adoption, Adult Adoptees Advocating for Change, birth/adoptive families, browbeating to get your own way, confrontations with Joan Wheeler, cyberbullying, dead book, sins of omission and suppress of one's own misdeeds
Joan Wheeler really wants EVERYONE to know that we destroyed her book
Yes, I purchased $1,000 worth of copies of that libelous book and then YES I and Ruth physically destroyed them. I owned them. I destoyed them!
They were mine to do as I wished. The book CAN NOT be reprinted in it’s present form.
Personally, I find it rather interesting how Joan/Champ/It think that if they keep telling everyone what we are doing that that somehow will prove that Joan is right and we, siblings, are wrong. No, Joan you are just doing our job for us. Please, by all means, keep tell everyone about us, keep showing us in the light of your eyes because we like the attention that you are giving us. So by all means keep bringing attention to us and to yourself.
All your comments, here in the following post that you put up, are just part and particle of your (Joan) mindset and has absolutely NO reality as to what is actually going on in MY LIFE. Joan you are just grasping at straws, doing only what you are capable of doing, falsely believing that everyone thinks and acts as yourself, because that is how you are MADE. But, you see, I am NOT YOU and therefore I DON’T THINK nor ACT like you. It really doesn’t matter what YOU think and how and what kind of EVIDENCE you want to present to the world….it HAS already been posted on our blogs..so what are you trying to prove? If we wanted to hide what we did we wouldn’t have put it on our blog…Fool.
And because Joan, you came to my blog, in March 2012, thinking that you could change our mines, by bullying us, and that just didn’t work, did it! And that is why you decided to create Champ and this defendingjoanwheeler blog…so that you had a place where you could say all those horrible nasty things you have been DYING to say to us. Well, go ahead and knock yourself out….
and if I am your #1 viewer, then I also know that you are my #1 viewer…so keep looking…I like the attention you are giving me.
Joan you really ought to lay off the playground bully act of using childhood names. I know what versions my name takes and the fact that YOU have now, in your persona of Champ call me Gertie, only proves what we have been saying right along….you are POWERLESS to do anything and the ONLY power that you can generate is to belittle and browbeat and bully….go knock yourself out, honey…I’m having a blast watching you make a fool out of yourself. You are very good at making a caricature of yourself…keep going.
Champ, the defender placed this on his web site…be sure to look past the photos to get more wisdoms from Joan
Please note as well the behavior exhibited here. It’s not only childish, but shows a great deal of immaturity on the part of “adults”, does it not? How could anyone who is mentally stable consider taking pride in this type of behavior? Can this be taken for anything other than the the behavior of some form of mental disturbance?
First up – Covers of Forbidden Family on Ruth’s living room floor.
Next are covers and several copies of the hideous book.
the short little thing front center is a guillotined book – oh so appropriate for this book!
Next are two pictures of Gert having fun ripping up a book and placing them in an appropriate box.
and now – for the best picture of this collection: a cover of Joan Wheeler’s shitty book Forbidden Family alongside some shit in the litter box. Shit belongs with shit!
I’ll give credit where credit is due. The above pictures, along with the commentaries, were take directly from a blog called Refuting a Book of Lies: Forbidden Family.
I could have just as easily called this blog Refuting a Blog of Lies: Refuting a Book of Lies.
If you’re having trouble getting to sleep at night, or addicted to pointless whining, complaining, foul language, or if you feel the need to pick up some pointers on unladylike behavior, I guarantee you’ll find that, along with a healthy dose of jealousy, pure malice, and hate on that blog. If that doesn’t interest you, then you shouldn’t waste your time there. The whole premise of the blog is the imaginary belief that something was stolen from the writer’s family. The ONLY thing that was stolen was by the writer herself, and that was the concept that, judging by her behavior and that of her sisters, there was any honor to steal in the first place.
Joan, in her book, made every effort to conceal identities, places, times, and anything else that might have identified individuals. Had she not done that, her sisters would have been complaining about THAT! As it stands, it was the sisters themselves who revealed their own identities, and now they’re complaining that they can be identified. Well, who’s to blame NOW? And why do they think that anyone reading the book would be interested in identifying them in the first place? This is a clear case of egomania and paranoia. It is my sincere hope that these poor, disturbed individuals at some point seek the help they so obviously need. I also know they want me out of their affairs, and I want to BE out of their affairs. In fact, as soon as they stop their persecution of Joan and remove any blogs concerning Joan or her book, I’ll be happy to remove this blog and stay out of their affairs.
By the way, Gertie, thanks for being my #1 fan. Keep visiting here, and I might even monitize it!
