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Brian Maloney and Joan Wheeler think they are in the right…okay they can have their delusion
with updated material 2:30 pm July 12
So here is Brian Maloney’s latest dig and my answer…
There is no amount of reasoning with people who refuse to see their own actions…that is why we expose them. I have no delusions that I was going to make Brian/Champ/Pilgrim see anything other than what his puppet master Joan Wheeler has told him. The whole business was about…finding out who this idiot abuser was and exposing them. Brian can continue on with his merry business…for now we know all about him.
He did post the three comments from us three siblings on the original ‘defending’ post, but I guess he didn’t get what we were saying. And then he says the following…
Champ July 11, 2012 1:55 PM
It takes an abuser to suspect another of being one. You PURPOSLY stated I was divorced twice. If you had information on my marital status, you would have access to the facts. You, therefor, LIED! Deny it if you want, but facts are facts. I never called women dogs.I merely quoted an addage. And, in my experience, a “lady” seldom uses vulgarity. You seem rather addicted to the use of it, however, so that rather disqualifies you from that title. Fishwife, nag, whiner, complainer and paranoid, however, are terms which I can accept. Talk to Joan’s ex about the money. As to your question about how this defends Joan, with each comment you make, the readers of this blog realize that you are as much a victim of what adoption can do as Joan is. In fact, your blog points that out to the readers of THAT how badly adoption can affect a family, and you’re just showing that what Joan is warning against is a real concern and issue. The fact that you are in denial, and that you would rather wallow in hate and your internal suffering rather than seek the
help that could let you actually be at peace, changes nothing.
Last, but not least, the reason you decided to attack Joan’s book was only because there were truths in it that you were ashamed of. Well, everyone has things they’re not proud of having done, so welcome to the club! The fact that Joan tried to protect you by giving you a different name in the book made no difference. In a fit of supreme stupidity, you identified YOURSELF, then complained about what you, in fact, did to yourself. You believe that I’m attacking you. In reality, I’m merely trying to get you to see how desperately you need help. One of these days, if you don’t calm down a bit, you’ll rile yourself up to the point of having a stroke or heart attack. I certainly would not wish that, or any other harm, on you or your sisters, but if that should occur, you’ll have only yourself to blame.
I wish you peace.
Adoption had and has NOTHING to do with why Joan’s life is a mess, just because she believes that it does, does not make it so, writing a lying book only made things worst, get real already, this is a dead issue, just like the book, got any more beefs about that go to the publisher and argue with them, they and their lawyers SAW that the book was libelous. Joan’s actions to many people over the years is well documented and because she can not and will not admit to her mistakes, is a prime cause why her life is hell, like she loves to tell everyone.
Joan and you feel that by cutting out a tumor called adoption and her feelings of injustice, that will solve her problems, but it will not, the problem that we the birth siblings have with Joan is that she is a liar and betrayer and in her and your quest to portray adoption as a big tumor and that we have the negative aspects of it only proves her illogical logic, she is living a lie and continues to destroy other people’s values, rights and dignity because of that lie.
Joan ceased to have any meaning in my life since 1981/82 when she interferred with my parental authorities with my children, Joan’s
adoption had nothing to do with any of my life’s decisions, then or now. We will not be defined by Joan’s and your warped sense of
things, continue on…for we shall too. Sane people know how to read and make decisions, they do not need you and Joan to tell them
how to think and believe. Brian, we have nothing more to talk about, so why don’t you disappear, that would be very peaceful of you
but we know you won’t because you are a bully
In another comment Gert says…
Facts are facts…just because you choose to ignore them doesn’t make them go away
DARVO is the acronym for the standard abuser protocol:
Deny, Attack and Reverse roles of Victim and Offender
Brian/Champ’s return… July 12, 2012 10:34 AM
DARVO. Deny- you do so rather well, Gert. You deny the fact that adoption HAS affected not only Joan, but your entire family. Attack- That is the entire purpose of everything you write. Reverse roles- It is YOUR writing and they were YOUR actions which have victimized Joan, and now you want the world to believe that YOU’RE the victim. Any rational individual can that it’s you yourself who is the offender.
I never mentioned Reiki, but yes, I am a Master/Teacher and can present not only my certificates but my lineage as well. As far as living the Reiki principles goes, I recite them every day. There is a part which states, ” I will be kind to every living thing.” If that means that trying to bring peace to a family desperately in need of peace is a breach of that principle, then I am guilty as charged. Another of the principles is ” I will not anger.” I am saddened to see so many who are so disturbed, but I am not angry with anyone. The only one who shows anger is our Level 1 Reiki attunee. That shows anger and unkindness all too clearly. So WHO is the one bringing disgrace to Reiki? As far as charlatans go, I have treated a number of people quite successfully with both distance and hands on treatments.
One last thing here. I haven’t gone digging to try to find something to damage any of you. You, however, have not refrained from trying to investigate me, and have sought to harm me by publishing information about me. Yes, I believe DARVO applies to you most fittingly. Peace
Yep I know you would ‘turn it around’….typical reaction from a bully…exposure of a bullying was our intentions, from the start…it was you would refused to identify yourself. We have nothing to hide so go ahead and search we have been always in the open.
Brian, you are not informed about our family, but you have been told is filtered from Joan’s point of view…that is the whole reason WHY the birth siblings are speaking, from OUR point of view. You don’t have to like it or understand it, but, it is our right to speak it and we will not allow you or anyone else to bully us for speaking, go right ahead with what ever you feel or think…we are doing the same.
and notice Gert – AGAIN he conveniently attacked YOU, (and me about getting his marital status wrong in his original post). AND he conveniently let any true remarks about HIM slide away. If I had made an untrue remark – he would have jumped up and down in a tantrum!
What Brian DOESN’T say is more revealing than what he DOES say. Just like Joan. They have NO defense against certain things, so they just ignore it, hoping it will fade away. But it won’t.