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Joan Wheeler’s puppet/bully Brian Maloney speaks for her again; so she keeps her hands clean?!
What I find so fascinating here is that, even though, everyone knows that Joan Wheeler is dirty, in words and deeds, but that, this Brian character seems to be so captivated by her, that he cannot stop himself in continuing to expose himself as unbalanced and dirty as she is! He posted, in the very beginning of his hate-blog against women (us) that he doesn’t know, that comments made by Joan’s sisters would NOT be published; but he is so full of his own self-righteousness and importance and his abilities to bully, that he POSTS every one of our comments. He must be as much a narcissist and a socio-path as Joan is! And they think that their ‘dynamic duel’ act will make us bow down and cave into their intimidating!
Think again, bully puppets. The only things that Joan Wheeler and Brian Maloney are doing is showing the world how dense and stupid they really are AND confirming, to us and the rest of the world, their own and their other friends’ dirty deeds along with the shrinking base of their supporters. Thank you very much Brian for playing into our hands! There have been several others, but they found that we cannot be intimidated and they left the field to Joan. So what makes Brian think we will cave in to him? Gods some people really do need a brain transplant.
Before we get into the meat and potatoes of the latest bullying by Brian upon us, on Joan Wheeler’s defense and benefit, I want to share something that George Takei recently said…
Let me try to clear something up. “Freedom of speech” does not mean you get to say whatever you want without consequences. It simply means the government can’t stop you from saying it. It also means OTHERS get to say what THEY think about your words.
So if someone makes an ass of himself, don’t cry “freedom of speech” when others condemn him. It only highlights your general ignorance….
Please keep this in mind as you read the off the charts kind of illogical delusional thinking that Brian uses, because his master, Joan, told him so. Also keep in mind, that this MAN does not know us, he is a stranger to us, he is a personal friend of Joan’s and he is bullying and he is intimidating and blackmailing Joan’s sisters, because Joan told him to and he doesn’t have a brain in his head!
So, Ruth had decided, after a couple of recent events, that perhaps Brian needed to be made aware that perhaps Joan needed help and so left a comment on his blog. He goes by the name Champ (also Pilgrim) and the post where these comments are, is called ‘back again’… his blog, if you have not seen it yet, is @ http://defendingjoanwheeler.blogspot.com
Ruth’s comment; Nov 30, 2012
Just to keep you informed that you failed to “heal” Joan. sorry.
Joan Wheeler/legitimate bastard gives us her views on ‘why do adoptees cut off contact???????’
I really think you should take a look at it. It also includes a private facebook message that I received (unsolicited) from Joan’s tenant.
Brian’s comment Nov 30…
I never claimed to “heal” Joan. As far as her tenant goes, I met him and am aware that there were problems between the two. Perhaps you might take note of the fact that there are two sides to every argument. Peace to you.
Gert’s reply Nov 30…
you did claim to defend her, against what I still can’t figure out…be that as it may…yes there are two sides to every argument and we are continuing to tell our side of OUR lives and family…
we really don’t care what goes on in her life, who she has in it etc…only, to tell our side of the arguments that she presents…where ever, however and for however long she speaks falsehoods against ourselves and our family. I lived for decades without her….in peace, she broke the peace when she published lies. She can end it all by removing ALL hate references against us on those blogs and by you removing this blog…or we just continue on each of us speaking our side of every argument.
Brian’s comment …on Dec 2
There is no “hate” in Joan’s book. She is merely telling the story of her life as she remembers it. If you were not trying to hide something you might be ashamed of, you would not be trying so hard to discredit what was said. That speaks volumes. It was YOU who identified yourselves after all. Joan changed your names in the book so that you would NOT be identified.
You may very well have your own story to tell, and that may differ from Joan’s. Each person has their own version of how things happened, and each person has the right to free speech. What you are trying to do is deprive Joan of that right.
If you want to get your story out, instead of publishing a blog which is full of hate, and instead of threatening, harassing, and stalking anyone who doesn’t agree with you, why don’t you write your own book refuting what Joan’s book has to say.
I’m afraid that until your childishness stops, this blog stays. I’m not defending what Joan said in her book. I wasn’t there. What I’m defending is her right to tell her story. She’s simply trying to show that despite all the good intentions of those who adopt, things can go very, very wrong. The only thing your blog does is point to the fact that she’s 100% correct, and every word you write in your blog proves that.
