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Dissection of the inner workings of Joan Wheeler’s mind.

by on April 30, 2012

 Here is a break down, of the posts that Pilgrim (one of Joan Wheeler’s imaginary friends) said, on the thread on adoptive families circle. This exercise is to show how these figmentational characters are, all one and the same, Joan Wheeler. It is IMPOSSIBLE for another human being to use the same words and expressions of ANOTHER and claim to be a SECOND person. This is a rather long post, but ever so informative, please stay with it.

 Joan’s ‘alter-ego’ is Pilgrim/Champ, halforphan56 is Joan, birthsibling is Ruth and eldestbirthsibling is Gert. Pilgrim’s words are in italic

FIRST POST BY PILGRIM:
Boy! You want to talk about HATE? Just read Birth Sibling’s posts. Take a look at eldestbirthsibling’s posts as well. Have these 2 even LOOKED at the terms of use here? I happen to know halforphan56. She is a sincere lady, ( I apply the term lady to her and her alone. It has no application to the 2 previously mentioned posters.), and she’s trying to make a difference. The other 2 have been doing nothing other than meddling in her life and trying to destroy her mentally, professionally, and physically for over 30 YEARS! And why? Because halforphan56 wrote a book about her life as she lived it. Certainly there were some things that may have been unflattering about the people in her life, but anyone who has read the book knows that she was often as hard on herself as she was on others.

Gert here…what we see here is an example of the angry adoptees’ tactic of ‘tag-teaming’. Joan wants it to appear that a second angry adoptee is on that thread and so she uses her created alter ego…pilgrim. But if you were to look at the profiles of these two (halforphan and pilgrim) you will find that halforphan only joined that site about 2 weeks before and that Pilgrim only about 2 HOURS before he/she/it posted! And Joan wants everyone to believe that she has another friend! So pilgrim brings attention to the ‘hate’ that has been posted by birthsibling’s posts and as a ‘throw-away’ mentions eldestbirthsibling’s posts. Joan NEVER answers to the charges against her, by her siblings, she by-passes it all and focuses on the ‘hate’ and brings out the ‘terms’ of the thread, totally ignoring that halforphan (HO) herself has violated the same terms BEFORE the siblings came on the thread.

Then Pilgrim has to establish the connection between themselves and him and give glowly ‘testimony’ to the character of HO, pulling the attention away from HO and directly onto the siblings by inferring that only HO is a lady and is trying to make a difference. To make a difference is language of Joan Wheeler (I am using JW from now on) doing nothing other than meddling in her life and trying to destroy her mentally, professionally, and physically for over 30 YEARS! this is word for word JW! Because halforphan56 wrote a book about her life as she lived it. This is word for word JW! The rest of the paragraph are recent thoughts that Joan has begun to use since the book has been pulled, but keeps bringing the attention BACK to Joan by the words she was often as hard on herself, this is somehow to give us the impression that it is someone else speaking!

 And eldestsibling, here’s a newsflash for you. You adopted your own son! Your SECOND husband adopted your own son to whom you gave birth. You relinquished your own 16 year old son, then adopted him back! His birth certificate is now sealed, and he’s living the lie other adoptees are living. Congratulations Einstein! How does that, in any way, equate you with the other people here?

Gert here…Note the attention getting devise (newsflash) again copy-catting from Gert’s writing style and the the direct mention to the adoption of my son! How does ANOTHER person, go on the offensive, to a commenter on a thread, with PERSONAL INFORMATION? Obviously JW doesn’t see the illogic of this attack tactic…going personal to a person that they DON’T know, except via HO. The sharing of personal infor by a second ‘attacker’ JW and Pilgrim only show, to that thread of adoptees, that HO and Pilgrim are haters. Then Pilgrim goes on the angry adoptee platform of His birth certificate is now sealed, and he’s living the lie other adoptees are living. and then adds an insult Congratulations Einstein! Oh so very JW. How could a MAN say that about an adoptee, on a adoptee thread, when he claims, in another comment that he KNOWS about adoption! No, HO got carried away in her attempts at shutting down elderbirthsibling (me) and she used one of her alter-egos to do it, she didn’t fool anyone.
A warning to all readers of this thread. What does it indicate about a person who ACTIVELY carries on a campaign of hate for over 30 YEARS? Who refers to a poster as h.o.? Who writes at such length and with such frequency as they do here? These people have nothing in life outside of their hate and venom. They twist truth, make up “facts”, and otherwise misrepresent both themselves. Are these REALLY the kind of people with whom one would want to associate? I certainly wouldn’t. These 2 say they’re trying to take back their family honor. They don’t realize th’re dragging it through dungheap after dungheap.

