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Is the character of a spokesperson, such as Joan Wheeler, important when seeking public recognition for a cause?
Yes it is! The basic character of a spokesperson, for any cause, ought to be beyond reproach. If not, that spokesperson will just add ammunition to the opposition of your cause.
Joan Wheeler has gone out of her way to depict and present each member, of the birth family, in slanderous libelous ways! This makes NOT a good spokesperson for adoption reform! If she treats the birth family in the way she does how can she be trusted?
Ruth’s addition here: Yes, I agree. Any “spokesperson” who is taking on any “social justice” issue, especially when minors are involved, as her new involvement in her Unitarian Universalist church will involve (spring of 2014) – especially when that person publicly puts on Twitter that she fantasizes blowing up government offices, and in the past interfered with the minor child of her own birthsibling (telling Gert’s 15 year old NOT to listen to Gert’s parental directives, then when the child grew up and was working with patient’s Medicare records, Joan asked that now grown woman to break the law by looking up people’s medical records. And “resume padding” is a big no-no. Joan only volunteered for short periods of time manning the phones at the Crisis Service Center. She worked for only a few months as a driver for NYS Dept. of Youth – driving teens to appointments. She may have a social worker’s degree, but has never actually “worked” as a social worker and she has violated several of the edicts of the social workers code of ethics – see my blog Refuting a Book of Lies. which takes apart lies that Joan has put forth in print about me and tells the truth. Anyone who is a “resume padder” and an outright liar and harasser can not be a good spokesman of any cause.
end of Ruth’s addition. I, Gert, will add that Joan Wheeler VIOLATED my parental rights when I and 2nd husband were in the process of ADOPTING my own children and when we told Joan to butt out, she called false child abuse upon us. And now back to this post..
This post has 2 parts within. I decided to combine two separate recent ‘events’ to show how Joan is presenting herself and setting the stage for a new affront to the birth family.
update…December 17, 2013…I have received communication from one of those that I have contracted!
Joan Wheeler placed a comment on the following…
Joan Wheeler says: November 9, 2013 at 10:28pm
Congratulations, Pam! It’s been a pleasure to know you all these years. You’ve done so much work for all of us. Thank you. It is nice to see the old pioneering women sign in on here. Thank you to Mirah and to Mary Anne. The both of you have also done remarkable work. One day, we adoptees will win back the civil rights that were taken from us. Thank you, Peter, for organizing this wonderful tribute to our hero!
I’m seeing this comment late on Dec 8th and yes I had a couple glasses of wine with dinner and ‘just went for it’ writing up whatever came up in my mind then pushed the ‘post’ button.
The site indicated ‘Your comment is awaiting moderation’
Please know that I certainly AGREE with your cause, that adoptees should have their original birth certificates and access to their medical records! But do you really want Joan Wheeler in your corner? Do you really know her? I do!
From everything I know and have seen in recent months, Joan is placing herself in position…she is attempting to gain support from the ‘old guard’, the ‘pioneers’ as she tries AGAIN to get another book published. But…funny thing…that first book she published, Forbidden Family…is/was libelous and pulled from publication, by the publisher. So I ask you, how come Joan keeps saying she working on a ‘second edition’ of her book? There can NOT be a second edition of a pulled from publication of a libelous book, in May of 2011! If she is publishing NEW and DIFFERENT book THAN why doesn’t she just say so.
The lady in this article and others, like Sandy Musser, (which is another interesting story) REALLY do need to know the true background on Joan Wheeler, suck up that she is! Joan is a user! She has used people in the past, fellow adoptees and personal friends. They failed to stop the birth siblings from speaking the truth. Now Joan is attempting to get on the good side with and use the old guard to help her promote NOT adoption reform BUT to promote a new book.
Ladies of the old guard you must understand that Joan had/has visions of being LIKE YOU, she wants the fame and glory, the conferences, the book signings, the monies, the ‘name’, but she can’t deliver on the backs of the birth family! She did that ONCE and she shall never do it again.
So if adoptees REALLY want to have the respect to GET legislature to LISTEN to you, you better drop Joan Wheeler because she cannot help you. I know I’m her birth sibling!
and the truth of her adoption out of our family here…
Okay, so the next morning Dec 9th I decided to rework my comment.
The site indicated ‘Your comment is awaiting moderation.’
Congrats, Pam Hasegawa! Please know that I certainly AGREE with your cause, that adoptees should have their original birth certificates and access to their medical records! But, if adoptees REALLY want to gain the respect for legislature to LISTEN to them, I’d question the motives that some have, like Joan Wheeler. From everything I know and have seen in recent months, Joan is placing herself in position. She is attempting to gain support from the ‘old guard’, the ‘pioneers’ as she tries AGAIN to get another book published. Somehow I don’t think a libelous book will help adoption reform or your efforts.
