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Male-pronouns & male-situations; the reasons #JoanMWheeler has trouble learning! Perhaps she ought to #flipthescript (her script)

by on February 10, 2015

Joan never takes responsibility; it’s always the other’s fault. Here, in this post, I share a statement of hers, in which she blames her lack of understanding/learning (tack) and growth on the ‘male’pronoun and situations! Huh?

SEE END OF POST FOR UPDATE 

Politically correct language changes began around the 1980s. I will give you that we all need to be aware of others, and their ‘feelings’, in our word choices. In some places it’s called ‘sensitivity training’. I’m all for equal treatment and kindness etc. but there does come a time when we have to just ‘get real’!

Personally speaking I’ve felt that, in many areas, the PC language changes has gotten out of hand and has warped our ‘collective’ sense of reality.

Example…everyone knows that there are ‘right-handed’ people and ‘left-handed’ people. It’s common to call a left-handed person a ‘leftie’ and from my decades in the dental work-environment it was an acceptable term. The majority of dental chairs and equipment are set up for right-handed personnel. Everything has to be turned around to accommodate a left-handed person. One day I said something about setting up for a ‘leftie’ and was ‘corrected’. The term ‘leftie’ is derogatory and insensitive, I was told! Well Excuse me! My personal indignation didn’t ‘get’ me anything! I was ‘bound’ NOT to use the term ‘leftie’. If I continued I could have gotten a written reprimand; that is the way of the real work place (something Joan doesn’t know as she hasn’t worked but for short periods of time).

Another example, in dentistry, there are bands that are wrapped around a tooth to create a ‘wall’ for a filling. Most are simple bands while some have two ‘humps’ that go below the gum line. For decades it was common to call the two-humped band a Dolly! Everyone ‘knew’ what that meant and no one thought anything of it. Until PC language took over everywhere! No more Dollys!

As a general reminder and comparison…there was a time when the medical and dental professions did NOT wear gloves and masks! We all have to get with the program, sometimes.

It is really quite difficult to read, a book, an article, anything, where the writer is so inclined to use the ‘he/she’ in every sentence! Couldn’t a simple statement in the beginning state that the author understands the inclusion of both sexes when they say either ‘he takes it into his hand’ or ‘she takes it into her hand’ instead of he/she everywhere! But over time, I, at least, have learned, by context, how to ‘infer’ what GENDER is appropriate for ME, to comprehend, and NOT get bend out of shape for the use of either male or female PRONOUNS and then get ‘offended’ by the wrong pronoun. It’s ONLY  a freaking PRONOUN, you know.

Be that as it may…there are two genders in the human race; male and female. Oh but ‘excuse me’…there are many more these days in the ‘trans’ ‘bi’ and what have you. Now, I’m not trying to be insensitive here but it does get to be some what nonsensical to get all bend out of shape over the use of he/she/it and what have you! And then blame the wrong pronoun for your (a person’s) problems (in this case Joan). What a fall guy that pronoun is!

In the sense, of a warped sense of reality, here is a statement by Joan M Wheeler (February 2015)

….’Thanks for sharing, Fred. This is very true. And, I’ve had trouble learning from certain readings because of the male pronoun. And male situations.’

The statement she was commenting on is this…

When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment he needs help.’

This is a fairly well-known statement about the nature of who suffers and why. The author who wrote it is using CORRECTLY the pronouns ‘he, himself, his’! When speaking about a member of the human race, it is generally correct to use the ‘male’ pronoun, unless, you are so into the PC language. Also correct would be the neutral, ‘a person’ or ‘they’ or ‘them’ or ‘their’.

Interesting that it was a MALE that shared the statement to Joan and to whom she made the comment! Hummm!!

In an email exchange with Ruth…

I said.

‘it’s truly amazing how stupid she is…doesn’t she know about the change in PC language that happened in the 80s? the CORRECT way of speaking about anyone in the human race is BY THE USE OF THE MALE PRONOUN. This he/she BS is nuts, if she is having problems LEARNING because of a misplaced pronoun and MALE situations, she’ll never be well.

Ruth said

‘and she calls herself a feminist? – while the use of the male pronoun is generally accepted, most feminists (myself included) prefer the non-stereotypical of ‘they’ ‘their’ – her ‘trouble learning from certain readings’ comes from her intense hatred of men in general (except when they give her something, a dick or money) – which is another classic sign of being sexually abused at a young age by a trusted relative.’

Our exchange (Ruth and mine) is not a warp reality…we KNOW Joan very well. She has great difficulty with anyone in ‘authority’, she views parents as ‘in control’, she writes/wrote about my father as a person who ‘wanted her under his thumb’, a ‘dictator’ and far worst. And she says that book was NOT libelous!

No question about it, Joan has a huge problem with MALES and they with her, for they don’t stick around long!

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Ruth February 10, 2015

wait a minute! THIS is the statement she got confused about? — “‘ When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment he needs help.’”

WHAT is so hard to understand? – is she going senile? because I seem to recall a lot of her writing is all about this statement – that the ADOPTEES are suffering, and they suffer deep down and when their suffering causes them to lash out – the ADOPTEES need UNDERSTANDING. – that’s what she is ALWAYS whining! over and over she says that NOBODY in her adoptive family and later, her birth family understood her ‘suffering.” – She is CONSTANTLY referring people to the book The Primal Wound so that people would educate themselves on the ‘suffering’ of adoptees.

she is so full of bullshit that I smell it in the air all the way over to my neighborhood. –
If the writer of that statement had used the word ADOPTEE instead of ‘him’ or ‘he’ – she would be jumping all over the place congratulating the writer

UPDATE INFO, MARCH 2016, as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler says about me and family. After the first book was pulled from publication by the publisher, May 2011, she has ‘self-published’ another ‘revised’ version. In this ‘version’ called ‘duped by adoption’ she has increased her exploitation by including PICTURES and REAL NAMES and much more personal information violating again the families. Joan has no decency NOR shame. There is NOTHING in this book for adoption reform. She is totally against adoption and her two families. To learn more see…

https://gertmcqueen2.wordpress.com/

https://www.facebook.com/dupedbyadoption1

 

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2 Comments
  1. wait a minute! THIS is the statement she got confused about? — “‘ When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment he needs help.’”

    WHAT is so hard to understand? – is she going senile? because I seem to recall a lot of her writing is all about this statement – that the ADOPTEES are suffering, and they suffer deep down and when their suffering causes them to lash out – the ADOPTEES need UNDERSTANDING. – that’s what she is ALWAYS whining! over and over she says that NOBODY in her adoptive family and later, her birth family understood her ‘suffering.” – She is CONSTANTLY referring people to the book The Primal Wound so that people would educate themselves on the ‘suffering’ of adoptees.

    she is so full of bullshit that I smell it in the air all the way over to my neighborhood. –
    If the writer of that statement had used the word ADOPTEE instead of ‘him’ or ‘he’ – she would be jumping all over the place congratulating the writer

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