Gert here…All of these words are JW’s words or a copy-cat of words that Gert had said on this thread or elsewhere. The fact that I actually came on that thread to begin with pissed JW off and as per her usual MO she goes on the OFFENSE trying to discredit the birthsiblings. She can not accept any right and reasonable explanation that Ruth and Gert give about the use of the initals HO. This is JW speaking, not Pilgrim. JW only uses the words ‘twist truth’ and copies Gert’s words of ‘facts’ and ‘misrepresent’ and ‘family honor’ and ‘dungheap’. JW is not original nor clever enough to pull off that she is not IT; the very fact that Pilgrim is so angry and ready and willing to attack another, on line, in front of everyone, only PROVES that Pilgrim is HO who is Joan.

 ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! I’m disgusted with this behavior. Get over your jealousy, children. Try to find SOMETHING to make your lives worthwhile. Hate eventually turns on itself. You’re both long overdue. You complain she doesn’t work. After 30 + years of your abuse, yes, she’s disabled. I know you’ll be proud of yourselves for causing that. It must make you proud that the one glorious crusade in your lives is your attempt to destroy your own sister.

Gert here…oh this is so JW, I can acutally HEAR her. If pilgrim is a different person and a male at that, as he/she/it maintains, then NO MALE would throw such an obviously temper-tamtum! JW also is the only one that I know of that believes that Ruth and Gert are JEALOUS of her. Jealous of what, I ask you? JW is so frustated and pissed off that she can’t control herself as she imagines pilgrim speaking, for her. JW is telling us the same things that she has said so many times before and she doesn’t know that she is doing it! Her brain has been fried so many times with this ‘story of hate’ that she can not separate herself from it, for one second. She wants everyone to believe that there actually is another person out there that KNOWS what Ruth and Gert have done; that we are (JW’s words) proud of ourselves because we caused JW’s disabilities and that we are on a glorious crusdae to destroy our own sister. JW has said these very words many many times in many many places. You can just see little Joanie having a fit as she writes this…ENOUGH IS ENOUGH…don’t you see I have a FRIEND WHO IS MY DEFENDER? Can you see little Joanie stomping her feet and getting red in the face?

To all reading this, halforphan56 has done nothing to provoke this mindless viciousness. All she asks is that she be left in peace. She has not launched any kind of attack herself, and, unlike the other 2, has shown herself to me to be a lady and gentlewoman. I’m on your side, halforphan56! Posted by Pilgrim1003 on Apr 24, 2012 at 3:10am

Gert here…as usual HO/Pilgrim must make sure that everyone knows that she did nothing to provoke…only everyone has already seen the attacks that HO did to other adoptees, on this thread, before Ruth and Gert arrived, and then of course, as soon as we did HO attacked and then created/brought Pilgrim on for more attacking. More words of JW/HO are All she asks is that she be left in peace… if she wants to be left in peace why is she on this thread browbeating adoptees? and again the assertion that shehas not launched any kind of attack herself, and, unlike the other 2, has shown herself to me to be a lady and gentlewoman. And the fact that Pilgrim has to assert that HO is a lady/gentlewoman, there MUST be a reason for SOMEONE else to come to poor HO’s side! The use of I’m on your side is another form of copying Gert and Ruth’s style of our dual nature of our comments, where we bouce back and forth telling the truth of a situation. JW/HO is also a copy-cat.