BOTH of my comments have not been placed. But, I’m not concerned about it, for what I wanted to say got said HERE, on my blog where I cannot silenced.
I had been informed of a couple of comment exchanges that Joan had made with another ‘pioneer’ in the adoption activist movement, the week before. So then I tackled that.
December 2 Joan M Wheeler Right behind you, Sandy Musser! Love ya! OMG! have we known each other THAT long?! I wrote a smashing newspaper article based upon your most recent ALARM post. Waiting to hear if it will be published. Typically, it will be about three weeks to hear from them. If they don’t publish it, I will publish it!
Sandy Musser Joan. Thanks for your note and support over the tears. We Do go back quite a way girl! We just need to keep hammering away. I can’t believe that we were doing this stuff way before the internet! But with it, our audience has increased tremendously! Thank Goodness! 🙂
Dec 5, 2013 Joan M Wheeler Sandy Musser, as you know I’ve been fighting this crap since 1974. There were several groups in Buffalo. One group held picket sign marches around City Hall about 20 years ago. Nothing works. Buffalo is very conservative. Won’t budge. I am planning something for after the release of my second edition memoir in 2014. Already lining up TV cameras. No kidding. Close friend is a cameraman and producer here. Going for it! When the time is right, I want YOU up here, Sandy!
Gert again…I tell you my blood was BOILING! So I composed an email to the ‘contact person’ on the ALARM news release. So here first is the statement and then my email…
PRESS RELEASE for Immediate Distribution
ALARM – Advocating Legislation for Adoption Reform Movement
PURSUING THE RIGHTS OF ADOPTED AMERICANS TO HAVE THE SAME ACCESS AS NON-ADOPTED ADULTS Contact Person: Debbie Dorr-Ismail 661-810-9252 email: AdoptionReform@yahoo.com
National Adoption AWARENESS Month just recently ended. Much of the emphasis during the month of November was the placement of children. Adult adoptees are seldom ever mentioned and many in the general public are unaware of their significant issues.
ALARM’s direct purpose is to bring awareness to the plight of millions of Adopted Americans in our country. Founded n 1987, the ALARM Network began seeking legislation for adult adoptees who have been denied their civil and constitutional rights because of an archaic closed, sealed, secret adoption system.
Dating back to the 20’s and 30’s, the United States sealed original birth certificates of all Adopted Americans “forever”. Non-adopted individuals have always had unconditional access to their original birth certificate and an awareness of their medical, cultural and family history. In light of 3000 known genetic diseases, this unevenly applied sealing of records has not only adversely affected the health and welfare of the millions of Adoptees in our country, but affects their children as well as their future generations.
The right to know the truth of who you are is one of the most basic freedoms a citizen can enjoy. Though it is an entitlement for the non-adopted, this right continues to be ignored for an entire segment of our population. The adopted citizens continue to be denied a copy of their original birth certificate or knowledge of their medical history, cultural background, ancestry or genealogy.
As the new year approaches ALARM’s is announcing that their goal for all Adoted Americans is to pursue an Executive Order via a Federal Mandate based upon the 14th Amendment which clearly states:
“No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the U.S.; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; not deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws. (v) Congress shall have power to enforce, by appropriate legislation, the provisions of this article.”
There are only seven states in our country that allow unrestricted access to the original birth certificate which are Alabama, Alaska, Kansas, Maine, New Hampshire, Oregon and Rhode Island.
A Federal Mandate would supersede state laws and automatically place Adopted Americans on the same footing as the non-adopted. Adopted Americans could no longer be denied the equal protection of the laws and would finally be provided their rights. All equal rights laws passed in the last 145 years have been based upon the 13th and 14th Amendments.
ALARM encourages anyone in the general population who understands the precarious position of being disenfranchised by archaic adoption laws to contact your state and federal legislators. Encourage the states to pass open access bills and ask the White House for an a Executive Order. Our combined voices can turn the tide and bring freedom to millions of Adopted Americans. November 30 at 10:20pm
And my email, sent December 9th, 2013 also sent on December 10th to Sandy Musser.
Hello Debbie Dorr-Ismail!
I am writing in regards to the PRESS RELEASE for Immediate Distribution – November 30, 2013 ALARM – Advocating Legislation for Adoption Reform Movement PURSUING THE RIGHTS OF ADOPTED AMERICANS TO HAVE THE SAME ACCESS AS NON-ADOPTED ADULTS…
I wish to inform you, as contact person, also Sandy Musser, your organization and others, such as Pam Hasegawa, of some facts about a person you may not know of, that may, at the very least could cause you embarrassment, but could ultimately cause serious harm to your ‘cause/case’.
