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#adoptees want their voices heard #flipthescript but don’t want to hear about the harm done to others, when blaming adoption for their ills!

by on December 7, 2014



Desperate people say & do desperate things! But, it can change if and when a person CHANGES their mindset.

If you feed your mind and heart with garbage, junk, hatred, anger … all you will ever FIND and HAVE in your life is garbage, junk, hatred, anger and more of the same. It’s the WAY the UNIVERSE works!

It’s too bad that Joan Wheeler can’t, or won’t, CHANGE her mind and heart set. It doesn’t take much to turn a life around. She doesn’t want to change a thing! She’s a permanent victim! And she likes that!

Joan is NOT the only person that has had any long-term unemployment, medical conditions and no ‘benefits’ or ‘help’. Joan ‘could’ have foreseen many potential problems DECADES ago if she wasn’t so stupid, full of hate and always looking for SOMEONE to rescue her!

Yes, I realize that many have NOT had, and never will have, the opportunity to read that libelous book of hers to know that over 600 pages were nothing but angry rants against everyone who ‘hurt’ her! Poor Baby! That libelous book was to be Joan’s ticket to fame and fortune, a way out of her low-income status. It was written on the backs of the birth and adoptive families! That’s called Exploitation! Slander! Libel!

As a birth sibling I’m fully aware of Joan’s basic character and behavior. I was one of her first victims, as were my husband, my children and my other sisters, brother, father and step-mother and all of my extended family. Joan’s character was SHAPED by the adoptive parents! But that, in and of itself, is NOT a reason to condemn adoption and those that are pro-adoption. It is also NOT a reason to engage in condemning religious and political organizations/parties for their policies, that we ALL, in one way or another, are subjected to and have to live with in today’s world.

There are a few simple truths of life…you ARE your thoughts…thoughts come BEFORE manifestation! A person CREATES their life! You ARE your DEEDS! Not everyone CAN understand that…it took me a long time to UNDERSTAND it, but understand it I DID.

Yes, some lives are full of problems…we all have OUR CROSSES to carry and our LOTS to bear in life! No one gets a free life WITHOUT problems! Life ISN’T fair! That’s a FACT.

I cried because I didn’t have socks to wear UNTIL I saw someone with NO FEET to put the socks on!

Just taking a quick look at Joan Wheeler’s tweets (@forbiddenfamily) you can see how she relentlessly searches for any kind of horrible stories there are…out there! She’s a junkie for this stuff! She’s a bottom feeder! And then she wonders why she isn’t happy! Or why MEN leave her!

Years ago, our father suggested to her to sell that old house, put the elderly adoptive mother in a nursing home and for Joan to take a small apartment. But no, Joan only saw what she wanted to see; that our father would have her ‘under his thumb’…stupid girl, he was only trying to HELP HER, but she was determine that he was ‘out to get her’! So now she’s stuck with trying to KEEP her old house and KEEP her disability checks coming in. Those checks BTW are paid by our TAX DOLLARS!

A year or so ago, in an effort to ‘save’ her house, she took in a fellow adoptee as a boarder. That lasted ONE WEEK. We know that because the guy private messaged Ruth telling her about it, saying that Joan ‘scared the hell’ out of him!

A few weeks ago, with a new ‘friend’ on social media who is sick and about to lose her house, Joan ‘hit’ on this sick woman to be her housemate so that she can keep her house! That ‘arrangement’ didn’t seem to get off the mark or Joan would be TELLING us all about it. And so Joan is in desperation mode yet again!

Here is Joan in early November 2014

Joan M Wheeler These are Christians folks. Christians. Fuck them all. They deserve to die.

Gert here…spoken like a true TERROIST! yep Joan knows how to make and keep FRIENDS! NOT! She is forever telling the world that she is a SOCIAL WORKER and yet she speaks this type of hate and violence!