After 30 years, you are still obsessed with trying to destroy your own sister. That just isn’t normal behavior. Trying to discredit people who have expertise in fields in which you are not trained is not normal behavior. Stalking and harassing people who write favorable reviews of what they have read is not only not normal behavior, but is DANGEROUS behavior as well. For your sake, I hope you realize that one day, your hate will cause you to overstep, and you’ll attack the wrong person. Then it will be too late. Hate has a very nasty habit of turning back on haters. I hope you learn to control yourself before that happens.
Gert’s reply on Dec 2…
Brian…you obviously have missed the point(s) and you think, we have missed the points. So be it, but, and this is a big but…the proof is in the pudding…the book is/was libelous because the publisher saw the evidence and knew that they needed to rid themselves of that book, and Joan violated their contract. First amendment rights/freedom of speech does not give anyone the right to make falsehoods…I’m not going to explain this or other things to you.
The reason for this ‘renewed’ communications was to alert you to the facts that your ‘friend’ may be in need of some serious helps, but I see that our concerns are worthless on individuals who want to believe in their own BS. You really need to get off the issue of the book…it’s DEAD.
Joan Wheeler did indeed ID-ed the family, and us siblings, long before we knew the book was published, we provided that info, if you missed that…not my problem. If you can’t see the ‘hate’ in that book, than there really is no help for you or her or her friends! The publishers did, see the hate, once they READ THE BOOK…they pulled it, it can NOT BE PRINTED ANYMORE. Joan’s memories do not include making up untruths about other people’s lives where she wasn’t ever around to know anything, let alone remember, anything about them …that’s called fabrications, lies.
I assure you I have NOTHING to be ashamed of or to hide. There is NOTHING that Joan, let alone someone, like you, who does not know me or my family, can say that they KNOW about me and my life, let alone attempt to intimidate me by this kind of bullshit. That is called BLACKMAIL and I don’t fall for those kind of con-games. Try me!
On the contrary, Brian, it is Joan, in her inabilities to understand reality, have done many things that she ought to be ashamed of but blames on to other people…so…go ahead…let it all hang out…go ahead and EXPOSE the things that I’m ashamed of that I want to silence Joan over! There is NOTHING BETTER that I want than to get in a court room where EVERYTHING can be looked at and judged. I lack the funds. Do you have them? Cause I would LOVE to be in court with all of this…don’t you? Let’s get down to it, Brian…take the issue to a court, but, you or Joan will have to pay the bill…if not, then I continue to write in the court of public opinions.
As far as the reviewer of the libelous book on Amazon UK, is concerned…I had an opposing view, wrote a review which she choose to take offense to, attack, because, oh gee, my review wasn’t for the book or Joan. Then the reviewer proceeded to accuse me of stalking her…no wrong, wrong, wrong! That reviewer never once wrote anything pro or con about the CONTENTS of the book! And, if you need more info it’s all on my blog.
Our blogs are our book…get used to that fact!
In 1980 when Joan interferred with my minor children and the adoption of my son, she was told to butt out of my life. I divorced myself from her. Never laid eyes on her til 1992, for one afternoon, and she started more shit. She wrote a letter to me, to start shit in 1998, I told her to get lost. I had a phone conversation with her in 2003/4 or5 (can’t recall cause it doesn’t matter) during that call she told me she LOVED me! Bullshit…
She BROKE THE PEACE when she wrote a 600 page book of lies…and NOW SHE HAS ME BACK IN HER LIFE TO DEATH DO WE PART! DEAL WITH IT.
end of current comments…
Now of course we know that there will be more coming and as new bullying remarks and intimidating come to us…we will provide them in full view of the world…for our purpose here on our blogs are to refute Joan Wheeler’s lies, and now her puppet who speaks for Joan, and to set the record correct.
Brian is so dense it is laughable.
GET THIS BRIAN: In 1990, Joan published an aritcle called THE SECRET IS OUT – in an English journal. The short article starts with the very same paragraph her book starts out. Joan changed Gert’s name, but did NOT change MY name or our sister Kathy’s name.
IN THE BOOK – in a footnote, Joan REFERS HER READERS to this article and names the publication that published her article. Anybody reading the book can contact the publication and obtain the article THAT CONTAINS MY NAME IN IT.
Therefore, JOAN DID INDEED IDENTIFY BY NAME HER BIRTH SISTERS.
JOAN IDENTIFIED BY LAST NAME HER BIRTH FATHER.
Your refusal to see the truth WILL NOT change the facts.
The book also came out early November 2009. This blog was started in late November 2009. It was not until December 2009 that I revealed our names. Please learn your sequences of months.