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Joan Wheeler says that adoption should be illegal and guardianship is the only alternative!

by on October 6, 2012

Sorry I can’t see that! And so do many other people in the world! How can anyone think that everyone fits in the same mold? My personal opinions on this topic isn’t what matters here because I don’t have a ‘problem’ with adoption. I, and my second husband, adopted my son. My son’s biological father DIDN’T want him, but another DID. Is that a crime?

It was Joan Wheeler who had a problem with my adopting my own son. On her own, because she knew what was right for me and my family, she interferred in our decisions, the adoption process and in my family unit, by alienating my children from me. I had to forbid her contact with my minor children. In retaliation she called false child abuse upon me and my husband. I then ‘divorced’ her for her CRIME of interference in my family and moved my family away. She then called a second false child abuse report on me when my daughter ‘ran-away’; that was MY problem not Joan’s but Joan had to interfer again and with wrong information about MY problems. My husband and I were proven innocent of all charges, but Joan’s actions caused major long-term damage to MY FAMILY. That is Joan Wheeler’s CRIME.

Then years later she wrote a lying book, fabricating all kinds of nonsense about what happened, according to her ‘views’. And she and other adoptees wonder why I, my sisters and the rest of the family have a problem!

Now, getting back to adoptions, I don’t live in a cave. I am aware of some adoption issues. Recently I heard something about how some people, in war torn countries, WANT their children placed in the adoption organizations of the United States, because, if those children were returned to their native countries they would be tortured, placed into slavery or die. There are many such situations in the world.

One solution does not work for all. Not every adoption is a crime. There are sometimes NO guardian or family support available and if there are they may not be healthy or sane alternatives.

In Joan’s case, she was relinquished into adoption after our mother died, because the only option that presented itself, to our father, was that his second wife REFUSED to take the infant (Joan). There were no feasible options for my father to ‘keep’ her in the family, under guardianship, and NOT raise her as his own. Those are the facts that she refuses to accept. Contrary, to her sometimes statements, that she doesn’t hold resentments towards the birth father, her written words and her deeds, prove that she did and does. If she understood why he had to place her into adoption she would NEVER have written that libelous book, in which she details her contemp for him, in many situations, and she would never have argued with him in person, and she would never have harmed the rest of the birth family as she did.

Her real problem with adoption is in the fact that she was ABUSED by the adoptive family she was raised in; that is why she hates adoption. She had been reunited with the birth family and she destroyed every relationship. She will continue to spin her warped sense of reality everywhere, instead of living a life that she has, because she has NO life because of her hatred towards adoption!

Searching the internet one night I found the following on Oct 4, 2012

“The Adoption Option” TV Show – Wall | Facebook

Joan M Wheelerposted to“The Adoption Option” TV Show

September 4 near Buffalo

Adoption should be made illegal. Guardianship should replace adoption, if a child needs a home. Guardianship protects the child’s name at birth, birth certifcate at birth, does not require a new and falsified birth certificate to be made in the new adoptive name and thus replaces the true parents’s names with the names of the adopters, and guardianship allows for child to visit siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents. Guardianship safeguards a child’s palce within the family of birth and does not erase the child’s real family. Adoption strips a child of name, family, and family connections.

…..Another said…


said… I agree, Joan. There is nothing more selfish than attempting to erase a child’s heritage. Amended birth certificates should be illegal!    September 4


Gert McQueen…

guardianship doesn’t work if there isn’t anyone there to ‘guardian’, as was in Joan’s case. I am birth sibling, our mother died, there was no one, period, Joan was given in adoption because that was the option, period, end of story. Once she was found by birth family she destroyed every relationship, so much for ‘family connections’. see and      Thursday at 4:17pm    (Oct 4, 2012)

So if Joan wants to continue to ‘voice’ her opinion, anywhere she can, then I too shall also continue to voice mine and tell what I know about her life and her crimes. Or, Joan Wheeler can get Brain Maloney to pull down his hate blog against the birth siblings, that she got him to do and she can pull down her hate blog against the birth siblings, and she can remove ALL references to the birth siblings on her blog. It’s up to her!

