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Joan Wheeler says that adoption should be illegal and guardianship is the only alternative!
Sorry I can’t see that! And so do many other people in the world! How can anyone think that everyone fits in the same mold? My personal opinions on this topic isn’t what matters here because I don’t have a ‘problem’ with adoption. I, and my second husband, adopted my son. My son’s biological father DIDN’T want him, but another DID. Is that a crime?
It was Joan Wheeler who had a problem with my adopting my own son. On her own, because she knew what was right for me and my family, she interferred in our decisions, the adoption process and in my family unit, by alienating my children from me. I had to forbid her contact with my minor children. In retaliation she called false child abuse upon me and my husband. I then ‘divorced’ her for her CRIME of interference in my family and moved my family away. She then called a second false child abuse report on me when my daughter ‘ran-away’; that was MY problem not Joan’s but Joan had to interfer again and with wrong information about MY problems. My husband and I were proven innocent of all charges, but Joan’s actions caused major long-term damage to MY FAMILY. That is Joan Wheeler’s CRIME.
Then years later she wrote a lying book, fabricating all kinds of nonsense about what happened, according to her ‘views’. And she and other adoptees wonder why I, my sisters and the rest of the family have a problem!
Now, getting back to adoptions, I don’t live in a cave. I am aware of some adoption issues. Recently I heard something about how some people, in war torn countries, WANT their children placed in the adoption organizations of the United States, because, if those children were returned to their native countries they would be tortured, placed into slavery or die. There are many such situations in the world.
One solution does not work for all. Not every adoption is a crime. There are sometimes NO guardian or family support available and if there are they may not be healthy or sane alternatives.
In Joan’s case, she was relinquished into adoption after our mother died, because the only option that presented itself, to our father, was that his second wife REFUSED to take the infant (Joan). There were no feasible options for my father to ‘keep’ her in the family, under guardianship, and NOT raise her as his own. Those are the facts that she refuses to accept. Contrary, to her sometimes statements, that she doesn’t hold resentments towards the birth father, her written words and her deeds, prove that she did and does. If she understood why he had to place her into adoption she would NEVER have written that libelous book, in which she details her contemp for him, in many situations, and she would never have argued with him in person, and she would never have harmed the rest of the birth family as she did.
Her real problem with adoption is in the fact that she was ABUSED by the adoptive family she was raised in; that is why she hates adoption. She had been reunited with the birth family and she destroyed every relationship. She will continue to spin her warped sense of reality everywhere, instead of living a life that she has, because she has NO life because of her hatred towards adoption!
Searching the internet one night I found the following on Oct 4, 2012
Adoption should be made illegal. Guardianship should replace adoption, if a child needs a home. Guardianship protects the child’s name at birth, birth certifcate at birth, does not require a new and falsified birth certificate to be made in the new adoptive name and thus replaces the true parents’s names with the names of the adopters, and guardianship allows for child to visit siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents. Guardianship safeguards a child’s palce within the family of birth and does not erase the child’s real family. Adoption strips a child of name, family, and family connections.
said… I agree, Joan. There is nothing more selfish than attempting to erase a child’s heritage. Amended birth certificates should be illegal! September 4
guardianship doesn’t work if there isn’t anyone there to ‘guardian’, as was in Joan’s case. I am birth sibling, our mother died, there was no one, period, Joan was given in adoption because that was the option, period, end of story. Once she was found by birth family she destroyed every relationship, so much for ‘family connections’. see gertmcqueen.wordpress.com and ruthsippelpace.wordpress.com Thursday at 4:17pm (Oct 4, 2012)
So if Joan wants to continue to ‘voice’ her opinion, anywhere she can, then I too shall also continue to voice mine and tell what I know about her life and her crimes. Or, Joan Wheeler can get Brain Maloney to pull down his hate blog against the birth siblings, that she got him to do and she can pull down her hate blog against the birth siblings, and she can remove ALL references to the birth siblings on her blog. It’s up to her!
See the above Facebook page for further and future developments.
okay so I took out the site address that was not correct…and now if you click on the Adoption Option TV show you ought to get right to the facebook page etc.
see comments for other info
UPDATE January 2017; as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler (Doris Michol Sippel) says about me and family. The first book ‘Forbidden Family, A Half Orphan’s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism‘ was published in 2009 but then was pulled from publication by the publisher in May 2011, for libelous material within the book. Then in 2015, she ‘self-published’ a ‘revised’ version calling it ‘Forbidden Family, an adoptee duped by adoption’. This woman has no shame no sense of family honor! Then in 2016 Joan changed her name back to her birth name and rewrote and republished the SAME crap in another book; a Third edition! CALLED ‘Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity’! Talk about conning people!
https://gertmcqueen.wordpress.com/ this blog is titled Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor
this blog’s title/sub title is… DUPED BY ADOPTION & AN WOMAN’S STRUGGLE FOR IDENTITY, A BOOK STUDY an in-depth analyzes of the books called Forbidden Family; My Life as an Adoptee Duped by adoption & An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity by Joan M Wheeler/Doris M Sippel.