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Joan M Wheeler (Doris M Sippel) says she’s “the most hated anti-adoption adoptee in America”; wow talk about delusions of grandeur!

by on November 12, 2016

Okay this is an old rant of Joan’s (2010) but it serves to show her narcissistic nasty behavior and as such is important to bring out, for ingrain behaviors never change.

To be clear…here are facts that needs to be known before we move on.

I, Gert, expose the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler (Doris Michol Sippel) says about me and family. The first book ‘Forbidden Family, A Half Orphan’s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism’ was published in November 2009 but was pulled from publication by the publisher in May 2011, due to libelous material within the book. Then in 2015, she ‘self-published’ a ‘revised’ version calling it ‘Forbidden Family, an adoptee duped by adoption’. This woman has no shame no sense of family honor! Then in 2016 Joan changed her name back to her birth name and reedited and republished the SAME crap in another book; a Third edition! CALLED ‘Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity’! Talk about conning people!

Here are the links to my second blog and a Facebook page dedicated to these ‘books’.

this blog’s title/sub title is… DUPED BY ADOPTION & AN WOMAN’S STRUGGLE FOR IDENTITY, A BOOK STUDY an in-depth analyzes of the books called Forbidden Family; My Life as an Adoptee Duped by adoption & An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity by Joan M Wheeler/Doris M Sippel.

And here is the Facebook page…


So Joan receives an email from the National Council For Adoption about the ‘anti-adoption’ movement’s actions. Joan of course is ANTI-adoption and she itching for a fight and rallying her troops. Funny thing…here it is 6 years later, in 2016, and Joan has been distanced by most of the mainstream anti-adoption community! Joan is a ‘has-been’, she had her 15 minutes of fame, wrote/published the same book THREE TIMES and still is a NO-BODY! Her books are NOT listed in any ‘list of books written by adoptees’! Her message has always been destroyed by her hate, anger and lies against both birth and adoptive families. Her presentations and her counter attacks have proven that she can NOT hold the stage to present her ‘counter position’ to the ‘pro-adoption’ movements.

Is she really the most hated anti-adoption adoptee in America or the MOST dumbest? Where has it (her fighting) gotten her? Has she stopped adoption? Where is she today? Crying in her soup! She is NOTHING and has NOTHING. Adoption will CONTINUE on!

The link to her post follows. I am consolidating the ‘letter’ to conserve space here. Some comments to Joan’s post follow. If one is interested in seeing comments, they can go to Joan’s site and see them all, there are 15. I am NOT presenting all comments, but just a selection to show how Joan, and pal Mara, gang up on any opposing view. What I find interesting is the vitriol, that Joan and other adoptees use, does NOT change what they want changed! Such venom just turns people off and away from the speaker. Joan and gang cannot present their arguments in a clear calm manner! They don’t speak to law-makers only to each other and then they go on line and browbeat pro-adoption people with their hate.

Joan as legitimatebastard writes…

It came in my email inbox:

The anti-adoption community is working overtime.  Stop them now.

National Council For Adoption []  Thu 8/12/2010 11:43 AM

Dear Friend of Adoption,

At NCFA, we believe a nurturing, permanent family is every child’s birthright, yet there are those who actually oppose adoption and attack NCFA for our strong advocacy. In fact, the anti-adoption community is working overtime to counter our mission to promote a positive culture of adoption.

This opposition demonstrates our success as the nation’s authoritative voice for adoption. We have seen passage of several NCFA-supported initiatives on Capitol Hill, enjoyed our most successful National Adoption Conference ever, had a wonderful night out with 500 children waiting to be adopted and their foster parents with Kids at Heart at Nationals Park, appeared on CNN, and contributed to stories in Timemagazine, The New York Times, and the Associated Press.

What can you do to stop this negativity and anti-adoption efforts? You can make an urgent online, tax-deductible gift right now of $50, $75, or $100to ensure that adoption remains strong.  We need your immediate financial support so that we can continue our important advocacy on behalf of children, birthparents, and adoptive families all around the world.  Please, visit our website and make an urgent online, tax-deductible gift of $50, $75, or $100 and support our efforts to promote a positive culture of adoption.

You can also show your support for NCFA and adoption by joining our official Facebook Page by clicking here. Then, suggest our page to your Facebook friends.  We want our page to be a positive place where birthparents, prospective adoptive parents, and adopted persons can share their experiences about adoption and help raise awareness for the positive option of adoption for women facing an unplanned pregnancy.  Together, we will keep adoption strong, and we will not allow the anti-adoption minority to negatively influence policy and practice.

Will you please make an urgent online, tax-deductible gift right now of $50, $100, or $250 to ensure that adoption remains a positive option for women facing an unplanned pregnancy?  You can STOP the negativity and anti-adoption efforts:DONATE NOW to keep adoption strong.

