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UPDATE OCTOBER 2016; I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler (Doris Michol Sippel) says about me and family. The first book ‘Forbidden Family, A Half Orphan’s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism‘ was pulled from publication by the publisher in May 2011. Then in 2015, she ‘self-published’ a ‘revised’ version calling it ‘Forbidden Family, an adoptee duped by adoption’. This woman has no shame no sense of family honor! Then in 2016 Joan changed her name back to her birth name and rewrote and republished the SAME crap in another book; a Third edition! CALLED ‘Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity’! Talk about conning people!

this blog’s title/sub title is… DUPED BY ADOPTION & AN WOMAN’S STRUGGLE FOR IDENTITY, A BOOK STUDY an in-depth analyzes of the books called Forbidden Family; My Life as an Adoptee Duped by adoption & An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity by Joan M Wheeler/Doris M Sippel.

UPDATE INFORMATION…August 2015 I have a new blog and FACEBOOK page that is DEVOTED to the same purpose, to expose the lies and dirty deeds of Joan M Wheeler.

Duped by adoption, a book study

An in-depth analyzes of the book Forbidden Family My Life as an Adoptee Duped by Adoption.


This blog’s (Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family) purpose is to document the lies and dirty deeds of Joan M Wheeler against the birth family. She wrote a libelous book, Forbidden Family. We the birth sisters provided documented evidence to the publisher, Trafford Publications, their lawyers deemed that Joan Wheeler VIOLATED the contract with them and they PULLED the book from publication. We of the birth family have been exposing each and every lie and deed that Joan Wheeler has done to us, in the flesh and in print, no matter how long ago it was nor where it was. We shall not rest until Joan Wheeler removes all the hate-speech and lies against the blood birth family! Any further publications of her’s will be looked at by us and we shall take actions.

Update November 2014…

Trying to summarize and make it as concise as possible…

Joan Wheeler’s book Forbidden Family was published in November 2009. Before that she had been all over the internet lying about and slandering everyone in the birth family. We, the birth family, knew nothing about any of that until December 2009, when we each finally had gotten a copy of the garbage book! We started to ‘refute’ the book on Ruth’s blog… a book of lies.

I did NOT have a blog, this blog, of my own until summer of 2011.

When Joan found out that we, her birth siblings, had gotten hold of her book, she enlisted an army of other ‘angry adoptees’ to attack us, mostly on Ruth’s blog and by October 2010 she created another web site against us…

My first contact with Trafford Publishers, who published Joan’s book, was in December 2010, after I had spent a year reading and writing about its contents. In May 2011 the publishers pulled the book from publication due to evidences that Ruth and I submitted to prove the libel contents of the book and Joan’s breach of contract with the publishing house.

Our father died January 11, 2011. Just prior to that and at his wake, one of Joan’s male friends, Russell Thomas, was ‘involved’ in Joan’s campaign to attack her birth sisters, myself, Ruth and Kathy. He created a ‘hate-blog’ against us, which the contents were eventually deleted. Joan USED this man for her own cause against birth family.

At about the same time, Joan became involved with another male, Brian Maloney. At first we did not know his true identity as he went by some alias on the internet. He created a hate blog against us as well….

There were many blog posts written by myself and Ruth, about/to this Brian Maloney, during the period of April 2012 and April 2013, when he finally stopped posting. His hate blog is still up. To understand the FULL context of the malicious hateful attacks upon WOMEN that this MAN (?) committed, to and in print, one must take a look at his site and our responses on our blogs during that period. Joan USED this man for her own cause against the birth family and finally threw him under the bus! What did he gain? His name is forever linked to a lying hateful adoptee named Joan Wheeler.

I retain the following updates as this is a historical record of our, the birth family’s rights to counter the malicious lies by an mentally impaired individual…Joan Wheeler.
Update June 7, 2013 One of Joan Wheeler’s male friends HAS REMOVED his blog against us. But her henchmen, Brian Maloney, still has not removed his blog against us…even though he says he ‘doesn’t want to be involved’. So we shall continue on exposing him.
Update Feb 2014 for someone who doesn’t want to be involved and has been pushed aside by Joan, herself, Brian still has that hate-blog up against us.

Update January 10, 2013  Anyone who wishes to communicate with me…all you need do is leave a comment, marked private…(all comments are moderated before being published) and if you are sincere I will get back with you. Your email address will never be published and I expect the same from you, if I email you back…thank you and please come back again.

Update  6 August 2012… The purpose of this blog is about exposing Joan Wheeler and her behavior and her lies. We are reclaiming family honor that she stole by her lies and her continuous actions of hate towards us, the birth siblings. This blog and Ruth’s blog will continue to expose Joan Wheeler.

If you do not have the stomach for reading about that, please go elsewhere. We do not suffer fools gladly or pay attention to Joan’s henchmen and we take no prisoners. If you get in our way, we will run over you.

see Ruth’s post here:

Joan Wheeler born Doris Sippel is now and forever “forbidden” to the Sippel family, due to her gross lies and disrespect of the family.

see joint post of Gert and Ruth
Death Notice of Doris Sippel – updated August 29, 2011

Update 14 August 2012…Well I guess fools don’t know when to shut their mouths…oh well we’ll just have to continue to expose the cyber-bully!