 SECOND POST BY PILGRIM:
sorry, eldestbirthsibling. Wrong AGAIN, as usual. I’m not halforphan56. Just to show thye rest here that you’re a busybody who has nothing better to do than try to destroy your own sister, I’ll tell you quite honestly that yes, I did use her computer for my last post. You probably found an IP #, added 1+1 and came up with 3 for an answer. Why don’t you check the IP# on this post? Oh that’s right! You will! Why? Because you’re a meddling, malignant busybody.

Gert here so once I, Gert as elderbirthsibling, tell Pilgrim that I know who they are, what do we get? More mockery and the reason they posted was to show that, using JW’s words, that  you’re a busybody who has nothing better to do than try to destroy your own sister, but see he/she/it got caught (JW in a lie again) and had to come up with cover story, that Pilgrim used HO’s computer and the only reason we found out was because of IP addresses. That is a ONLY a JW paranoia…she BELIEVES that we FOLLOW her IP addresses or some BS. I, Gert, haven’t a clue about such things and here Pilgrim/HO is addressing ME, are they not? JW/HO just cannot UNDERSTAND that Gert and Ruth are not ONE PERSON.  

Gert here continuing on with Pilgrim’s comment…

P, and everybody else here, to you I appologize if this seems personal. I’ve known halforphan56 for quite awhile. Eldestbirthsibling and her 2 sisters have been trying to ruin halforphan56 in every way possible for over 30 years for some totally fabricated and imaginary slight to their family honor. 30 YEARS for crying out loud. I read the book and found nothing in it that doesn’t happen in many families, but because they want their family to seem like it’s perfect, they take offense. All 3 sisters have blogs which do nothing but try to destroy their own sister for the capital crime of trying to tell about her life. One of them actually has 3 blogs going, and all 3 are filled with HATE!

Gert here another nice tactic, apology for the personal comments, which of course HO/JW did not answer, any of my charges against her, HO just hid behind Pilgrim, avoiding the issue and hoping that everyone will forget that eldestbirthsibling told what HO/JW did. Confuse the issue by not answering and turning the tables…Joan’s behavior pattern. Then trivilize the whole thing fabricated and imaginary slight to their family honor The repeated use of 30 years is JW/HO. JW can’t say she ‘wrote’ the book, so she has Pilgrim say he/it read the book! If Pilgrim/Champ/Brian READ the book why haven’t they written a review of the book? Because there is second person here! 

Gert here continuing on with Pilgrim’s comment…

One of the comments on one of the blogs urges halforphan to take a bottle of pills to rid the world of her. Another comment states that when the writer walks into a room, halforphan56 is to walk out. There’s another comment on how one of the sisters would like to put a fist in halforphan’s face. They’ve even made threats to her if they ever catch her visiting her natural mother’s grave. They’ve made up stories about altrications with a funeral director at her natural father’s wake, which, by the way, halforphan was forbidden, UNDER THREAT, to attend during regular visiting hours. Enough is enough. Get out of her life, and, just for chuckles, go find something useful to do with your life. Like play on a starship or something. Posted by Pilgrim1003 on Apr 24, 2012 at 6:25pm

Gert here… one thing that is very important, here to point out, is that it WAS NOT the birth siblings, Gert and Ruth, that forbade Joan Wheeler from the visiting hours at Dad’s wake. It WAS THE ENTIRE FAMILY, starting with the WIDOW. NO ONE wanted to be in the same space that Joan was in. Joan received a phone call from a representative of the family who told her when she was ALLOWED to go to the viewing. Joan was told that if she showed up when the family was there the police would be called. Threat? perhaps, but that was the wishes of the ENTIRE FAMILY. It was Joan herself that made a scene, with the funeral home personnel, because her name was NOT on the obit, which was not an error but the wishes of our FATHER, before he died! And of course this man, Pilgrim, lapses into a play-ground bully, I would NEVER have such a man in my life if this is how he talked to women on a pulbic forum, that’s another give-away that’s it’s HO/JW…if a man TALKED to her like that she would curl up in a fetal position in fear…so she writes in her book!