Joan M Wheeler Republicans decreased my food stamps, cut my medicaid so I cannot get needed medications to stay alive, and dis-allowed other medications completely. I am disabled and cannot work. So I am pushed to the sidelines because they see me as “unworthy poor”. Yes that is a term. I am a social worker. “Unworthy poor” do not work. “Worthy poor” are the under-employed. Also, I am trying to start a business, but there are no supports for me to do so. NONE. No business loans as that will be considered income and I will be penalized. When I am able to start my business, or work part-time, for every two dollars I earn, the gov will take one dollar away from me. ALSO — AND THIS IS FOR US IN ADOPTION REFORM — POOR WOMEN IN HOMELESS SHELTERS ARE FORCED TO WORK MINIMUM WAGE JOBS, THIS FORCES THEIR CHILDREN IN DAY CARE WHICH THEY CANNOT PAY FOR, THEY CANNOT GET AN APARTMENT AND THEY LOSE THEIR CHILDREN TO FAST TRACKED ADOPTION POLICIES DESIGNED TO SUPPLY THE ADOPTION BUSINESS. I know this is because I worked in two homeless shelters and a crisis center before I got too sick to work. I saw this happen in several families. The children were gone before the mothers could get any legal help and there is no legal help for them as lawyers who work for the indigent see welfare recipients as low-life. Clinton signed “Welfare Reform” and that is the result – yes, he was not thinking. Conservative republicans make situations even worse for poor women so they cannot keep their children. Minimum wages are too low for any family or single people to pay bills. I know extremely wealthy people who do not create new jobs. I know too many very poor people who boxed into despair, including me. November 6 at 9:11am

Gert here… oh can she turn on those righteous tears! woe is HER! She keeps saying she’s a social worker…wrong! She has a degree but has NEVER WORKED as one. The so-called jobs she mentions were NOT jobs as a SOCIAL WORKER and one was a VOLUNTEER position! What about Joan’s own children? Did she EVER have their interests at heart? It’s always been about Joan first, everyone else LAST.

In 1970 I was divorced with 2 children and on welfare. I went to school for one year, then worked, with incentive pay, from the government, for about 2 years, then I was OFF THE WELFARE ROLLS. I then WORKED for 37 years and now as a retiree I have a federal pension, a 401 pension annuity, and Social Security. I plan it! I earned every penny of them. My health premium is currently one half of my pension; every month! In addition, I still have co-pays, deductables, and high medicine costs. I also live in senior HUD housing because my income is LOW INCOME even AFTER having 3 checks per month coming in to me.

Joan should do herself a favor…sell the house and get into HUD housing! But she’s too GOOD for that! She MUST stay in a decaying house and NOT take advantage of opportunities that ARE OUT THERE FOR LOW INCOME PEOPLE. She isn’t getting younger and some day she will be out on the street if she doesn’t wake up!

Why hasn’t Joan’s income not been better? Because she was the one who REFUSED to get a job to help support her family. Her illnesses are compounded because she DOES NOT LET GO OF THE NEGATIVITY that she continues to BRING INTO HER LIFE. And now, she wants to start a business! Of course she can’t have her cake and eat it too…she thought she could when she wrote a LIBELOUS BOOK against the birth family…ME and my FAMILY. That backfired on her! Lies do that! So instead of taking her blame for her own self created hells…she blames the government!

Joan M Wheeler Actually, Medicaid is constantly being cut. I am on it for 12 years now. Seeing vital medications costs go up, and my medicaid not covering it, forcing me to pay out of pocket. Or, medications are dropped entirely. Or, medical procedures are not covered that once were covered. To circumvent this, doctors are writing in in diagnoses that are not true in order to get procedures covered to keep patients alive. This has happened to my daughter who almost died, were it not for a doctor who saw the need, put in a diagnosis that was covered, so that he could save her life – when we were on welfare in 1994. I have never been able to climb out of poverty. The temporary increase in food stamps was taken away after about a year. Food prices are going up, food stamps are going down. I am forced to go to food pantry to supplement. You will not convince me of republican or Conservative benefits. AS a Social Worker and a poor woman, I have seen this country go downhill for the duration of my adult life. Reagan killed jobs with his trickle-down economics. My husband was a steel worker at that time and he could not get work. After our divorce, I was on welfare with two kids. There are no good jobs. My daughter now works two minimum wage jobs at 30 hours per week because no empower has full-time jobs any longer because they do not want to pay for benefits. As a social work student, I learned that this country was founded upon the Poor Laws of 1600 in England. Taking Poverty Class was humiliating. Taking Policy Class gave me the strength to move forward to work on adoption reform. November 6 at 9:52am

Gert here…Here’s a news flash for Joan…EVERYONE’S medicines are going up! I know folks in the early 70s that are STILL WORKING because they need the medicines that their health insurance does NOT PAY. Joan DOESN’T pay for her medical care…our TAXES are supporting Joan Wheeler!

So Joan, get with the program, you are no better than everyone else in this country. I too have grown children that are having DIFFICULTIES in today’s real economics. They DEAL WITH IT, why can’t Joan? Good grief! Joan spends all her time and energy on a NON-PAYING self-serving, look at me, I’m the great and wonderful wizard of adoption reform! Get a job!