With sincere thanks for your support, Chuck Johnson President and CEO

P.S.  Will you please forward this message to your friends, family, and contacts and ask them to make an urgent online, tax-deductible gift of $50, $75 or $100 to ensure that adoption remains strong?      &&& end of letter &&&

So how does Joan reply? The same as always with contempt!


Chuckie, Chuckles, or whatever-you-want-to-call-him, is at it again.

Looks like I have no choice but to bring out some former posts from my previous blogs.

You asked for it, sweetie pie. Stay tuned.

Signed, Half-Orphan56, LegitimateBastard, best known as Joan Mary Wheeler BORN AS Doris Michol Sippel —- the most hated anti-adoption adoptee in America!

Why am I anti-adoption? Because I am PRO FAMILY PRESERVATION!

&&& and now some comments &&&

Lori A  says

I’m confused as to WHY they need money to shut up the so called anti adoption people? What will money do? I was expecting something like “post how happy you are” or “discredit them at every turn”. LOL, instead the logic is “we need donated money to keep them quiet?” I seriously dont get it. AUGUST 14, 2010 AT 9:23 PM

Mara says

Ahhhhh, poor up-Chuckie is afraid his baby business will be going out of business. Those responsible for sealing our birth records should have thought about your wellbeing, Chuckie, before they perpetrated their evil deeds. They did care that the babies would some day grow up and be PISSED. They only cared about the money at the time, just as you do now. Piss on your baby-pimping business you disgraceful vulture. AUGUST 15, 2010 AT 12:28 PM

Mara says I meant did NOT care, Chuckie, if that confused you at all.AUGUST 15, 2010 AT 12:29 PM

Chelsea says

Perhaps if you people would focus on what’s best for a child then maybe your anger would be less. Take a ride with me sometimes, a police officer who has to go in and literally peel a child off a hot radiator after his protector, his biologcal mother has beaten him half to death because he dared talk back to his step father. Or a young teenager who has just given birth several months ago gives the baby vodka so he can sleep through the night so she can go party with her friends because the little brat cries so much. Or the granddaddy of them all , a young girl who puts the newborn in a trash can because the baby’s father left her and she does not want to have anything to do with his bastard.

All these cases I have cited are all true. Tell me again that we should try and make a family anyway instead of getting these kids to famililes that will love them unconditionally and nuture them the way they should be loved. At the end of the day love and not biology should be the deciding factor. And as long as I am able to I will make sure these criminals lose all rights to these precious children and spend as much time in jail as possible. AUGUST 15, 2010 AT 2:03 PM

Mara says


As a police officer, I saw a lot of child abuse. I remember the adoptive grandfather who molested his new granddaughter by having her suck his p*nis. I took his confession. Don’t try to lecture me or anyone else on the “better than” scenarios of adoption. Myself and many of my adoptee friends are lucky to be alive because of the abuse of our adoptoraptors.

I agree that children should be removed from abuse. You and I agree on that. But taking them away from their biological family instead of helping them find kinship care and sealing their birth certificates is immoral and should be ILLEGAL. I’m lucky I survived my abuse. He threatened to kill me all the time. Take your preaching elsewhere, you have NO idea what you are talking about, Officer Chelsea. AUGUST 16, 2010 AT 9:56 AM

legitimatebastard says

LoriA – I think NCFA needs money to lobby louder on Capital Hill. Just my guess. Money speaks louder than our reality.

Mara – keep being pissed because we need bastards like you to keep the adoptive-parents-wannabees in on why we are mad!

Chelsea – what you see on your job is truly horrific, no question about it. We are not saying to put children back into the hands of parents who are abusive, BUT you need to know adoptive parents can also be abusive. Adoptees are injured and killed by their adoptive parents, too, so your logic falls flat. I’m a Social Worker so I know where you are coming from – I’ve been to court with clients who have lost their children due to nothing more than poverty. In the cases you site, removing a child and placing a child in a safe home is a good idea provided that means in extended kinship care or guardianship that will allow a child access to toehr family memebrs AND to maintain her or his identity at birth AND allow for sblings to be raised together. I lost ALL of my siblings and my identity at birth due to being relinquished and then adopted. And there was no good reason for me to lose everything so that my adoptive parents could have a child to love. It was by their will, and the courts, that I be forbidden access to my own full blood siblings — and THAT is child abuse of me, and the siblings left behind: psychological child abuse. Those wounds continue well into adulthood.  AUGUST 16, 2010 AT 12:04 AM

legitimatebastard says

NCFA IS desperate! They think that money is everything, can buy everything, including kids! Including bastards’ silence! Yes, we ARE onto them (NCFA) and they are afraid that if too many people in the general public read our blogs and posts, we bastards will actually make a change. THEY do not want the changes we have been saying for decades! Desperate, they are. Logical, we are! AUGUST 14, 2010 AT 3:59 PM


Yep…nothing more to say…Joan/Doris says it all! And adoption keeps on keeping on!

One Comment
  1. Reblogged this on duped by adoption & an woman's Struggle for Identity, a book study and commented:

    NEW POST but same crap

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