adoption, adoption reform, Adult Adoptees Advocating for Change, birth/adoptive families, browbeating people over adoption, confrontations with Joan Wheeler, cyberbullying, Edie Falco, hate speech against Edie Falco, sins of omission and suppress of one's own misdeeds
Joan Wheeler is at it again, browbeating an adoptive mother (the actress Edie Falco) using a FACEBOOK account!
What kind of CHANGE do these sick ADULTS think they are accomplishing? How can Joan Wheeler’s sick misguided logic help change anything? No Joan is just a bully, plain and simple.
BUT BEFORE WE GET TO THIS…HERE’S AN
UPDATE January 2016; as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler says about me and family. After the first book was pulled from publication by the publisher, May 2011, she has ‘self-published’ yet again, her ‘story’, NOW called ‘duped by adoption’. There is NOTHING in it for adoption reform, for she is totally against adoption and her two families. To learn more see…
NOW BACK TO THIS POST
On the public forum for Adult Adoptees Advocating for Change, we find a very strange thread and an even stranger comment…NOT by Joan Wheeler. But, the story thread was so sick that I decided to check to see where it started, on Facebook, and of course there WAS Joan…spewing her hate and garbage as usual.
So here is the sick comment that got my attention!
Ugh this is just sick.Someone needs to dip a sock in gasoline, stuff it in her mouth and light it on fire.
|Gert’s comment… Pretty sick isn’t it! Not only that, it is hate-speech! So I googled the title and found the Facebook page and found only 5 replies…Joan being one! My additional comments follow her words. And get a good look at that picture of Joan! What kind of idiot does that to their own image? Obviously she believes she is making a point, but probably NOT what she thinks she is doing. To me, what I see, is that Joan has INTERNALIZED her own denial of a life that she has! No wonder she can’t get a joyful life, she has lived an entire life, with the image of being DENIED. But, she wasn’t! That’s only in her mind.|
April 12, 2012 – 4:02pm Joan M Wheeler
Listen, Edie, I am an adopted person and I resent your comment: The second you are handed a newborn it is yours. It doesn’t matter what body it came out of. I’ve never felt more strongly about anything in my life. How dare you? No woman, no man, should be taking a newborn out of another woman’s uterus immediately after birth or anytime thereafter. No one has the right to another woman’s infant! Egotistical, misguided, and greedy. Thief. And you are a single woman, but single pregnant women are talked into giving up their own babies because they are single and poor. This is the rich taking form the poor. Shame on you. Also, adoptees lose their birth certificates because they are sealed upon finalization of adoption. Then, a new, false, birth certificate is issued with the name of the adoptive parents as ‘giving birth’. You did not give birth to your adoptees, you phony!
There is NO room for respect, for anyone, in Joan…she can’t be civil…unless she wants something from you and then you better be on alert! To Joan, a person who adopts is only viewed and addressed with contempt. And must know Joan’s outrage and resentment!
Joan refuses to acknowledge that there are many legitimate reasons for adoption and because she refuses to she condemns everyone and speaks to them in condescending tones and attitudes!
According to Joan, there should be NO BABY ADOPTED! And she will go to any length of drama to show that she means that! And then she continues with name-calling, …egotistical, misguided, and greedy, and thief… Like Joan is lily-white in her behavior and is NOT any of those things!! Talk about hypocrisy!
How does she get the rich taking form the poor in all of this…faulty logic! And while she’s on a roll, she shames another for wanting just to give children love and then calls her a phony! Who’s the phony here? Joan, because she is the one who has faulty logic and hate in her heart.
The change that Joan and these ‘adult’s want, birth-certificate change, is NOT going to happen, when they go out and harass and bully people who adopt.
oh no! Joan – didn’t you just post that quote from Dr. Wayne Dyer about not harming people? but you go and send a disrespectful message to Edie Falco?
Not only that – but you failed to go and lecture Lillie for that sick comment of hers. And listen up Joan – AND Lillie – who do you hypocrites think you are? Lillie – you are disgusting. To say Ms. Falco is sick – but then say you want to soak a sock in gasoline, stuff it in her mouth and set it on fire? You don’t think THAT is sick? You people at Adult Adoptees Advocating for Change are all sick individuals and you should all be locked up in an insane asylum.
To say such a thing about another human is disgusting. It is hate speech and Lillie, you had better hope nobody ever harms Ms. Falco – because you could be charged as an accessory. In fact, you should be charged for attempted murder. I hope Ms. Falco sees this and charges you for hate speech and harassment. you are a filthy person Lillie.
to clarify – it’s not a Facebook page – it’s a site run by the celebrity-gossip rag, US Magazine and it invites readers to comment on the article by signing on using their Facebook account. Gert only saw the comments by Joan and a couple of other adoptees with their facebook pictures and the facebook logo and thought it was from facebook.
Gert does not go on the internet that much – she uses a public library and has only an email account and this blog. She does surf the web using search engine Google, but does not have a facebook or other social media account.
In other words – she aint’ that internet savvy, like I am, so Joan can quit lumping Gert and me together as one entity when she keeps saying on the internet that her birth sisters are cyberbullying her.
As I said, Gert will search the internet and when she finds some garbage from Joan, she will comment on it. And that is her right.
I said it before – when Joan has accused us of stalking her on the internet – we are not stalking her – we are monitoring her to see what she says about us. And if she says some garbage about us or our family – we will step right in and correct the crap that Joan puts out about us.
We have said it before – we don’t care about adoption – if someone wants to adopt a child – that’s their business. If adoptees want to lobby politicians to change adoption laws, – go for it. If adoptees want a discussion forum to discuss their issues – that’s their business – but to use it to incite and promote hate – what the hell is wrong with these people?
When I read that disgusting remark about soaking a sock in gasoline and shoving into a person’s mouth and setting it on fire, I was apalled! How can one human being say such a thing about another human being? And it is justified because Ms. Falco adopted a child?
And Joan sees no wrong in it? Nor any other adoptee at that forum? Because nobody had the guts to step forward and say that comment was out of line?
Oh, and I’ll bet they are all jumping on the nurse in Texas who murdered the new mom and kidnapped the three day old baby. – And I join in with them in condemning her. And Joan gets on her website and pretends to be so New Age in her thinking and quotes motivational speaker Wayne Dyer saying that a mind should not focus on harming people. Well Joan – you called Edie Falco a phoney? Well I call you a phoney in turn – where are your guts that you don’t condemn Lillie in that cyber-threat against Ms. Falco -Bah- you, Joan, are not only a phony – (lies about her work history – resume padding – she is no social worker, never held a job as one) – lies about us, her blood relatives, lies about everything. She fits right in with those hateful adoptees.
You want to advocate something? Advocate shutting your dam mouths. Stuff your angry adoptee mouths with socks and grow the hell up. Cos you people are NOT adults. You are nothing but whiny little brats!
thank you Ruth for clarify what I saw and what I should have said…namely that Joan used her facebook account to harass Edie.
I also just edited the title of this post to reflect that clarification.