Joan Wheeler admits that she has a mental illness!!!
She maintains that adoption causes identity confusion and it is part of the mental illness that adoptees share and have! My, I didn’t know that Joan can make a diagnosis! Perhaps the board of ethics of Social Workers would like to know about this!
On the public forum of Adult Adoptees Advocating for Change, 1adoptee, ie. Joan Wheeler, gives everyone her two cents worth. The first paragraph is a quote from someone that Joan (in italics) is answering. I then give my comments.
I asked well, what was my name when you got me, or was everyone calling me “kid”?. She just says she doesn’t remember, but that they had “already decided”. I just glared and said within myself, “Well, I do…..” No wonder I have problems, and no wonder I am confused. If my birth first name was my name for the first almost year of my life, as of now, a lot of people are going to have to get used to it and start using it!
Yeah, I found out when I was 18 that I had a first, middle, and last name before I was legally adopted. I had my name from birth. My a-rents “got me” when I was 4 months old, and with the time I spent in the incubator after birth, I don’t know for sure if I heard my name before birth or at all while in the incubator. I know that my mother held me before she died, so she surely would have called me by my name. And my godparents took care of me for a few months before my father relinquished me, so my aunt and uncle no doubt called me by my name at birth and baptism. And so my pre-adoptive parents started calling me by the name of their choosing when I was 4 months old. My name was legally changed 15 months after my birth when my amended birth certificate was created.
This is identity confusion and it is part of mental illness caused by adoption. I am so sorry this happened to you. Six times changing caregivers in less than a year…that is horrible! No chance to develop security, recognition of caregiver, attachment. Infant emotional trauma during the first year, wow, what a find on the Internet. Yep, we’re left to deal with it. I’d be pissed, too, to find this out so late in life.
the following is Ruth’s comment to this blog post – I can’t supersede the formatting of the quote box (blue background)
In August 1996, my husband brought home two kittens for me for my birthday. Two little sisters. I named them Isis and Athena. Isis was black and white, Athena was a striped tabby with a white belly. Athena grew while Isis remained tiny and then grew sickly. It turned out Isis had feline leukemia and had to be put down. Athena escaped the disease. But a month before I took Isis into the vet, I noticed Athena on top of Isis – humping away. And I noticed, Athena was developing strong shoulder muscles. I turned Athena over and saw that Athena was a male! I was so embarrased. I have had lots of kittys and have never confused their gender. Here at the age of six months, I discover that Athena was not a she, but a he!
ps. oh yes – I, Pippin’s adoptive mother did a very bad thing. I neutered him at the age of 8 months. WITHOUT HIS CONSENT! Just as Joan circumsized her infant son WITHOUT HIS CONSENT. I think that both Pippin and Dennis adjusted quite nicely. Despite having their little wing-wangs meddled with.
right Ruth, that formatting is from that stupid forum…sometimes I just can’t get around it
good gods and goddesses! I didn’t know about Pippin’s background! you have been keeping SECRETS from me! You have lied to me about Pippin’s sexual orientation! And that he had a SISTER….who died!! And where is his MOTHER? Where is/was his FATHER? And then you don’t even tell everyone on the internet about the gift that I sent Pippin…a small Godzilla and how he opened the envelope! You betrayed me by NOT telling the whole story…you have kept me in the dark for months, maybe for years, ever since I mailed him the toy! You probably told all the neighbors about how he played with the toy but didn’t mention that I gave it to him. You have kept in away from knowing about his life and family! But don’t worry, I’m a big girl and I can get over it, unlike Joan!
As to Pippin’s Godzilla toy and me not giving you credit, – will lad-de-dah – EXCUSE ME for being human. And no, I didn’t tell the neighbors about you mailing him the toy, but I did tell my co-workers – even showed them the pictures that are on my facebook! So there!
And it’s really none of your business on how I raise my cat. And if I get any cat-abuse calls I’ll know who made the calls.
This is true: years ago, Francine’s cousin got mad at her and placed a call to the child abuse authorities against her for abusing — Renaissaince, Morris and PeeWee – John answered the door and the CPS worker asked to see them. So John whistled and called them by name, and here comes three cats.
as to Pippin’s sexual orientation – he is quite well adjusted as a neuter. And I will not have him discriminated against because of his sexual orientation. That is a hate crime you know. And against his civil rights.
I did forget to say that Pippin is a New Age Neo-Pagan cat with affinities to the Ancient Kemetic (Egyptian) pantheon of dieties.. He works with crystals. When I do any kind of ritual or crystal work, he sets himself on the floor at the south-west corner of my altar. His patron goddesses Bastet and Sekhmet watch over him.
Pippin has the freedom to choose whatever religion he wants, and I firmly stand by his choice.
Are you serious? about the abuse calls over cats!! if that is so and you just told about on the blog, better watch out that a copy-CAT (JW)won’t do it! again!
So now…civil rights are extended to cats!! is that similar to having a civil right to a original birth certificate? Which by the way…does he have all his papers in order? Can he prove he is who you say he is? Hey, I don’t discriminate unless of course it is related to food and drink…I do prefer real cheese over processed cheese and better wine over cheap wine. As far as people and cats are concerned as long as they behave with respect and honor I have no problem with anything…but…as soon as they are disrespectful and dishonest..well…take a lesson here JW.
Thank you for putting up Pippin’s pictures and for telling us more about his esoteric abilities!!! I see that he has very good judgements according to the ancient wisdoms of the goddesses!!
Long live Pippin the Mighty, adoptee that he is!