THIRD POST BY PILGRIM:
By the way, folks. Take a look at birthsibling’s first posting. She actually came here because she and her sisters are cyberstalkers, and found that halforphan posted here. Neither are actually interested in this thread. They came here for the sole purpose of harassing and trying to further discredit their sister. They’ll try to tell you otherwise, but take a look at the first couple of lines of birthsibling’s first posting, then ask yourself who it was who brought any “fight” here. That’s how they operate. They’ll protest, of course, but please don’t fall for it. I’ve seen them do this time and again. Be warned. Posted by Pilgrim1003 on Apr 24, 2012 at 7:09pm

 Gert here. Pilgrim/HO takes the focus off themselves by pointing the finger and saying we are cyberstalkers. Well ISN’T that what HO is doing? What was HER purpose on going to this adoption site? For the sheer purpose of stalking pro-adoption people, including fellow adoptees. Yes, it is true, we birth siblings do want to inform everyone of the behavior and purpose behind what HO/JW does, because she is exploiting our family when she does this kind of browbeating and bullying. And her warning is a little too late, it was me Gert who warned the thread about HO is the first place, copy cat!

FOURTH POST BY PILGRIM, SAYING THEY ARE A BRIAN
My real name is Brian. Not Joan. I am also not Joan’s boyfriend and neither is Russ, who never was her boyfriend either. In fact, knowing how you feel about anyone who has the nerve to be Joan’s friend, you’ll be delighted to hear he’s currently undergoing treatment for cancer. That should brighten up your day a bit! I’m also Champ on Blogger.

 Gert here. Now that Pilgrim has been FOUND OUT, he/she/it has NO CHOICE but to come clean, except we know that it’s already been all ‘created’ before hand; there really isn’t any real Brian.

As it happens, my wife died in 1994, leaving me with 3 half orphans aged 10 – 16. I didn’t ever even CONSIDER surrendering mine for adoption. True, I may not have been the model father, but I at least kept my family together.

 Gert here.  Look at that ‘dig’ at our father who did give HO/JW up to adoption. Another tactic of HO/JW’s attempting to prove, somehow, that our father had a choice…she will not accept the fact that he did not. Nor will she accept the fact that Dad’s second wife was the one who said NO TO THAT INFANT. Why is it that Joan Wheeler can not accept that? Because her adoptive parents and family NEVER knew that was what happened, and, my father, SPARED Joan’s feelings but NOT TELLING HER. But JW is hell-bend on having her own versin of the truth, even coming out of the mouth of a imaginary man! More insults

I have also met some of the people with whom your sister is working, including two mothers who lost their daughters to adoption, one in a so called “open adoption.” I guess the fact that you lost your son to adoption puts you in the same category as these women. OH! THAT’S RIGHT! You still had him with you, didn’t you? I guess that REMOVES you from that category.

Gert here. More insults from a man! Nice going.

Before I met your sister, I knew nothing about adoption or adoption issues. I’ve learned quite a bit from her and from her friends. I’m proud to know them, and proud to call them friends. I have to say I’ve learned a lot from you as well. I’ve learned the true meaning of obsessive-compulsiveness. That’s the only possible explanation, with the possible exceptions of paranoia and megalomania, that could explain the quantity and frequency of your lying, vicious, vapid postings. You’re boring. Repetitive. And I have visited your blogs.

 Gert here. This is pure HO/JW.

Boy, you two are sure busy responding to one another! I haven’t seen any comments from anyone else, though. You’re having your own private little hatefest. I have no problem with Star Trek or any other science fiction. I enjoy it, actually! What I don’t care for are the lies and misrepresentations you write about your sister. I don’t care for the bullying and harassment over everything she tries to do personally or professionally. When you can show me your credentials in social work, then talk to me. I’ve seen your sister’s. The only thing she’s trying to do is to bring an adoptee’s perspective to the original post and this one. Why are you here other than to stalk her? How is it you seem to know so many of her screen names if you’re not stalking her? The fact you found a new screen name she uses just confirms the fact you’re stalkers. The fact that she can’t remain anonymous when trying to address adoption issues and not you personally or by name is due to your rather bizarre fixation with your hate for her