One Joan M Wheeler has written a libelous book, called Forbidden Family. It was pulled from publication in May 2011 by the publisher, Trafford Publications. Her claims that the book was about ‘adoption reform’ were false. The book was a hate manifesto against both adoptive and birth family members and others. I am only one member of the birth family. Recently, Dec 2 and 5, 2013, it came to my attention that…
Joan Wheeler said to Sandy Musser…
I wrote a smashing newspaper article based upon your most recent ALARM post. Waiting to hear if it will be published. Typically, it will be about three weeks to hear from them. If they don’t publish it, I will publish it!
I am planning something for after the release of my second edition memoir in 2014. Already lining up TV cameras. No kidding. Close friend is a cameraman and producer here. Going for it! When the time is right, I want YOU up here, Sandy!
What is significant here is…that Joan Wheeler is conning, duping and USING Sandy, her organization and others, to PROMOTE another potential libelous book on the shirt tails of adoption reform.
First…there can NOT be a ‘second edition’ of a pulled libelous book. Joan is being word-clever by dancing around the FACT that the book was proven to be libelous and has not been and cannot be available, period. Any additional book that Joan may publish is NOT any ‘second edition’…it would be a totally different book.
Second…the birth family will take whatever measures we must, if there are any libel/slander/hate speech against our personal selves and family in any book, article or comment that Joan Wheeler publishes.
For references to help you assess what I say;
Joan Wheeler’s web site, supposedly used for adoption reform, @ http://forbiddenfamily.net/ contains hate speech against us, the birth family. She also has an entire blog of slander/libel against three birth sisters @ http://cyberbulliesstalkers.blogspot.com/
The truth of her adoption out of our family can be seen in this recent article written by myself @
Other information regarding the behavior towards us and the full extent of Joan’s negative behavior to anyone who is pro-adoption can be found here @ http:/gertmcqueen.wordpress.com
For the record, I and others in the birth family are in agreement with your cause.
In regards to adoption itself, I must point out that Joan Wheeler violated my sacred parental rights and boundaries during the adoption process of my adopting my own son, in 1980!
In April of 2013 Joan Wheeler publically advocating blowing up of offices of Vital Statistics to gain attention to the need for adoptees to have their birth certificates!
And that is just a tiny tip of the iceberg!
I’m sure that Sandy Musser and the many other pioneers and new folks that have worked so hard for so many years, including going to prison as Sandy did, to bring attention to the plight of adoptees everywhere for their birth certificates and medical records, and then, to have someone like Joan Wheeler, as a spokesperson, for such an important vital matter to be at the very least appalling and quite dangerous!
I request a return reply to this matter.
Thank you Gert McQueen birth sibling to Joan Wheeler cc RuthSippelPace birth sibling
Gert again....So I ask, not only these pioneers in the world of adoption reform, but all those that seek open adoption records and birth certificate reform…do you really want a person who has a history of lying, publishing a libelous book, bullying, who uses hate speech, and more despicable deeds, to be your spokesperson?
Long before Joan’s book Forbidden Family was published, she was engaging in ‘character assassination’ of the birth sisters. After the publication when the family started to complaint about the contents, Joan attempted to silence the sisters by creating this blog, which still is up…
She had, along with fellow adoptees, used browbeating tactics, on the Internet, against ANYONE who is pro-adoption, including the birth sisters.
The birth siblings were SUCCESSFUL in, May of 2011, in proving that the book, Forbidden Family, contained libelous materials. The publisher pulled it from further publication.
She then enlisted two male friends to create blogs against birth sisters. One did finally did take down all hate speech against birth sister but the other has not. While it could be said that she is ‘not’ responsible for the actions of others, it was INDEED at her beck and call and for her benefit, that these males publically insulted and harassed WOMEN THEY DO NOT KNOW. The vilest one is at: http://defendingjoanwheeler.blogspot.com/2012/04/defending-joan-wheeler.html
On her web site http://forbiddenfamily.net/ supposedly to promote adoption reform, she had much hate and anger against the birth sisters which she recycled into that cyberbullying blog. But, she still has many hate speech blog posts against the birth sisters on this site.
I repeat…the basic character of a spokesperson, for any cause, ought to be beyond reproach. If not, that spokesperson will just add ammunition to the opposition of your cause. And adoptees wonder why no one is taking them seriously!
And I have NOT received any return communications from those that I have informed.
update…December 17, 2013…I have received communication from Sandy Musser!