Joan M Wheeler If the government has no control over businesses, then why was Reagan so vocal over Trickle-down economics? We were a young family then and lost everything. Everything. Have not been able to recover. … Meanwhile, I am angered to call customer service only to get a person in India who claims his name is Bruce or Mike and I cannot understand his accent. America needs jobs by our own people! My only hope is to start a home-based business, taking free courses through SBA. November 6 at 10:12am

Gert here…again Joan isn’t the first and only person in this country that LOST everything! Gee why didn’t she THINK about a business LONG ago and BEFORE she decided she was going to be a MILLIONAIRE on the royalties of that LIBELOUS book!

She doesn’t have what it takes to keep and maintain a business, BECAUSE she is always depressed over ADOPTION ISSUES and too busy going after people who are pro-adoption. And if that wasn’t enough…she continues to FEED herself with more negativity! No wonder she CAN’T get well!

Then on her blog, ForbiddenFamily, as legitimate bastard, she says, November 20th, before she presents another’s blog…

(Joan says) I’ve felt like a “trapped animal” so many times in my lifetime. I’ve been suicidal, many times. Being adopted is like being totally alone. And I am a domestically-born adoptee. Here are thoughts from “an Asian face in a predominantly white world…”

Gert here…like I said…she MUST always and forever RELIVE her negative stuff; can’t get better if you relive and are consumed with negativity.

And on November 26, 2014 on her blog…as legitimate bastard, and yep, AFTER THINKING ABOUT IT…she just CAN NOT stop!

(Joan says) When I first decided to reblog this post, I thought I wouldn’t have words to write as an introduction. Then it occurred to me that I read about a group of mothers who lost their babies to adoption, and two adoptees, all who are a generation younger than I am. I look at the photos on the blog’s page, faces of young children, faces of young parents. Yes, I was there once. And I teetered on the brink of suicide for most of my adult life . I am currently about a month and a half away from my 59th birthday. Forty years ago, almost 41 years ago, when I was 18, I was found by natural family I was never supposed to know. Then turmoil ensued in my adoptive homelike and in my inner self as I numbly went through meeting natural family, beginning at my age then and continued for the next few years. I felt the wrath and disgust of extended family from both sides berate me, pick on me, while only a handful were actually, lovingly, my true family. Through it all, I have been suicidal for most of the past 40 years. Nightmares began that very first night. Sweats, shaking, sobbing alone and in public, fear, anxiety, panic, feeling as though I didn’t know my surroundings, feeling confused, feeling angry that it all was happening — I thought I was alone. Twenty years into reunion, a few years after my divorce, I tried to kill myself in front of my children. It wasn’t planned. I didn’t know what I was doing. I was in psychological pain from constant attacks invading my personal life. I was in psychological pain from the condition of being adopted. Now, as I grow older, my anxiety is somewhat controlled; but it is still there. Adoption is loss, adoption is pain. And now, I see another generation suffer in similar ways that I did. I read about a younger adoptee who completed suicide. And his friends are left in tears.

Gert here…oh gods! she can sure pour it on! this doesn’t help anyone and certainly NOT Joan! She milks things for all they are worth! She can’t let go of her pain! She wrote 600 pages of this crap, over 30 years, and that was suppose to help her? how? No, it was so she could get book royalties OFF THE BACKS OF ADOPTIVE AND BIRTH FAMILIES. And because her grand scheme failed she is reduced to searching the web for and about sob stories so that she can RELIVE every negative second of her life! What a sicko! She has no thought about her CHILDREN, she states she tried to kill herself IN FRONT OF HER CHILDREN! She has no sense of decency because she is a sick sick person! She can not help anyone because she can’t help herself!

UPDATE NOVEMBER 2016; as older posts are being seen I, Gert, am updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler (Doris Michol Sippel) says about me and family. The first book Forbidden Family, A Half Orphan’s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism published in 2009, was pulled from publication by the publisher in May 2011 due to libelous material in it. Then in 2015, she ‘self-published’ a ‘revised’ version calling it ‘Forbidden Family, an adoptee duped by adoption’, being her own editor and owner. This woman has no shame no sense of family honor! Then in 2016 Joan changed her name back to her birth name and reedited and republished the SAME crap in another book; a Third edition! CALLED ‘Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity’! Talk about conning people!

this blog’s title/sub title is… DUPED BY ADOPTION & AN WOMAN’S STRUGGLE FOR IDENTITY, A BOOK STUDY an in-depth analyzes of the books called Forbidden Family; My Life as an Adoptee Duped by adoption & An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity by Joan M Wheeler/Doris M Sippel.


THERE is no way that Joan can EARN enough money to get off welfare/disability, but she keeps trying, by EXPLOITING families.



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