Gert here. This is pure HO/JW…I’m copy-catting here….You’re boring. Repetitive

And don’t try to state your use of h.o. is anything other than an explainable way to insult her.. I’ve come to know how you think, so don’t try selling your brand of crazy to me. I’m not buying. There’s a song I would dedicate to you. Perhaps you’ll remember it from the past, and come to appreciate it even more in the future. It was “I WILL FOLLOW HIM”. Just change the HIM to YOU! You may leave now. You’re dismissed!

Gert here There’s that insulting again, what a guy! what a man!! Why would this MAN be so concerned over this HO business? Any man that I explained this to SEES IT for what it is, a means of using initials instead of typing out the whole name! Joan Wheeler you just can’t think like a man, and you don’t know how REAL men think. It is JW/HO who has the problem with the letters HO. What does Santa Claus say? HO HO HO…anyone gets that except some PC asshole! And besides, it was Joan Wheeler and no one else who calls herself…halforphan…she just doesn’t think!

And yes, I heard the public radio interview with a female shock comedian who says she likes to take things to the edge..she talked about the song I will Follow Him which would have a whole new meaning to it as a stalker’s song. Even here, HO, I heard it before you! You are such a copy cat. So did we get fooled here? Not me!

I will be working on a dissection of what HO/JW said and the lies within them, on this thread.

 end

Ruth I blogged about me using the initials H.O. once before – the first time JW was accusing me of calling her a whore. Which I did no such thing. I will admit, I didn’t use periods that time, but this time I did – and I still got reamed out by the bitch. So the gloves come off – because in JW’s (aka HO), Ruth is damned. No matter what Ruth says or doesn’t say, no matter what Ruth does or doesn’t do – in HO’s mind – RUTH IS IN THE WRONG. Because she hates my guts – WHY?

Because I put my foot down in 1990 when she stole money from me. She dipped into a joint checking account we had together for THE PURPOSE OF BUYING REAL ESTATE. The money was to be used for lawyer fees, closing costs, etc. I borrowed over $4000.00 from a bank and put it in the account – Joan and her husband didn’t contribute a penny. And when the brakes in Joan’s car needed work – guess what she did? SHE TOOK MY F’ING MONEY! Then we were to get a refund from the lawyer – the lawyer sent us a letter saying it would be split between the two of us. I was pissed, because it had been ALL my money in the first place. And Joan agreed to cash the check and give me the cash. THEN she calls me up and says she was keeping it to buy christmas presents for HER kids. I blew up – and said “You PROMISED me that money. YOU gave birth to those kids, they are YOUR responsibilty to provide holidays for them. I WANT MY MONEY TO FIX MY CAR.” – see, when we dissolved the partnership, and I got back the remainder of my money after Joan and her bum husband stole from it, I returned that money to the bank. Then MY car broke down – and I had no money to fix it. The interest I was paying on the loan and the shortage caused by THIEVES Joan and Colby left me nothing to fix my car. So yeah, I bitched her out on the phone and told her to keep the f’ing money and I never wanted to see her again. This is why she thinks I hate her kids – because I told her that I didn’t give birth to them and it WAS NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY TO PROVIDE CHRISTMAS FOR THEM.

Joan, the lazy bitch, who held down only little part time jobs, was too lazy and proud to even get a job as a cashier at a grocery store – or do like me, work in a hospital emptying bedpans. What? She’s too good for that?

BUT sit and whine how “Poor” she was back in the 80′s and 90′s but wouldn’t get a decent job. OTHER mothers work. And she was not disabled.