UPDATE July 8, 2012…be it known that Joan Wheeler has enlisted one, Brian T Maloney of Williamsville, NY to harass, browbeat, insult, belittle, intimidate and cyber bully the birth siblings of Joan. We do not know this Brian T Maloney who has a blog who calls himself Champ,  and he has left a bullying remark Dec 2011, on the Buffalo News website article on birther issue of Joan Wheeler.

June 2013 Unfortunately one must now subscribe to the news site to get the article but here is the link anyway….

This man is an abuser to women he does not know.

By a sheer twist of fate, Brian is the son of the late Arthur J. Maloney, who was a well respected attorney in the Buffalo area, AND long-time friend and attorney of our stepmother (from the late 1960′s) and long-time friend and attorney of our father Leonard Sippel (since the early 1970′s). Mr. Maloney also handled the adoption proceedings when our father adopted his stepdaughter. Joan Wheeler cannot stand that fact and has enlisted Brian T. Maloney in her continued abuse and harassment of her birth family. Arthur also handled legal issues for Ruth in 1976 (landlord/tenant) and in the 1990′s – regarding Joan’s theft of money from Ruth and harassment of Ruth. Arthur was disgusted with Joan’s behavior. We are appalled that the son of a very sweet man (Arthur) is such an abuser and a harasser of the daughters of a friend of his late father. I, Ruth Sippel Pace, in representing the Sippel family, left a message of condolence on the online remembrance book for Arthur. I am shocked and disgusted that in return, I am called a dog by his son.

Updated Sept 2, 2011

Well, I have been learning quite a lot since I started this blog the end of July! So much so that I have edited this ‘about’ page from what was there before! I actually forgot that it was here! I still think it a great idea that I now have a blog…there is so much to say and so little time to say it in.

Ruth has been doing such a great job on her blog  and having my blog only helps consolidating our efforts. We have plenty of material to share… so stay tuned…The focus of this blog is the same as Ruth’s…to refute the lies of Joan Wheeler and reclaim our personal and family honor that Joan stole from us.

We have no desire to debate any issues of adoption…that is NOT our focus.

Our sole reason for these blogs is to set the record straight for our family!

for more insight see….November 14, 2011  Unsound thinking….  with additional comment June 2013

update June 27, 2012…my, my! it’s hard to believe that I’ve had this blog for almost a year! Time goes by so fast when you’re having fun! Over the past year I’ve gotten a lot better at navigating these blogs…Ruth and I are co-administrators of each other’s blogs…that has helped us in so many ways because, as life must go on, it can’t always stop to take care of immediate  ‘stuff happens’ events. So we have ‘covered’ each other when needed.

Last month I finally got internet access at home! Better late than never! Previously I was going to public libraries and fast food places, when I purchased the net book last summer and it got a bit weary. Last winter I said to myself, that outside of my twice weekly yoga classes, which are in the evenings, if it (whatever I have to or want to do) isn’t done by 4pm its not getting done. I’m going to be home when it’s dark out. That decision made my life so much more comfortable that I carried it on into the spring. If it’s nice out I’m going for a walk or bike ride or sit by the river and read and the library internet can wait.

So when I decide to get wifi at home I found that my older lap top wasn’t going to do the trick so I got a new laptop and gave my old one to Ruth. Life is good! Share the wealth!  So we are just going to keep on going on…we have loads of material to share and share we will.

I shall say it again…adoption is not our focus…our focus is to refute every lie that Joan Wheeler has said and is saying about us personally, collectively and as a family and take back our family honor that she sullied, if even she doesn’t understand what that means, we do and that’s all that matters. We will not discuss adoption, we don’t care about that. We only care of getting Joan Wheeler to stop her lying and hate campaigns against us.

We have had success in getting her libelous book pulled from publication May of 2011 and we have had success in exposing so much of Joan’s negative behavior that she has been pressured by us and others to remove mention of that libelous book off her main web site along with all those negative statements and lies about us on that main web site. NOW…if she would go the next step in removing the other 2 or 3 blogs of hate against us and dry up and go away…our jobs will be done. In the meanwhile, we have loads of stuff in the wings…winters can be long. That being said…please do take a look around, there are many interesting things on this blog and on Ruth’s.

update December 8, 2012…

This is who I am and what I believe…


  1. Hello gertmcqueen!

    Nice blog site, I shall read on.
    I’m also going to hop on the blog band waggon as my motto is: “Writers write.” Tell Dave “hey” for me!

    Michele G.

  2. Hey…Michele! from both me and Dave!
    well can’t imagine how you found me!…but glad you did
    keep me informed

  3. A side comment here- I wanted to thank you for your continued/support/faith in my writing and work. Whenever I see your icon come up as “liking” a post of mine- it brings a smile to me. thank you

  4. you’re welcome, Kim! you have great insights, the way that you present them, in words and pictures, come right to the core of an issue.

  5. I can’t believe what’s happening to you! World is truly unfair, makes me lose faith in humanity.

    • Yep sometimes the world, and some people in it, are unfair and downright nasty! But, it is not humanity that is a problem, it is only a certain type of ‘human’. I myself have a great sense of humanity and can put a lot of ‘nasty business’ into perspective. What is so difficult here is that it is blood that has done this to the entire family. That is why I and my other sister Ruth have our blogs. Thanks for reading and your comment.

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