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Joan Wheeler is too controversial for her own good and certainly does NOT help true adoption reform!
We birth siblings have been telling everyone in adoption circles about the character and behavior of Joan Wheeler ever since she published the disgusting libelous book Forbidden Family. We have withstood insults, mockery, slander, libel and we STILL ARE TELLING YOU ALL THE TRUTH.
Even when she writes a good position paper, placed on the public forum, she is SUBJECTED to being scrutinized and REMEMBERED by the public because she is presenting herself AS A PUBLIC SPOKESPERSON FOR A NATIONAL PUBLIC CAUSE. Because of that position, that SHE wants, her character…that’s generally called a ‘character reference’, her education/jobs/career…that’s generally called ‘a resume with references’ and her past deeds and words…that’s generally called ‘accountability’ of her past, are open for and to PUBLIC consumption.
She cannot SILENCE or BROWBEAT or SLANDER those whom have personal or professional knowledge of her transgressions, nor can her ‘supporters’ attempt similar intimidations, in a public forum.
Only the venue, the OWNER OF THE SOAP BOX, of the PUBLIC FORUM can silence the issue and debate and those that present and counter-present their positions.
And…so…it only took us 5 days! But we sisters presented the counter rightful debates on the public forum. Sure, things can and do get heated on such venues and the OWNER of the public forum closed it down!
About 9 pm January 26, 2014 after 5 days, Joan’s OPINION in the Buffalo News online paper was SHUT DOWN.
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Over the course of the last couple of days, some comments were deleted, while others were left standing, then others written, then others flagged, then deleted, some still standing, but eventually…the moderators saw that the core of Joan Wheeler’s background was TOO HOT for them to handle!
Here is the link to my original post about her opinion piece…that is still up but it is now a closed/done issue.
One of Joan’s core problems is she paranoid and she ought to get that checked out!
‘Conspiracy theories often provide solace, they provide a level of comfort that makes sense of a world that seems otherwise beyond our ken, our control.’ from…Seeing Zapruder by Ron Rosenbaum, Smithsonian October 2013
One of Joan’s problems is that most times when she writes about her passion (adoption reform, or whatever) she simply HAS to either outright LIE or twist things concerning HOW she was adopted, her family, and trash certain people, usually her birth sisters.
On January 24, one day after posting her opinion piece in The Buffalo News, she left a comment, using one of her many screen names Half Orphan 56 on a New Jersey opinion piece: http://blog.nj.com/ledgerletters/2014/01/letter_chris_christies_comment.html – there was another commenter there with the name of Joan – I’m not sure if that was Joan Wheeler, posting twice under two different names or not.
Her post was well written, well thought out, clear and concise – AND NOT ONE MENTION OF HER BIRTH SISTERS. I have said it before – I don’t care WHAT Joan says about adoption – I am not interested in it. What I AM interested in, is ANY LIES OR MISREPESENTATION SHE PUTS FORTH IN PUBLIC ABOUT MY FAMILY AND MYSELF. And Joan has been told via the internet – whenever she does speak shit about us or our family – we will be right there to refute her lies.
In the opinion piece that she put forth on The Buffalo News and it’s website, she described her adoption as having been “forced.” I made a comment that her adoption had been done OUT OF NECESSITY. Meanwhile, a commentor using the screenname Mithogo came on and said “be warned, Joan Wheeler’s libelous book was pulled due to slander.”
I at first thought that was Gert, but in an email, she said it wasn’t her. So I clicked on that commentor’s Disqus profile – Mithogo had written some 90 comments in the past – many of them about music and guitars. And in on comment made last summer, he had commented on an Artvoice article about the traveling band that he is a member of had their van broken into and their instruments stolen after a gig at The Sportsmen Tavern. This is a bar that Joan apparently goes to quite frequently (as per her tweets). (Artvoice is an indie newspaper for the arts in Buffalo, NY).
I thought it was quite interesting that someone who knows Joan in person, seems to know about her book being pulled from publication because of the lies in it.
WELL – after I left my initial comment, in which I related WHY Joan was placed for adoption, here comes Joan and accused us of harassing her again. She even accused us of “setting her up.” I would like to know how we did – since it was JOAN WHO WROTE THE DAMN ARTICLE IN THE FIRST PLACE! Joan began the mud-slinging – accusing her three sisters of harassing her – when there was only me and Gert. (can she fucking count?)
Yeah, the mud flew. Because she had to start her stupid shit. She even said that Gert was not a birthmother! I commented – how that could be when in December 1965 and November 1966 Gert GAVE BIRTH TO HER KIDS!
Gert says above “One of Joan’s core problems is she paranoid and she ought to get that checked out!” Yep – paranoid – “I smell a set-up,” is what Joan said. Again, HOW DID WE SET HER UP WHEN SHE WROTE THE ARTICLE?
Gert also writes “Even when she writes a good position paper, placed on the public forum, she is SUBJECTED to being scrutinized and REMEMBERED by the public because she is presenting herself AS A PUBLIC SPOKESPERSON FOR A NATIONAL PUBLIC CAUSE.”
Which Joan needs to remember before she starts the mud-slinging. She writes a fairly good article, I come on and comment that her adoption was not forced but done out of necessity, and she right away starts the shit-flinging.
WELL DONE JOAN, BRAVO! You really showed people what an intelligent professional “social worker” you are.
One commentor even said “what an amusing family.”
And when the heat got turned way up – Joan’s “friend” from the bar – mithogo bailed out! He deleted his entire Disgus account – guess he got disgusted with Joan – and again, I have to point out my wonder on this – a guy Joan knows from a bar – knows all about her book. He obviously did his homework – he was NOT blinded by Joan’s lies. Not like her other puppets, Russ, Brian, Laura, Mara, Dana, Heather.
As the old saying goes “You can fool some of the people some of the time, but you can’t fool all of the people all of the time.”