As to Pilgrim or Chimp (really, we know it’s Joan) – says that I caused her disabilities. OH REALLY? She’s got allergies and irritable bowel syndromes and chronic kidney and bladder infections – how the hell could I cause that?

as for her “fragile” psyche – and her anxiety attacks – I told her once before, her f’ing “anxiety” attacks are probably caused by her fear that because of all the shit she’s done to people, she’s probably scared that someone will come and punch her lights out. And she deserves a good ass kicking! But she ain’t worth me going to jail over. So rest assured, Joni bitch – you don’t have to fear for your life from ME or GERT. As to the other people you fucked over – I can’t answer for them. And yes, she has fucked over other people. by the way Joan, when I showed John the letter where you said he got the next door neighbor pregnant, he was ready to go over to your house and kick your ass.

SO PUT THE RESPONSIBILTY ON PEOPLE BEING PISSED AT YOU WHERE IT BELONGS – ON YOU! BECAUSE OF THE SHIT YOU HAVE DONE TO THEM.

Want a box of Hostess HO’s HO’s?

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  1. I blogged about me using the initials H.O. once before – the first time JW was accusing me of calling her a whore. Which I did no such thing. I will admit, I didn’t use periods that time, but this time I did – and I still got reamed out by the bitch. So the gloves come off – because in JW’s (aka HO), Ruth is damned. No matter what Ruth says or doesn’t say, no matter what Ruth does or doesn’t do – in HO’s mind – RUTH IS IN THE WRONG. Because she hates my guts – WHY?

    Because I put my foot down in 1990 when she stole money from me. She dipped into a joint checking account we had together for THE PURPOSE OF BUYING REAL ESTATE. The money was to be used for lawyer fees, closing costs, etc. I borrowed over $4000.00 from a bank and put it in the account – Joan and her husband didn’t contribute a penny. And when the brakes in Joan’s car needed work – guess what she did? SHE TOOK MY F’ING MONEY! Then we were to get a refund from the lawyer – the lawyer sent us a letter saying it would be split between the two of us. I was pissed, because it had been ALL my money in the first place. And Joan agreed to cash the check and give me the cash. THEN she calls me up and says she was keeping it to buy christmas presents for HER kids. I blew up – and said “You PROMISED me that money. YOU gave birth to those kids, they are YOUR responsibilty to provide holidays for them. I WANT MY MONEY TO FIX MY CAR.” – see, when we dissolved the partnership, and I got back the remainder of my money after Joan and her bum husband stole from it, I returned that money to the bank. Then MY car broke down – and I had no money to fix it. The interest I was paying on the loan and the shortage caused by THIEVES Joan and Colby left me nothing to fix my car. So yeah, I bitched her out on the phone and told her to keep the f’ing money and I never wanted to see her again. This is why she thinks I hate her kids – because I told her that I didn’t give birth to them and it WAS NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY TO PROVIDE CHRISTMAS FOR THEM.

    Joan, the lazy bitch, who held down only little part time jobs, was too lazy and proud to even get a job as a cashier at a grocery store – or do like me, work in a hospital emptying bedpans. What? She’s too good for that?

    BUT sit and whine how “Poor” she was back in the 80’s and 90’s but wouldn’t get a decent job. OTHER mothers work. And she was not disabled.

    As to Pilgrim or Chimp (really, we know it’s Joan) – says that I caused her disabilities. OH REALLY? She’s got allergies and irritable bowel syndromes and chronic kidney and bladder infections – how the hell could I cause that?

    as for her “fragile” psyche – and her anxiety attacks – I told her once before, her f’ing “anxiety” attacks are probably caused by her fear that because of all the shit she’s done to people, she’s probably scared that someone will come and punch her lights out. And she deserves a good ass kicking! But she ain’t worth me going to jail over. So rest assured, Joni bitch – you don’t have to fear for your life from ME or GERT. As to the other people you fucked over – I can’t answer for them. And yes, she has fucked over other people. by the way Joan, when I showed John the letter where you said he got the next door neighbor pregnant, he was ready to go over to your house and kick your ass.

    SO PUT THE RESPONSIBILTY ON PEOPLE BEING PISSED AT YOU WHERE IT BELONGS – ON YOU! BECAUSE OF THE SHIT YOU HAVE DONE TO THEM.

    Want a box of Hostess HO’s HO’s?

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