See the above Facebook page for further and future developments.

okay so I took out the site address that was not correct…and now if you click on the Adoption Option TV show you ought to get right to the facebook page etc.

see comments for other info

UPDATE January 2017; as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler (Doris Michol Sippel) says about me and family. The first book Forbidden Family, A Half Orphan’s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism‘ was published in 2009 but then was pulled from publication by the publisher in May 2011, for libelous material within the book. Then in 2015, she ‘self-published’ a ‘revised’ version calling it ‘Forbidden Family, an adoptee duped by adoption’. This woman has no shame no sense of family honor! Then in 2016 Joan changed her name back to her birth name and rewrote and republished the SAME crap in another book; a Third edition! CALLED ‘Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity’! Talk about conning people!   this blog is titled Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor

this blog’s title/sub title is… DUPED BY ADOPTION & AN WOMAN’S STRUGGLE FOR IDENTITY, A BOOK STUDY an in-depth analyzes of the books called Forbidden Family; My Life as an Adoptee Duped by adoption & An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity by Joan M Wheeler/Doris M Sippel.



  1. looks like the discussion was removed. Because this is what Joan does – everytime Joan finds a PRO-adoption site, she comes on and spews her distorted and warped sense of reality. She is nothing but a spamming TROLL – she doesn’t realize that by the Constitution of the United States – OTHER PEOPLE have opinions and life viewpoints that differ from hers. And when someone disagrees with her – Watch Out! – she spams them, she harasses them.
    Joan is nothing but a delusional bully. She seems to think that HER way is the ONLY way.
    Sorry to bust your bubble Joan, but the rest of the world doesn’t live like that. – Accept that – accept the fact that not every single person on this planet is going to agree with you – and then your life will not so full of anxiety and pain. Stop trying to convince every person on this planet that they are wrong. Because there is the very real possibilty that it is YOU that is wrong – or didn’t you ever think of that?

  2. this is a comment that I placed on Gert’s facebook publicing this post:
    I went to that site and “liked” it. But the discussion you are referring to has been removed. I even tried to get to the actual discussion from your your blogpost and got the 404 error-page removed message.
    Joan doesn’t get it – she thinks by being a spamming troll she will get her “message” across and be the saviour of adoptees everywhere! Many pro-adoption sites just say “WTF? We don’t want that garbage here,” and simply delete her.
    And she never learns – she wastes her dam time all day and all night on the computer – doing this shit, then laments she has no life. GET OFF THE DAM COMPUTER AND LIVE FOR PETE’S SAKE!

  3. ..

    here are the comments that appeared after I posted this post…

    “The Adoption Option” TV Show I disagree that adoption should be made illegal.
    I believe Guardianship & Adoption can both remain options, depending upon the situation(s) surrounding the child.
    I have been a full time law enforcement officer for over 24 years.
    There have been some cases I have investigated where I don’t think guardianship would of ever been considered an option, due to the severe neglect/abuse, family history ect. There is one case in particular where a woman has had 6 children. At the birth of every child, her & every baby tested positive to drugs and alcohol. 5 of 6 were removed from her custody, and her parental rights were eventually terminated, and 5 of the 6 were all adopted. She got to keep the 6th baby last I checked. One of the Dads of some of the children was shot & killed during a drug deal gone bad. The dad of the other children was in federal prison for drug trafficing, last time I checked. There is no other family other than an elderly grandmother, that was physically unable to care for any of the children.

    Three of the children were adopted by two different families. When the kids were of age to understand, they were told that they had siblingings. DCF had introduced the two familes to each other initially so if in the future we wanted to keep in touch we could. All three kids recently met for the first time, and it was nothing short of amazing. They are all very close, and talk frequently. By the way, the parents that adopted the kids happen to be caucasian, and all the kids just happen to be Latino. One of the places they frequent every year is the yearly Hispanic Festival. Also, food from all the families’ combined cultures is cooked regularly. If adoption was illegal, what would of happened to these kids?

    about an hour ago · Unlike · 1..

    “The Adoption Option” TV Show Joan, I am now confused???
    On your website, listed on your facebook page, you have an open letter posted that says “Adoption should only be a last resort”, which I agree with.

    Here is the open letter link:

    Family Unification should always be the initial goal.
    But yet you say that adoption should be illegal??
    about an hour ago · Unlike · 1..

    Gert Mcqueen Joan Wheeler says that adoption should be illegal and guardianship is the only alternative!

    by gertmcqueen on October 6, 2012

    45 minutes ago · Like..

    Gert Mcqueen yes, the above is a new post on my blog,
    Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor
    we are taking back what Joan Wheeler stole from us.

    44 minutes ago · Like · 1 · Remove Preview..

    “The Adoption Option” TV Show Gert, thanks for the posts

    35 minutes ago · Like..
    Gert Mcqueen your welcome

    34 minutes ago · Like

  4. So I don’t know why the site address, within my posts doesn’t work, but if you go directly to Adoption Option TV show, you do get it.

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