess who had the melt-down on the plane a couple of weeks ago, Joan is screaming nonsense. The stewardess was yelling the plane was going to crash and she wasn’t going to be responsible – before they even took off – and so does Joan – she takes off on a nonsense tangent – things you don’t even know what she’s talking about – things that happened to her, but not to you. But in her delusions, she believes that YOU did it. She speculates as to your motives. Every little look on your face, gesture of your arm, is interpreted. And usually wrongly. And then – she’s got you!

“Aha!”, she thinks, “I just KNEW it, she thinks I’m a shit head, she’s the one who called me this morning and hung on me. (it was probably an innocent wrong number) – yeah, those f’ing birth sisters of mine – they think I should have died,then they would have had mom to themselves. Well, I’ll show them. I’ll call the police on them. I’ll write to the mayor about them. yeah, because I know that’s what they did to me. They hate me. They’ve hated me for years. I know everything they’ve done.”
And on and on she goes. Then she starts BELIEVING the things that we’ve “supposedly” done. And reports those things as true.
This is a sick woman who seriously needs to be committed to the psych center. She is always whining that she wants HER privacy respected, but as we see in her rants, she blabbed OUR personal business to the internet. Like she did to me in 1995 when she wrote to the mayor of Buffalo, telling him all about me, my job, my infertility issues, my living with a black man.
Where are the men with the straight-jackets?

for a detailed timeline of computer/internet usage of The Three Sippel Sisters, please read this post:

http://ruthsippelpace.wordpress.com/2012/03/29/timeline-of-computerinternet-experiencesinvolvements-of-the-three-sippel-sisters-negating-the-false-facts-of-such-as-put-out-by-joan-wheeler/

Timeline of computer/internet experiences/involvements of The Three Sippel Sisters – negating the “false facts” of such as put out by Joan Wheeler

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  1. Ruth here –
    please deeply read what Joan is writing on those rants. “born a premie, should have died so the four older children could have mother to themselves.” – Mom died anyway – so what does this sentance mean? “baby sister just a shithead.”

    Joan is writing those things HERSELF! No one was saying those things to her.

    The rants were a direct response to my new blog – which had been up for only a week. Joan gets herself into a rage and starts talking nonsense. She does it in real life, I’ve seen in letters she’s written to me – and now we see it on the internet. She will start out quietly and rationally, then rapidly starts talking about things that have NOT been in the conversation – she then pulls those things into the conversation and starts accusing the other person of it. Then her voice becomes rapid and high-pitched and she ends up screaming. And swearing. (maybe she has Tourette’s). Any chance of the other person to continue an intelligent conversation, or even denying what Joan is accusing them of is gone. You have NO chance to stand up for yourself – because if she ‘s in person, your ears are hurting, a fight now starts. If on the phone, as soon as you begin to defend yourself, Joan hangs up on you.

    She is an irrational mentally ill person. Like the stewardess who had the melt-down on the plane a couple of weeks ago, Joan is screaming nonsense. The stewardess was yelling the plane was going to crash and she wasn’t going to be responsible – before they even took off – and so does Joan – she takes off on a nonsense tangent – things you don’t even know what she’s talking about – things that happened to her, but not to you. But in her delusions, she believes that YOU did it. She speculates as to your motives. Every little look on your face, gesture of your arm, is interpreted. And usually wrongly. And then – she’s got you!

    “Aha!”, she thinks, “I just KNEW it, she thinks I’m a shit head, she’s the one who called me this morning and hung on me. (it was probably an innocent wrong number) – yeah, those f’ing birth sisters of mine – they think I should have died,then they would have had mom to themselves. Well, I’ll show them. I’ll call the police on them. I’ll write to the mayor about them. yeah, because I know that’s what they did to me. They hate me. They’ve hated me for years. I know everything they’ve done.”
    And on and on she goes. Then she starts BELIEVING the things that we’ve “supposedly” done. And reports those things as true.
    This is a sick woman who seriously needs to be committed to the psych center. She is always whining that she wants HER privacy respected, but as we see in her rants, she blabbed OUR personal business to the internet. Like she did to me in 1995 when she wrote to the mayor of Buffalo, telling him all about me, my job, my infertility issues, my living with a black man.
    Where are the men with the straight-jackets?

  2. for a detailed timeline of computer/internet usage of The Three Sippel Sisters, please read this post:

    http://ruthsippelpace.wordpress.com/2012/03/29/timeline-of-computerinternet-experiencesinvolvements-of-the-three-sippel-sisters-negating-the-false-facts-of-such-as-put-out-by-joan-wheeler/

    Timeline of computer/internet experiences/involvements of The Three Sippel Sisters – negating the “false facts” of such as put out by Joan Wheeler

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