And no – Joan did NOT do everything to protect our names. She referenced an article she wrote and had published in 1991 that had our REAL names in it. IN her book – she told readers how to get to that artilce.
on Trafford’s own website – “If a reader CAN RECOGNIZE THEMSELVES in your book – you can be sued for slander.”
And gives an example. “If you change your husband’s name and your husband’s doctor name, but not your own, and write slander against the doctor, the doctor can still sue you for slander.”
Joan left in her own real name, and MY FATHER’S REAL LAST NAME, AND THE REAL NAME OF OUR CITY. BOTH JOAN AND MY FATHER HAD THEIR NAMES AND PICTURES PUBLISHED IN THE BUFFALO NEWS IN ARTICLES ON ADOPTION. AND JOAN AND I WERE BOTH ON WGRZ-TV NEWS WITH OUR REAL NAMES AIRED ON TV. JOAN ALSO GIVES MY MOTHER’S REAL LAST NAME OF HERR.
So anybody living in Buffalo can !. see the last name of my father Sippel and the last name of my mother Herr – who had a child given up for adoption, leaving behind 4 other kids.
There are not that many Herrs or Sippels – people can put two and two together. Not everybody in Buffalo is as stupid as Joan seems to think they are, and as she says in her book – yes, she puts down people of Polish ancestry as being stupid, she puts down people living in Buffalo’s inner city as being stupid. – And that is hate speech – another no-no as far as Trafford publications is concerned. AND she even put obscene language in the book – and that was another no-no to Trafford.
Gee Champ – you mean with all your intelligence you forgot to check out Trafford’s Terms and Conditions for authors to consider when they enter into a contract with them? You didn’t do your homework.
But then, since Joan didn’t either, we see yet again, that Champ and Joan are the same person.
and yes, once we legally bought those books from Amazon, they became OUR personal property. And as such, we can do with them as we wish. As to Joan’s charge she never got paid for them – BALONEY! I don’t believe that for one minute.
Then again, once it was pointed out to Trafford Publications how Joan slandered us in her book, and Trafford, taking four months to go over everything with a fine tooth comb, and determined that yes, Joan did VIOLATE THE TERMS OF THE CONTRACT SHE SIGNED – (not protecting our names, not having SOLE copyrights of the photo on the back, hate language, obscene language), they deemed the contract NULL AND VOID. That means they didn’t have send Joan any money.
Oh, Joan, too bad, so sad.
And Joan, were we having a three-way telephone conversation with Trafford? Where in I told them that the whole family knew you were writing this book for years? And that I was the one who encouraged you to write it in the first place? So why did you say that I told Trafford that I didn’t know you were writing it? Liar. – but that’s all you ever know how to do – LIE.
Except, we really DID READ that book and in all my critiques of it I give page # to reference what I was writing about and give direct quotes of Joan’s own words.
So yes, indeed, being the sneak and snake that Joan is, in the book she DID REVEAL our names, by placing the title of an article and where it can be gotten, directly IN THE BOOK, as well as giving our family names and dates and places, easily researched,…all of which were reasons that Trafford dropped the book…they wanted NOTHING to do with any libelous book they would continue to publish ONCE they were made fully aware of the contents.
Furthermore, Joan did place that article and other identifying pieces on her FF website as well as hateful statements about us, BEFORE we had knowledge that the book was ACTUALLY published. Ruth has place a time-line of our internet activity on her blog to show that we did not identify ourselves, as in the book, before Joan did…It’s all on our blogs so Joan you really NEED to see ALL EVIDENCE that supports the birth siblings’ positions, because unlike you we do everything OUT IN THE OPEN
Joan and imaginary friends can keep trying to FIGURE us out as to how and why we do anything…knock yourself out…and you can keep putting your own spin on things, such like you did in the book…wear yourself out. We on the other hand will continue on doing what we are doing
gert here.. I looked it up and the reference to the article that Joan wrote, The Secret Is Out, in 1990, was referenced, in her libelous book on Page 302, footnoted #15, where it told where it was published.
In the book, where she mentions the article, she is relating what happened during a family ‘gathering’ not reunion, in 1992 and as part of her narrative, of how Ruth and Gert didn’t care of know what she was doing, Joan give a THROW AWAY line…meaning…that she DIDN’T WANT TO BE TOO MUCH ATTENTION ON TO THE FACT THAT SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT AN ARTICLE IN WHICH SHE NAMED US ALL! By doing that she thought she could get away with naming us! But, then she footnoted it and gave ALL INFORMATION ON HOW TO GET THAT ARTICLE. fool…she never thought that we would actually READ THE BOOK. But we have and we took action and it is the action that we took that PISSED Joan off…no one gets to write a lying libelous book and get away with it.